Words are a form of action, capable of influencing change.”
— Ingrid Bengis
Sometimes we mindlessly go through our lives, we don’t pay attention to how our thoughts and feelings influence us.
What type of mentality set do we bring to our lives? How do we navigate our pain? How do we articulate our boundaries? What seeds are we planting? What are the seeds that every day go into our minds?
It’s important to remember, Unconscious people attract unconscious people and life events; being aware of our lives is crucial to experience a strong sense of autonomy and the possibility of change. We have to own our life and story.
Yes, we can take as much as lunar baths, and sage our rooms in the hope of changing our lives magically from day to night but if our mind is a volcano about to erupt or a pot full of toxic beliefs, we are destined to failure, not even palo santo can helps us.
We must use the power of our words and thoughts constructively and take action because where our attention goes our energy flows.
We live 100% of the time in our body so it’s our responsibility to determine who we are, what do We Want and the decisions that we want to make because they count and influence the present and future.
I believe the bellow insights are liberating not only to our creativity/art but to our lives in general and it’s important to remember.
Our art is the reflection of our life.
So, let’s get into them.
Nothing can bring you peace but yourself.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson
1. Do not let people’s opinions of you determine who you are
Since a young age, we were taught to depend on others for guidance, praise, etc. we are trapped in the dream of action and the fear of failure, we determine ourselves by the eyes of others.
Dependency or being influenced by other people’s opinion is a controlling device, we start to lose power over our lives. As Joseph Campbell beautifully saidꓽ
You have got to find the force inside you.”
Opening ourselves to our insights, inspiration, and guidance is crucial and it’s a lifelong commitment to ourselves.
I understand that sometimes or most of the time we need and want to be acknowledged by our attempts, but never should we feel stuck for compliments. It’s essential to learn to give affirmation to ourselves to move into our identity and a self-defined self.
We cannot expect applause from everybody, and that is why we have to be our number one “judge” and supporter of our work in the first place. It’s a way of gaining strength in our relationship to our work and ourselves.
We can’t allow the opinions of others dictate our self-worth.
Every time you don’t follow your inner guidance, you feel a loss of energy, loss of power, a sense of spiritual deadness.”
— Shakti Gawain
2. Create a system around your creativity/schedule your creativity
Yes, IT CAN SOUND BORING, but without structure and direction we lose focus. We don’t commit, and consequently wait eternally for inspiration to strike us; I believe it’s important to use action as our motivator, it’s more sustainable.
Building consistency and dedication every day, showing up to our art even for 20 minutes a day is beneficial. We get better, we learn from our mistakes and progress.
Creating time to show up to what you love and falling in love with the practice/process, it’s the best way to flourish our creativity and confidence in our practice.
3. Do what you love, make mistakes
It is said that to be an artist we must be willing to be a bad artist, and with time, we will be a good one.
By doing what we love, we are going to make mistakes. But this should not stop us; instead it motivates us to keep going.
Learning to fall, embracing failure, analyzing it, studying it and then getting back up and do better, that’s the way to opening ourselves to our insight, inspiration, and self-guidance.
Above all, by doing what we love, we are honoring ourselves and our dreams. We will never hate ourselves or die with regret for not trying.
To live a creative life, we must lose our fear of being wrong.”
— Joseph Chilton Pearce
4. Not everybody will like you or your job
We cannot control people’s tastes, ideas, decisions, actions, and moods.
Tastes differ, people like what they like and it is perfectly okay.
Do not let others determine what success is for you, and do not be discouraged if people do not like what you do. You have to like what you do first, and the rest will come naturally.
Focus on yourself and not on other people’s expectations and opinions of you.
5. Do not be envious of other’s art or process
You are you, being envious of other people is wasting time and energy on things you should not; instead of doing your work and learning about yourself, your dreams and taking action.
Yes, we can learn from envy because it is a tool for discovery (on what we see in the other person that we want or like), but it’s important to be careful. Sometimes we think we like something that somebody has, but it’s not true.
Subconsciously we have been conditioned to like a certain job or object because is socially valued and accepted. So we feel pressure to have it so we will be appreciated.
But this prevents us from going for what we want and love, and understanding ourselves on our real intentions.
We have to take maximal responsibility for our own life and our choices. We need to stop focusing on other people.
My father always tells me a nice proverb to live by in his local language Bitonga from Inhambane/Mozambique that goes like this:
ODZA SAGO, NINA ODZA SAGO.
The meaningꓽ eat what is yours and I’m going to eat what is mine without looking at your plate.
6. Practice attentive listening with your ears and senses
Listen to yourself, pay close attention to your feelings, give time to yourself; Design your days with intention and eliminate directionless, distractions.
Intentional living creates awareness and awareness produces focus and focus on yourself produces change, because you start making better decisions that will benefit you.
Learn to trust your perceptions.
7. Take action on what you learn
Shiny object syndrome is real. We like to accumulate knowledge just to say we know it and do nothing about it. James Clear said:
You do not need more information, you need to do the work.”
From what we want to learn, we need to purposefully choose our topic and don’t move on until we implement the book.
Decide what you are going to value, make questions like does this book contribute to my growth and learning? The why is very important. There are a lot of podcasts, books, and amazing info out there, but this can create decision fatigue. So it’s important to know what is important now and create a system of action.
8. Create a growth mindset
Our identity is not fixed, we can better ourselves if we don’t like who we are. Let’s do something about it. You achieve more in life when you have a growth mindset.
It’s very important to mind our words, pay attention to the things we say about ourselves to us and people.
When you speak loud about who you are, your unconscious mind will listen and imprint this belief.
Self-fulfilling prophecies, in negative and beneficial ways, can come true. It’s vital to redefine the relation to failure; it’s an opportunity to begin again, to learn, and this time more intelligently.
When we create a healthy response to things that go wrong, changing the situation becomes easier.
9. Be assertive with yourself
Choose very carefully what you allow in your life. From friendships, criticism, stupidity or negative energies from others. It’s important to be strong and not let in toxic beliefs and behaviors from others that want to disrupt or sabotage our process.
Make a list of things that you allow in your system that should be dumped. Don’t dismiss small ignorant attitudes of others. Protect your inner peace and have boundaries. Practice awareness and choice.
10. Release silencing your voice
Show up to your canvas or paper, do what you feel is your game changer in life. Trust your voice, speak up. I’s by doing that we gain more courage.
Wrong or good, do it.
We need to learn to embrace mistakes. It’s part of the process of growth and self-discovery.
11. Watch out who you seek for advice or criticism
Some people will want to shame you, ridicule, be vicious, and dismiss you. Search very carefully for your supporter’s circle of people that don’t judge you; that have compassion in their sleeves that are nurturing and capable of listening mindfully and growing together from mistakes.
Criticism that damage are full in this world. We need to learn to be self-protected.