We won’t cling — not to things, not to people. We won’t chase time, or try to hoard it. We won’t try to reverse days or slow the turning of the earth. We won’t live in anxiety about aging, arguing against mortality, or trying to game it. We will take each moment as it comes, you and I, and when it is time to give the gift of life back to the universe, we will say thank you, and we will give it back. But never, ever, ever — not on this side of the divide or the next — will we stop loving. Elizabeth Gilbert 

Who told you that where you are now is where you will always be?

Who gave you the idea that this feeling will remain as a companion for life?

Who told you that you failed? that you were not chosen?

Who told you that you had no right to ask for what you wanted, that you had no business being there in the first place?

Who told you that you did it wrong?

Who told you that there was a formula for life especially when you did the mediating, the chanting, the praying, the paying your taxes?

Who?

You get to choose.

You get to decide.

You get to stay.

You get to go.

There is no "Who" to tell you - take your time sweet one and breathe that in.

You are the Who.

You are the power

You are the love

You are the chosen

You are the peace

You are the formula.

It's You!

So my love, Now what?

Walk good in this reminder.

It seems like it was just yesterday when you walked across that stage and finally received your diploma. High school is now in the distant past. You’ve had the most wonderful hot-girl summer, free from thoughts of returning to those broken lockers and sticky lunchroom tables. Now, you’re excited to turn the page to your next chapter. College move-in day is basically here! You might think you’re perfectly prepared after checking most things off the dorm room must-haves list, but that’s only the tip of the iceberg. 

You’re about to start the transition into your grown-woman era. Take a moment to breathe, hydrate, and light a candle because it’s time to learn how to manifest a successful first year of college. 

Move-In Day

Moving into your dorm room can be more hectic than you might think. You’ve probably seen TikToks of first-year students showing off their freshly decorated rooms; complete with LED lights and the cutest color scheme. However, that’s not the norm. Your experience will be filled with crowded hallways and moving heavy furniture. The best course of action would be to arrive as early as you can. The most favorable scenario is you get there before your roommate. This will allow you to have the first choice of which bed, which side of the room you prefer, etc. You can start your decorating before they arrive with their family members and avoid the awkward silence that comes after the initial introductions while you’re both trying to arrange your belongings. 

You might even have time to relax a little bit and get used to your new space before having to share it with another person. With a head start, you might be done by the time they arrive and can offer to help unload the car. After all, first impressions are everything. You’ll want your relationship with your roommate to start on a good note.   

Perks Of Having Me As Your Roommate

Sharing a living space with a stranger can be anxiety-inducing and uncomfortable. You’ve heard horror stories about college roommates and you’re hoping you don’t get placed with someone you’re not compatible with. Well, the good news is, all you have to do to avoid this is stay on top of your move-in updates with your college or university. If the communication is solid, you’ll know who your roommate is before you move it! The resident life team works hard to get everything ready and organized for incoming students. If you don’t hear from them first, you can always reach out via email and inquire about your dorm and roommate assignment. 

Once you know who your roommate will be, add them on social media and send them a message to introduce yourself. This will allow the two of you to get to know each other and possibly plan together! If you feel comfortable sharing items like mini-fridge and TV, the two of you can agree on who will bring what. This saves space in the car and your room! 

Class Is In Session 

The next step for your manifestation of a good first year is to make sure you don’t fall behind. It’s likely your first semester will be filled with common curriculum courses. This just means you’ll have to take some basic subjects the university requires for graduation. This is different from the courses you’ll need to fulfill your major, but they are just as important. Pay attention to how many credits you’ll need to graduate on time because if you end up failing one of your common classes because you didn’t take it seriously, it’ll be more work to do later. You’ll end up splitting time between a class you just need to pass and the major-specific course you’re actually passionate about. 

If possible, try to determine whether a class will be doable for you early on. There might be more than one way to fulfill the requirement. For example, maybe you need a language requirement and originally signed up for Italian. You can always withdraw early and sign up for another language course that has open seats. Maybe Spanish comes easier to you because you took it in high school? Don’t discourage yourself from trying something new, but remember to categorize what’s urgent and what can be saved for later. 

How Many Chili Peppers? 

After you’ve chosen your classes, or even beforehand, you’ll want to research your instructors. Most college students use RMP (ratemyprofessor.com) when looking to get the real scoop on what it’s like to be in a class run by certain faculty. You can use this website to determine what you’re getting yourself into, who to avoid, and which professors to pursue. The reviews are written by real students who actually took classes with the professor. You can filter the reviews to learn if the professor gives good feedback, is responsive to emails, sets clear grading criteria, and whatever else is important to you. 

Some students prefer their professor to be easy on the eyes because it makes the class more enjoyable. RMP used to offer an option for students to essentially rate the attractiveness of their instructors. Professors with a high rating for attractiveness would have chili peppers displayed on their profiles. The website has retired this due to being criticized on social media with individuals expressing that the chili pepper contributes to a poor academic climate for women and is irrelevant to teaching.

Work-Life Balance

Once the semester has started and you’ve gotten the hang of your schedule and workload, there will be one more thing to consider. You’ll need to make sure you have a healthy work-life balance. This will be something that you’ll need to master beyond college. Yes, college is the time to set the foundation for your future career, but it’s also a time to have new experiences and meet new people. Do not spend all of your time cooped up in your room or at the library studying. Join a club that fits your interest and or is related to your major, go to campus social events, parties, football games, etc. 

You’ll want a supportive group of friends throughout your college years, and the only way to make them is to put yourself out there, take a break from coursework, and have some fun every once in a while. This will open the door for FOMO (fear of missing out) and peer pressure. But, you will learn how to set boundaries and say no to your new friends when they invite you to party till the sun comes up knowing you have a paper due tomorrow. 

Manifesting a successful first year of college will not be easy, but it will happen for you. You might make a few mistakes and have some regrets, but that’s all a part of the journey. You can conquer this next chapter of your life. You just have to affirm yourself and recognize how magical you are. You can do anything you put your mind to. Get ready to secure that degree, sis! You’ve got this! 

 

Disclaimer: The guidance provided in this article is merely a suggestion. The strategies and tips shared herein are based on general experiences and may not be suitable for every individual or situation. Readers are encouraged to exercise their discretion and consult with relevant professionals or advisors for personalized advice tailored to their specific circumstances. The author and publishers of this article disclaim any liability for any loss or damage arising directly or indirectly from the use of the information provided.

Originally published on RachaelYahne.substack.com, photography by Ashley Jo, Raw Photo & Film

To you

I wanted to write a goodbye letter for a while now, but we are millennials, and nobody writes letters anymore. If I sent a text, it would say delivered but I would never be sure if you read it. I used to tell my friends that I loved you. But maybe I imagined you. Maybe I imagined us dancing in the kitchen to some nineties loves song; laughing uncontrollably to some tired joke that had been laughed at before. Or maybe I imagined wearing your oversized shirt and swiping through endless pictures of our lives on my iPhone. But that is what they were. Figments of imagination. You were a blurb. A text of hey. A text of what’s up. An afternoon or a night of togetherness. Then weeks of looking at the phone. Hoping. Hoping. Hoping. Nothing. Seems foolish that the seasons would change but waiting by the phone stayed the same. Words like pathetic and embarrassing would flood my brain. Nights of dark playlists and tear-stained pillows. For a second, I thought I was dreaming. Maybe we never met. Maybe we never laughed. Maybe I never told you I disliked eggs. Maybe you never said life made you sad.

Ghosted.

That is what the kids call it nowadays. But it happens when you are in your thirties too. When you have a decent career. When you have semi solid friendships. It happens in your thirties.

I wrote this to originally tell you to forget I existed. To forget how my perfume smells. To forget how my hair looks in the morning. To forget me and you. But you have forgotten all those things already. You would have hoped that I forgot me and you already. I admit, for a while I kept looking at the phone again. For a while, I hoped you would call. For a while, I hoped you would come back. Now I know there is no coming back. This is not really a goodbye note since goodbye already happened without my consent. I liked you. I thought you were attractive. I thought you were cool. But I never needed you. I chose my own company over someone who could barely utter the words goodbye. I would never ghost myself.

At age 58, I still consider myself a girl-- more specifically, a small town girl who's always had a big dream to be a published author. And although I tried and failed many times, I still kept at it, and I still had hope.

When I first heard Words Matter Publishing was publishing my romance suspense series, The Vengeance Series, beginning with Deception & Consequences, I honestly thought I had it made. Now my books would sell themselves, and I could sit back and maybe write some more. Looking back now, I can see that I was clearly delusional.

I now understand exactly what my publisher meant when she said, "Now the hard work begins." At the time I thought that statement was in reference to her and her team, not understanding that I was the leader of that team and that being a dynamic part of promoting my book made the difference between sinking or swimming.

What did I know about marketing and advertising and sales? Can't someone else be in charge of that stuff? Well, I suppose, but this is MY dream. This is MY brand. This is ME investing in MYSELF because I believe that what I'm doing has potential and worth. Why would I put that treasure completely in someone else's hands? My publishing team is absolutely phenomenal, and I would be completely lost without them, but I have learned that selling books and growing a brand is big business that needs all-hands-on-deck, especially the hands that wrote the books.

In addition to being completely humbled by my delusions, the next most critical piece of information I learned is that small town girls need their small towns to get behind them. Small town girls need the wisdom and the networking savvy that other small businesses bring to the table. Even though these people knew me, were eager to help, and wanted nothing in return, I didn't want to come to the table empty handed. So I got to thinking: What can I offer them? And it was this question that led to a series of small business collaborations that have jumpstarted my book sales and the familiarity of my brand.

When I pitched a competition among three local bars to see who could sell the most books in the month of March, all three bar owners went for it without batting an eye. And while books aren't usually paired with bars, we all thought that was the hook of the whole project. I obviously got sales, and the bars got social media and local media coverage as well as a reason to do a little friendly 'trash talking.' And what did the patrons receive? Everyone who bought a book got a custom plastic cup and a drink chip, plus a chance to win $250 at the end of the promotion.

This was a simple idea that united four small businesses with some friendly competition. The uniqueness of the promotion and my implementation as the author from the small town made this project work. For the month of March, everyone was talking about Books & Brews, and that meant everyone was talking about my book and the bars involved. That's the power of collaboration.

Since my success with Books & Brews, I have paired with other small businesses, sometimes quite accidentally. For example, I frequently give the boutique where I buy a lot of my clothes shout outs on social media, but a lot of people do that. Let me explain though, that this simple act became something much larger when the boutique owner asked if I wanted to have an After Hours Party with friends and family, and I decided, 'why not'?

The evening was a huge success, and it turned out that most of the people I invited had never been in the shop, and they all bought something. To me, and definitely to the shop owner, that detail translated to new regular customers. As a result of their sales that night, I got store credit, which allowed me to buy two new outfits for my upcoming book launch. Then all four ladies working overtime that night bought one of my books. And that's not all. The next morning I woke up to a tremendous Facebook pump by the store owner who posted a picture of my book and gave me a stellar write up, introducing me to her entire list of Facebook friends. This whole chain reaction of exposure was not planned. It just happened, and it's one more example, proving that no one can truly succeed on their own. We all need a little bit of what others can give.

Looking back on my earlier attempts at writing success, I now see the error of my ways. I needed more support. I know I never would have gotten this far this time without the help and encouragement of so many others. My point is simple. If you truly want to catch your big dreams instead of just keep chasing them, don't be so proud and think that you can do it all by yourself. Collaboration is the building block of success. If you have something to give that will help someone else, give it and they will respond by also helping you. The end result just might put your big dream within reach.

 

In a world where cultural understanding and inclusivity are more important than ever, Mayra Gomez-Sanchez has turned her personal journey and passion into a powerful force for change. As the founder of Cultural Visionaries, she bridges gaps through her unique blend of social awareness and copywriting expertise. From her experiences growing up in a traditional Mexican household to her transformative college years and impactful teaching career, Mayra’s story is a testament to resilience, growth, and the unwavering belief in the power of words to bring people together. Her mission: to make marketing more inclusive and authentic, ensuring that every voice, especially those from marginalized communities, is heard and valued.

What inspired you to create Cultural Visionaries?

Throughout my life, I've come across inspirational leaders fighting to create positive change in their communities. I’ve also experienced being an “outsider” in social aspects because of how I look and talk.

Each end of the spectrum has made me realize the gap we have in building relationships with one another - and it comes down to culture - whether we want to see it or not.

In the world of marketing, especially in today’s diverse world - it’s vital that we close that cultural gap so BIPOC leaders fighting to create positive change AND non-BIPOC leaders wanting to understand how to connect with the diverse community, can come together and make marketing feel inclusive for everyone. 

Marketing is more important than we may put thought into. Think about it. Everyone is online and follows behaviors based on what they read, see, and hear. If we make conscious decisions about how and what is being put out to the world, we have a better chance at influencing the minds of others in seeing each other in the best light - while still selling our products and services in an authentic way.

There’s so many visionaries out there. 

I wanted to add my social awareness into the mix with the copy I write - leading to my creation of Cultural Visionaries. 

Can you share a bit about your personal story and how it influenced your work?

Of course! I’ve always been socially aware and I think it comes from my upbringing. I grew up in a traditional Mexican household as the eldest of two daughters. I’m second-generation culturally, and first-generation in higher education. 

Growing up, we spoke English and Spanish, though my Spanish was always on the “pocha” side (a degrading term used by many Latin American communities when someone does not speak Spanish fluently).

I felt ashamed for not knowing it “well” enough, but also felt not as Americanized because I couldn’t relate to social dynamics seen on t.v. 

It was like I was stuck in two worlds - and I wasn’t a part of either of them.

Seeking some form of identity, I made an effort to be closer to my roots in college. I didn’t have the resources or tools to “succeed” once I got there, but I did have the ánimo (spirit) to look for it.

I did that by doing three things:

1. Educational resources - I joined S.T.E.P (summer transitional enrichment program) at UC Santa Barbara and took classes, met other first generation college students, and interacted with BIPOC counselors. It was so nice to meet others who went through similar experiences - plus speaking to the counselors gave me hope that I could stay in college. I stayed in touch with them so much that by my senior year I became a mentor for the Education Opportunity Program and co-led events for the Asian Resource Center. 

2. Social resources - I joined a multicultural sorority, Sigma Lambda Gamma, and met other empowered females from all walks of life. One of the 5 pillars that stood out to me was cultural awareness because I’ve never seen a sorority put so much focus on learning about other people’s cultures! It gave me more perspective in my sisters’ experiences, widening my view of the world as I initially saw it.

3. Sociology courses - These experiences took me on the path of taking sociology courses, which eventually led me to majoring in it. I learned so much about the behavior of humans and institutions, that it forged a path to my first career after college - being an elementary teacher. 

As an elementary teacher, I taught in the wealthy and not so wealthy zip codes. The differences were immediately apparent. One side had the high end tech and books, above grade level students, and interactive parents who chose the times they worked - or didn’t work at all. The other side barely had enough money to give students pencils, most kids were below grade level, and parents were difficult to contact because they were working day and night. 

It hurt my heart that I could only do so much - and it hurt more to see how a zip code made all the difference in a child’s educational experience. 

As much as I loved the students, the institution was far greater than me (for now), and my mental health dwindled. It got to the point that I had to put myself first and step away from teaching so that I could help myself get back to me. 

It was one of the hardest decisions I’ve ever made, but it led me to a new phase of my life - helping to close the gaps to everything I’ve experienced up to this point. 

When I decided to get into copywriting, I knew that my unique selling proposition would be based on diversity. From my upbringing, to college, to being a teacher, there was a theme - sociocultural and economic divides. Not enough people were willing to listen and learn from one another, not enough people experiencing being an “outsider” were talking, there just wasn’t enough people.

So that’s why I chose to make sure my copywriting business was based on bringing people of sociocultural and economic differences together through the power of impactful words.

And what better way to do that on a larger scale than through marketing!

My copy has become a ripple effect in helping business owners, their audience, and their audience’s audience see themselves in services and products. My hope is that it reaches such a large scale that eventually my words can come across large corporations and politicians in aiding to the inequality we still see today. 

What were some of the challenges or struggles you faced in establishing Cultural Visionaries?

My mindset was probably the biggest challenge I’ve faced in establishing my copywriting business. 

For 29 years of my life I thought adulthood meant:

1. Go to college

2. Get a job

3. Do that job until I'm 65

4. Retire

I did numbers 1-3 for the first decade of adulthood only to realize I was unhappy, unmotivated, and uninspired.

Basically, I felt stuck and thought, "Is this it?"

The subconscious thought I put on myself  went along the lines of, “Once you get into a career, you need to stick with it forever. If you don’t, you fail.”

I don’t know where that thought stemmed from, but it literally drove me to the ground. 

I also thought that if I became a business owner, it would make me selfish and greedy. Coming from generations of scarcity, it was only common to have this way of thinking too. But it’s not my family's fault. They did everything right in making sure we had what we needed. I'm beyond grateful. But I also see that I'm on a different playing field and should take that to my advantage — not only for myself, but to give back to my familia as well. 

On the topic of money mindset, I believed that if I attempted to learn something new outside of my craft, it would lead to more never-ending debt.  My anxiety used to tell me "Do what's comfortable and you'll be safe." But safety wasn't taking me where I wanted to be. Investing in being a copywriter has made me create income I never thought I could gain AND led to a better version of myself.

After some mindset work and surrounding myself with other entrepreneurs, I finally turned a page and tuned into the small spark of curiosity that lingered in my mind…

“But what if I did it anyway?“

And here we are.

Today I sit at my wooden kitchen table, looking out my window to feel the warm sun shining down on my face.

It’s quiet, comfortable, and peaceful.

It’s not always like this though. There’s a roller coaster of emotions on the backend – to say I wasn’t stressed today would be a lie.

But thankfully, I’ve been overcoming these mental blocks by surrounding myself with fierce change makers who’ve been amazing at sharing resources for continued growth on this journey.

Some of these resources look like:

Trademarking ™️ - Don’t even get me started on the legal side of running a business. I linked with @legalmiga – thanks to the power of Instagram connections - Cultural Visionaries is in process for trademarking.

Accessing Capital - Dinero/ money. We all need it, but how do we get it? It’s been so great being part of @nasdaqcenter and @entreprenistas . Through these memberships, I’ve been able to participate in powerful workshops geared towards pitching and grant application procedures.

Quarterly Goal Planning – What a difference it makes and creating attainable and measurable goals every three months! Thanks to @kristin.macintyre I’ve learned about:

Locating my north star

Checking in with my feelings

Identifying my goals, projects, and tasks

Charting these goals, using the project priority matrix

On this journey I’ve learned that when you treat people well, are willing to learn, and give yourself grace on those extra hard days, you will make it. You just need to have patience and a little bit of faith. But trust me, I still practice this daily.

What advice would you give to other women looking to start their own businesses or creative projects?

I would say to start reaching out to your network of people in your niche and be ready to learn from them. This can look like a coffee chat in person or online where you ask them questions about how they got started and what steps they took to get to where they are now. 

I’d also create a spreadsheet of the people you’ve had chats with and take down any notes or resources that you find helpful and check those resources out!

The takeaway here is to never stop asking questions. 

How do you balance your personal life with running Cultural Visionaries?

I like schedules because they keep me sane. What I like to do is create “tasks” on my Google Calendar and type in movement breaks in between work to avoid fatigue. Google calendar will notify me 10 minutes before my next task to “talk a walk, go to the gym, or stretch.” 

I also like to end at a certain time everyday and make any notes of what didn’t get finished to start with the next day.

Once I close that laptop I take my dog, Coco, to the neighborhood park where my neighbors and their dogs meet up daily. It’s so nice to get some fresh air, sunshine, and see all the pups play together!

Can you share a memorable success story or achievement related to your work with Cultural Visionaries?

YES! Through consistent networking, I was able to be part of the Nasdaq Entrepreneurial Center Milestone Circles Program where I joined other female founders in a 3 month biweekly series on setting the foundation to our businesses. My graduation from the program allowed me to be featured in Times Square. I never thought I’d ever be on those big screens so to see my face up there with other change makers really made me proud. 

What impact do you hope Cultural Visionaries will have on diverse communities and the media?

My hope is that Cultural Visionaris becomes the go-to multicultural copywriting agency where business owners from all walks of life can feel comfortable coming to for authentic copy. By utilizing my agency, and the social awareness it upholds, I hope marketing can feel more inclusive to the diverse public - making them want to be part of today’s socially conscious brands. I also hope the media takes note of the positive change happening in marketing and showcases it for the world to see so that we can continue the ripple effect of growth in closing the cultural gap. 

How do you stay motivated and inspired in your work?

I stay motivated and inspired by continuing to surround myself with entrepreneurs wanting to create products or services that bring people some form of happiness. Their passion shines through when I speak to them, which then gives me passion to keep going. 

What strategies do you use to promote diversity and inclusion within your business?

In order to promote diversity and inclusion in my copywriting business, I try to be mindful of making inclusive content. That means I’m aware that when I use images and visuals on my social platforms, they accurately reflect diverse groups. I’m also constantly thinking about my use of inclusive language. I do my best to avoid stereotypes and use language that is respectful. When writing, I’m mindful of cultural differences and create content that respects and acknowledges the wide range of people coming from various socioeconomic backgrounds.

How do you see the future of Cultural Visionaries evolving, and what are your goals for its growth?

I see Cultural Visionaries gaining more BIPOC copywriters in the next 2-5 years. With more BIPOC copywriters, there will be more culturally aware storytellers ready to tell the story of various brands and businesses on a larger scale. I can’t wait for more businesses to share their voice with Cultural Visionaries and reach more of the diverse public. 

What role do you believe storytelling plays in shaping perceptions and breaking stereotypes?

Authentic storytelling allows us to humanize experiences. When done right, you can personally connect with your audience and truly see them as an individual rather than a stereotype. Including emotion within the story also helps in creating a deeper understanding and empathy for those who’ve experienced situations or perspectives different from ourselves. It’s with storytelling from marginalized voices that we can provide a platform for others to share their experiences, leading to more visibility and understanding from society as a whole. Amplifying these voices are what can challenge mainstream narratives in marketing. 

How can individuals support or get involved with the mission of Cultural Visionaries?

You can spread the word of my mission by sharing this interview on your social platforms and email lists, following me on Instagram @cultural_visionaries_, LinkedIn (Mayra Gomez - Sanchez), and joining my email list via my website: mayragsanchezagency.com. You’ll get a free launch checklist when you become part of my email community, get tips on business and copy, and no spam!

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Meet Cydney Irby, a visionary entrepreneur, writer, and advocate for audacious living. In our conversation, she shares her journey from stumbling into photography as a teenager to founding her own business and embracing audacity as a guiding principle. Through challenges like imposter syndrome and a transformative year in 2024, Cydney discovered the power of self-care, collaboration, and staying true to her purpose. Her story is a testament to the limitless potential within each of us and the importance of pursuing dreams with heart and intention. Join us as we delve into Cydney's insights, lessons learned, and aspirations for a life filled with joy, harmony, and meaningful success.

What inspired you to write "The Year of Audacity in the Name of Good"?

While the book is still being written, the concept first came about after living through 2023, which was the Year of Audacity in the worst way. While healing from a breakup and trying to determine what I wanted out of life, I deemed 2024 would be "The Year of Audacity in the Name of Good" amongst a few friends. It was about going all in on our dreams, what we want in our lives, and tapping into our limitless potential. 

This would be confirmed later publicly in a Monday Motivation video I created for socials where I'm eating tiramisu, one of my favorite desserts, for breakfast and enjoying a cup of espresso. 

Could you share a bit about your personal journey that led to founding your business at such a young age?

I stumbled into my first business in my late teens when I took up photography. I was only photographing my mom's garden and creating self-portraits when my parents noticed my passion for it and bought me my first point-and-shoot camera. From there, I started coming up with creative photo sessions with friends and was asked to capture Senior Portraits for my best friend who was a year younger than me. Her mom actually surprised me with payment for them as a show of gratitude and that sparked the creation of my photography business. 

From there, I would always find my back to entrepreneurship. I became a founder of social hubs, like Dream On Youth, at age 22 with larger-than-life missions during my early years of college and a freelancer at age 30.

What were some of the biggest struggles or challenges you faced during your transformative year in 2024?

I would say the biggest struggle was my faith in my abilities and knowledge - most people probably know this as that pesky imposter syndrome - and even that I could succeed in the path of entrepreneurship, especially with being unemployed unexpectedly in late February. I'm a spiritual and optimistic woman, and still, there have been many tear, fear, and doubt-filled nights in these last few months. It's all worth it. It just doesn't make it less hard to walk through. 

How did you navigate these challenges, and what lessons did you learn from them?

Overall, having a solid support system makes so much of this journey we call life more beautiful. While I have the most supportive family, it also helps to have a solid group of friends who are also pursuing entrepreneurship. We're all at different seasons in our journey, but the support is unmatched. We cheer each other on personally and professionally. No jealously. No competition. Just good vibes.

A few lessons I learned during this very transformative chapter:

You are not for everyone and you are not everyone's forever so do everything with heart and good intentions.

Do not bulldoze your emotions. While feelings aren't facts, they are valid. Honestly, they're often your body or mind trying to tell you something. 

When you have self-love, you are never without love. When you have self-discipline, you have the key to success.

Your purpose in life is to be wholeheartedly, authentically you. There will never be another you. Embrace it. Enjoy it.

In your opinion, what role does audacity play in pursuing one's passions and goals?

It plays a huge role in your success when it comes to one's passions and goals, especially as an entrepreneur. To have audacity is to be bold and understand you don't need external validation, you need will, wisdom, and heart. Where there is a will, there is a way. 

What advice do you have for other young women looking to start their own businesses or creative projects?

People often tell you to put blinders on and don't follow the people doing something similar to you. I say this: There's room for us all to win so when you do follow others who inspire you that may be in the same industry, you create an opportunity for connection and find new ways to benefit communities you love. Collaboration is key, especially when first starting to build your business or pursue a creative project. 

In the same breath, trust your intuition and if something, someone, or an environment feels off, know you have the authority to make an exit.

Can you tell us about a particularly impactful moment or experience that shaped your perspective or approach to life and work?

Probably my injury in 2023 when I suffered vertigo after getting severe heat exhaustion at my very first Bonnaroo during my Year of Music. It's not the first impactful moment or experience I've had, but it was the most significant. 

I couldn't get out of the bed for about 2 days without the room spinning. I couldn't drive or write for weeks, nor walk in a straight line, and yet was still working. Thankfully I was living with a friend at the time so I had assistance at home, but it was terrifying. 

I cried about how I couldn't write since all I ever wanted to do was compose music and write books. I cried over failing to take care of my body and my mind. I grieved over who I had been and would turn to my faith to try to get my life back in order through sheer will and discipline.

It was then I vowed to become the love of my life and stop letting work rule my time. I would heal my body through dance, which has been a favorite hidden hobby since I was little that I've done in the privacy of my home, and vow to start doing more things alone, simply because I wanted to enjoy the life I was building while I built it. 

How do you balance ambition and self-care, especially during times of intense growth or change?

Before all the many nicknames I've gotten over the years, I was known as the Queen of Self-Care. I've been learning how to self-care and what that looked like from season to season since my early 20s, probably before that. Obviously, I have seasons where I'm not great at it, but I always look at it as a proactive practice of love and discipline. 

If I say my self-care is a 10 of the scale of importance but I let my ambition bulldoze every moment of rest, play, and peace I get, that's not work-life harmony. It's not about having a perfect balance, it's about "what does this season look for me and where can I afford to add moments for myself?"

Because if we don't take the time to rest, our bodies and minds will do it for us, and it won't be at times when it's convenient.

So I take the time to set self-care time in my schedule as much as I set up a work schedule, and Sundays are for Sabbath. It's extremely rare nowadays you'll catch me working on a Sunday. 

What does success mean to you personally, and how has that definition evolved over time?

Success for me is joy, harmony, and wealth in all its forms. There are 8 dimensions of wellness - physical, emotional, occupational, spiritual, intellectual, environmental, social, and financial - so that's what I equate to wealth. That sense of everything is working together in my favor in all areas of my life even if from the outside looking in, it doesn't seem like it.

Are there any specific individuals or influences that have significantly shaped your journey and outlook?

My immediate family - mom, dad, and brother are the first 3 people that came to mind. From there, all the incredible people currently in my circle that I talk to on the regular. I've been showered with a lot of love throughout my lifetime, but especially within the last year or so and I'm eternally grateful.  

What do you hope readers will take away from your book?

That the only limitation they have in life is themselves. 

I know there are systems and other things stacked against us. As a Black woman in America who willingly chose to pursue freelancing after her corporate career, trust me, I know. 

I'm not saying to ignore those things and live in a land of delusion. Anything is possible and you can start over as many times as you need to. That's the beautiful thing about life. 

People will say things are not possible because they have never seen it done before, especially people around you, and yet someone out there has the vision for it. Someone has the heart for it. Someone has the will for it and will find a way. And that someone is probably you. 

How do you stay motivated and inspired during periods of uncertainty or doubt?

Music! 

Like I said, I started a Year of Music last year in late April where every month I was determined to experience something music-related and it's basically a lifetime thing now. Whenever I feel off or need a pick-me-up, I'm turning on some music. It may be spiritual, it may be secular cause I need to shake something or belt it out. It may even be Disney songs cause I'm a big kid at heart. 

Any way you slice it, if there's a single day I go without enjoying music whether I'm trying to motivate myself or get a bit of inspiration, someone check my temperature please. 

Could you share a bit about your creative process when writing or working on new projects?

I'm a gardener so what I like to do, after I've listened to music, is go outside and enjoy my container gardener, usually lay in the sun with my cat. I let my mind wander until an idea pops up and hopefully, I have a notebook, my phone, or my laptop nearby to capture whatever is happening. 

If I need to work on something inside, I'm throwing on some Lofi music to work too because if I hear lyrics, I am going to put on an entire one-woman show in my living room and I'd like to give my cat some peace sometimes. 

What are some key values or principles that guide both your personal life and your professional endeavors?

• Key Principles:
  
  Treat everyone you meet with kindness. You never know what kind of day they're having.
  Do everything with heart and you will always be highly favored.
  Discipline is the highest form of self-love. Act accordingly. 
  Be audacious and bold with your dreams, and learn the art of the pivot.
  
• Key Values:
  
  Compassion, Integrity, Respect, Creativity, Growth

Looking ahead, what are your aspirations or goals for the future, both personally and professionally?

I genuinely want to do life with the people I love and enjoy the life I'm building, whatever that looks like. No two days look the same so putting a concrete aspiration or goal outside of that just feels off. 

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Meet Molly Boysen, the creative force behind Disco Dream Studio, a vibrant haven that channels the colorful aesthetics and free-spirited vibes of the 60s and 70s. Molly's journey into the world of art and design was fueled by her deep admiration for the psychedelic and hippie culture, reflecting her own values of love, freedom, and positivity. In this interview, she shares insights into her personal journey, creative process, and the challenges she's overcome as a woman in the creative industry. Get ready to be inspired by Molly's passion and determination to create art that not only makes a statement but also spreads joy and positivity in today's world.

What drew you to the vibrant and colorful aesthetics of the 60s and 70s, particularly the psychedelic and hippie culture?

Throughout my life, I’ve always seen myself as a “hippie”; I love to love freely, especially nature, animals, and people. I love everything that the hippie movement stands for, and I think elements of the hippie revolution strangely mirror that of today’s: the revolutions of spirituality, human rights, and freedom. The colorful aesthetics of that era match it perfectly; it’s bold, in your face, and gives you a sense of strong emotion. For me, I knew that’s what I wanted my art to convey; I wanted it to stand out in your mind and make a statement, but also evoke a sense of positivity through bright colors and imagery.

Could you share a bit about your personal journey and how it led you to establish Disco Dream Studio?

I’ve always loved art in some shape or form, and in making art for many years now, anything I’ve created has been an extension of myself. For a while during the pandemic, I took a break to focus on my personal life and my career. When I returned to art, I wanted to create an art studio similar to that of 60s/70s art and culture because I not only admired that period of time, but I also wanted to make it a part of today’s world too. By establishing Disco Dream Studio, I can now not only make my own art, but create a vision for others, whether that be for their own businesses or simply for their own enjoyment.

Could you describe your creative process and how you translate inspiration into tangible artworks or designs?

It’s hard to describe patterns of all pieces I create, since some are so different from others, but generally a vision board has been the most helpful for me in making my pieces. I take quotes that inspire me, photography I find, and even other artwork and utilize elements of it as inspiration for my art pieces. Sometimes ideas come to me randomly, but other times I have an experience in my personal life that allows me to create something. Several of my pieces have even been inspired by my own dreams at night.

How do you stay inspired and motivated in your work, especially during challenging times?

At times it can certainly be a challenge to stay inspired and motivated, but I think allowing those time periods where I feel those things is so important. In the time period of social media, creators constantly feel the pressure to create and post in order to stay relevant, even if it means quantity over quality. At first, I admit this pressure got to me, but instead I now choose to live out those breaks and only post what truly represents my vision. During the past several months, when I feel less inspired, I’ve taken it as an opportunity to try out new challenges and take risks in my creations, which has felt really good and has helped me to reach new heights in my success.

Have you encountered any gender-related challenges in your career, and if so, how have you navigated through them?

Although there have been many men that have been supportive of my art, I’ve also encountered many instances of misogyny and even jealousy from men due to my success. There were many times where it was discouraging, especially early on as an artist when I felt insecure in my skills and in what I wanted to create. However, through these challenges I’ve found that I’ve only become stronger. The misogyny women face in the creative industry is not just a personal issue, but a systemic one, and if I was to give up on my goals, I would only be giving in and letting the obstacles defeat me. I hope that by continuing on, despite whatever criticism I face from men, that I can inspire other women to keep going and pursue their dreams.

How do you see the future of Disco Dream Studio evolving, and what are your goals for the coming years?

In the coming years, I hope to first gain some traction for my personal pieces, make connections with other artists, and ideally offer some commissions. Over time, my goal is to create pieces involving my art, with my biggest goal being to create my own fashion line, and maybe even homewares and other products. I’m open to seeing where the world takes me, but this is my general path forward.

What advice would you give to other women looking to pursue their passion in the creative industry?

Be your own best friend and advocate for your work! When I first started, I felt a little silly posting about my own artwork and promoting myself, but nobody can truly do it the way you can. And if you don’t obsess over your own amazing work, who will? Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there!

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Discover the transformative journey of Rachel Drehmel, a visionary in the fashion industry who transitioned from corporate success to founding her own brand, racheldrehmelnyc. Through collaboration with industry leaders and a commitment to self-care, Rachel not only overcame burnout but also crafted a brand focused on bringing hygge lifestyle to the bustling streets of New York City. Her insights on brand identity, visual strategy, and future aspirations offer a beacon of inspiration for aspiring entrepreneurs looking to carve their path in competitive industries. Join us as Rachel shares her story of passion, resilience, and the power of storytelling in shaping a thriving business.

Can you share more about your personal journey from working in the corporate fashion industry to starting your own brand?

The corporate fashion industry brought an important mentor and friend into my life who propelled me to start my business. Emily Volaski, founder of the elevated jewelry brand, SKN Collections, as well as the VP at my corporate job, asked me to collaborate on a 2023 summer collection followed by a photoshoot in the heart of NYC. This opened up a whole new world of high level design where I was able to reach heights I hadn’t before. Collaborating with someone so skilled, talented, and experienced, was pivotal for my personal growth and the evolution of my brand. Emily and I have connected over numerous coffee dates and phone calls, consisting of her sharing her knowledge with me. I owe much of what I've learned to her dedication and care. I’m lucky enough to work with Emily daily in a corporate setting and continue our collaborative relationship.

Secondly, moving to NYC to climb the corporate ladder of success had been my “dream!” I entered the corporate fashion industry 2 years ago with lots of ambition and drive for my career. Now, I’ve realized it’s not my end goal to work in a corporate setting, but rather design for my own brand. I want to say - it’s ok to change your mind. Life is a journey that’s unfolding in real time. Give yourself permission to dream something new!

How did you overcome fatigue and burnout while pursuing your dream in New York City?

Truthfully, overcoming fatigue and burnout is an ongoing endeavor. This endeavor is the inspiration for emphasizing rest and self-care in my brand’s ethos. My brand focuses on having a hygge lifestyle in New York City. It’s about resting in the city that “never sleeps.” There was a pivotal morning before work where I experienced a stress induced panic attack. Through that difficult time, I realized stress catches up, if you aren’t proactive in self-care. That day and any version of that day since, has been a reminder that I can’t push through life without pausing and reflecting. Through feeling intense moments of fatigue and burnout, I’ve learned coping mechanisms through therapy, meditation, and prayer, to keep my body and mind in homeostasis. It is a continued goal of mine to promote a healthy balance of self-care and work life.

What advice would you give to other women looking to start their own businesses, especially in competitive industries like fashion?

1. Understand your brand’s identity and revisit it often. Remind yourself why you started the brand and why it's important. If you don’t understand your brand, no one will.
   
2. Ask yourself questions: 1) “Who are the influencers and brands I want to be associated with?” 2) “What other products go well with mine?” 3) “What story am I trying to create with my products?” Place yourself alongside these products to pinpoint your ideal customer. I recommend placing products you want to be associated with in your product’s photography. For me, I love to photograph my accessories with Hailey Bieber’s Rhode product. Paint your brand’s picture!
   
3. Develop a visual strategy to represent your brand on social media. I have used a few different strategies for content that have benefitted my brand. 1) There’s professional photoshoots, such as editorial photos, Product Detail Pages (PDP), and behind-the-scenes (BTS) footage. In my experience, consumers positively react to organic content like BTS footage. PDP is important to show consumers exactly what the product is, whereas editorial photos show your product in an emotional, story driven way. 2) There’s self shot content, which are photos of products shared from the lens of the designer/brand owner. These photos are great for Instagram fillers and they're cost effective for those just starting out! 3) There’s content from your consumers. Not every consumer will portray your brand the way you intend, so it’s important to build your vision strongly and “create” your dream consumer. In other words, you want to market to your ideal consumers so that they not only reflect your brand in the way you intend, but also in a way that's organic to them and reflects your brand positively. 
   

What are your future plans and aspirations for racheldrehmelnyc?

This question makes me so excited! The future plans of racheldrehmelnyc involve becoming the leading lifestyle brand for health & wellness. I want my brand to feel like brewing coffee on a brisk, early morning with the window open; Like an evening after a productive day with the lights dim, music low, doing whatever her heart desires. That's the story I want to portray. See, I told you to tell a story! 

To achieve greater heights, I have a few current strategies. Firstly, there are “IT” girls (celebrities and influencers) that I keep on my radar who encompass my brand values. It’s one of my brand milestones to get my product in their hands and as a result, gain loyal customers. Secondly, I’d love to begin working with a factory to expand beyond accessories. Bringing in intimates and loungewear is my next step. Lastly, I have a few pop-up shops scheduled, which I’m thrilled about! Come see me at LoveShackFancy in NYC this summer! More information will be shared on the racheldrehmelnyc Instagram.

Could you share a memorable customer story or feedback that reaffirmed your passion for your business?

Ever since moving to New York, I’ve been told I portray the city in a peaceful way. People are often intimidated by NYC, but I’ve been pleasantly surprised to hear how my brand has allowed people to warm up to its charm. 

A memorable story from a pop-up shop comes to mind. I was at my first pop-up shop last year at Rockaway Beach and a customer came up to my booth. She emphasized that I had a peaceful aura and said something along the lines of “I can tell that’s what you’re truly after.” It was surprising for a stranger, who I had just met minutes ago, to reaffirm my brand’s goal for restfulness. Sometimes, it’s the people around you or even the stranger you’ve known for 3 minutes that recognize your strengths and help you realize the power you hold.

Lastly, how can aspiring entrepreneurs connect with you or learn more about your brand?

To any aspiring entrepreneurs, my email (rachel.drehmel@gmail) or instagram dm’s (@racheldrehmelnyc) are always open. I love the way social media brings about community and love to connect! Please don’t hesitate to reach out <3

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Discover the empowering journey of Olivia Wilder, author of "To Pick a Violet," as she shares her personal story of resilience, postpartum anxiety, and finding healing through writing. Olivia's initial inspiration for her book came during her teenage years, but it wasn't until facing her own struggles with postpartum anxiety and PTSD that the story truly came to life. Through late-night writing sessions and embracing imperfection, Olivia crafted a narrative filled with bravery, healing, and the magic of overcoming internal battles. Join us as Olivia dives into the themes of her book, offers advice to others facing similar challenges, and shares her plans for future literary adventures.

What inspired you to start writing "To Pick a Violet"?

The basic plot for To Pick a Violet came to me when I was 18, and I couldn't get it out of my head. Despite this, it just seemed flat, there wasn't a "why" that was answered by the end of the storyline I had in mind. Sure, it was fun and an adventure, but I am the type that I needed there to be some type of message or meaning to it by the end, and I just couldn't find something that resonated with me. 

After giving birth to my son, I found myself deep within the trenches of postpartum anxiety and PTSD from a difficult delivery. I revisited this story that had bounced around in my head for just under a decade and began writing it on my phone during nighttime nursing sessions and naptimes as a way to process my thoughts and pass the time. I never truly meant for it to become a published book, but by the end it was a story I believed in and knew I had to share with the world. 

Could you share more about your personal story and how it influenced the themes in your book? 

I found out I was expecting my son when I was 24 years old and was absolutely thrilled to be welcoming him into our family. My husband was deployed throughout the majority of my pregnancy and to ensure that my husband would be able to be there for the birth of our first child, I was scheduled to be induced. My induction was a long and arduous process, but again I was more excited to meet my son than I was bothered by the discomfort. When it came time to begin pushing I began to feel like something was wrong. 

I became overwhelmed with the feeling that I was going to die. I was heartbroken by the thought that I would not see my son take his first steps or hear his first words. After he was placed on my chest I began to notice that he was not crying and had begun to grow dark in color. I alerted the nurses and they took him away from me to a corner. I remember looking at my hand that had held him and it was covered in blood, dripping with it. My son had his umbilical cord around his neck when he was born, but fortunately, the nurses were able to help him take his first breaths fairly easily. 

While the nurses were caring for my son and then allowing my husband to hold him, another nurse and my doctor was tending to me. I had began hemorrhaging after delivery. and I was becoming more and more fatigued by the second. Holding my eyes open was a chore, but despite not being told what was happening, I continued to feel that if I closed my eyes I would not open them again. I fought with every ounce of energy I had to hold my eyes open and stay present with my son and family.

After receiving a shot and internal fundal massage, the doctor was able to stop my bleeding. Because my hemorrhage and tearing I had a difficult recovery, and my husband had to return to his deployment a mere three weeks after my son was born. Alone with my child and still recovering I became increasingly overwhelmed by fear of something happening to me or my child outside my control. 

I would later attend therapy where they helped me realize that my trauma and experience with my son had contributed to my postpartum PTSD/anxiety.

To help process these fears and the trauma of what happened I began writing about this kind-hearted princess who had experienced her own trauma and was overwhelmed by her fears. She wasn't a conventionally strong character, but because she faced her fears and continued in the face of them she was brave. It helped me to feel less alone in my own struggles and to see my own bravery through the character when I felt anything but brave. 

How did you navigate postpartum anxiety and PTSD while juggling motherhood and writing?

In truth, in the beginning, I didn't have a choice but to keep going. My husband was deployed and there was this tiny human that needed me for everything. I didn't have time to do anything but to keep taking a step forward day by day. Writing during my son's naptimes and during those late-night nursing sessions gave me time to think adult thoughts and process those scary feelings in a way that was safe. Writing wasn't always done in the "ideal" environment, often it was done in the darkness on my cell phone. As a new mom and a working mom, I took whatever seconds of opportunity that came to me, even if it didn't look like the typical author in the moment. But through letting go of those perfections and giving myself the chance to write for the enjoyment of it and not for the perfect standard, I was able to create this beautiful story that I believed in and that I was proud to publish.

What role did healing and plant magic play in shaping the narrative of your book?

If you think of plant and healing magic, they are both gifts that are nurturing in their essence. My main character's strength is not found in her ability to use her gifts in a violent fashion, but the ability to heal and bring hope. To Pick a Violet is a story about a prince and princess coming together to end a century-long war, but it's also an internal journey of my character - taking her own struggles, fears, and traumas and overcoming them. 

What advice would you give to other women dealing with similar struggles?

First and foremost, do not for a second feel ashamed. This is not your fault and most importantly of all, it is curable with help. You can get better and will feel okay again. If you have a loved one that you feel you can trust, start by sharing with them. If not, or if you are more comfortable, I would highly recommend visiting Postpartum Support International. They have helplines, support groups, and organized resources to find local help to you. 

How has writing served as a form of healing for you?

Writing gave me a conduit to process those feelings in a way that was safe and to feel less alone in my struggles. It was easier to see my character's strengths than my own while I was in the middle of my struggles, and completing the book gave me a tangible sense of victory over my own struggles as well. 

Can you discuss the significance of bravery in your story and its connection to your own experiences?

Often in fiction and in particular in fantasy novels, the female characters are delegated to two archetypes. They are either a warrior that is sharp-witted and selflessly brave or they are pushovers. I found that I didn't particularly identify with either of those. Much like my own character, I am not one that delights in violence or in being a "warrior" - I don't have this fearless approach and dislike conflict, but I am also not one to sit idly by while others are suffering. My main character Violet's strength is not seen in her fighting abilities but in her persistence in the face of difficulty. Despite facing horrendous trauma and circumstances she continues to be kind and remains true to herself. To me that grit is just as brave as being the hero on the battlefield. 

What challenges did you face while writing and how did you overcome them?

As a mom who also works from home, my time is constantly pulled to other matters. There is a never-ending list of things that need my attention on any given day. I simply did not have the time to sit at my computer and write this book or better yet to visit a library or coffee shop to write it. Instead, I wrote what I would estimate as 80% from my cell phone. The majority of it was in the wee morning hours while nursing my son or during naps when I couldn't put him down. Often these writing sessions may only last five minutes, but they slowly built the 115,000+ word story that became To Pick a Violet. 

How do you hope your book will resonate with readers, especially those dealing with trauma or mental health issues?

My wish for readers is that they too can see their own strength through Violet. I have found so often that I can be my worst critic and far harsher on myself than I would ever be on others. By taking a character that struggles with mental health issues and having her still be brave and still be the hero, I hope that allows readers to see that they are also worth celebrating. I like to say that the soft-hearted princess with healing magic helped heal my soul and I would like nothing more than for readers to have that same experience. 

What motivated you to share your story publicly and through social media?

One of the things that delayed me seeking treatment was the fear of how others would perceive me. I loved my son more than anyone on this Earth and would do anything for him, but I was terrified that when I sought treatment he would be taken from me or that I would be seen as an unfit mother. Mental health, and especially that of a mother, still has a stigma to it. As mothers, you are told these are the best days of your life and you almost feel guilty for being so overcome with fear and anxiety when you are "living your dream" of being a mother. To me, it was important to share so others feel less alone. 

In my instance, I also thought it was important to share my story because I did not initially recognize my own struggles. When you hear of postpartum struggles usually it revolves around postpartum depression. Because I did not struggle with thoughts of harming myself or my child I falsely thought that I was not struggling with my mental health or that I didn't need help. When in reality my brain was forcing me to relive the trauma of my near-death experience and my fear of my child's near-death experience in a variety of ways. Essentially I had almost died and lost my child. To prevent that from ever happening again my brain would show me graphic and horrible things that "could" happen so I could protect us both from them. These instances would be so graphic and alarming that my heart rate would spike - making me dizzy with dread and I would often have to shake my head to physically clear away the image. Therapy was a wonderful tool in helping me cope and dismiss these images. 

How do you balance being an author, a mother, and running a business?

One of the things that I had to embrace early on is that I can't do all the things all the time. There simply is not enough time in the day for me to check off all my boxes. With that in mind, I have been very intentional about shifting my workload. There are days or even weeks that I don't write a single word on my book, because I am focused solely on being a mother or being a business owner. Likewise, there are days that I don't work on my business. I work at any opportunity that I have (often still during naps or late into the night), but I also work ahead and try to stay ahead so that I can allow more time to do the things I need. I feel like spreading out what and how I work allows me to stay fresh and not experience burnout by doing everything all the time. Ultimately my child always comes first. If that means I take him to the playground during the day and stay up an extra couple of hours at night, then that's what I do. It's not always easy, but for me it's worth it because it's also not something I will do forever. As he gets older, it's also become easier to balance the demands. 

What lessons have you learned throughout your journey as a writer and entrepreneur?

Believing in yourself and your vision is the most important thing you can do for yourself. You have to have a "why" to what you do. If it's just to make money you will burn out fast and become quickly disappointed. I am passionate about my story because I poured so much of my soul and heart into the plotline. I know it is not the best book ever written nor do I think that I am the best writer out there, but I have passion behind it and it's a story I believe in. Likewise, when you believe in your business and bring that passion to it, others can see it too and they'll want to be part of it because of the humanity behind it. 

Could you share a memorable moment or feedback from a reader that touched you?

Hearing that people connect with my story in general has been such a surreal experience. I've loved hearing from nurses that say they can relate to my character as a healer that "gives to the point of being empty" for all of her patients. My mother and my dear friend are both nurses so they were a big inspiration to that facet of my character. I have also had a reader who shared that they have also struggled with their mental health and that seeing Violet face it bravely despite her fear was empowering to them. At the end of the day that is perhaps my greatest hope of all for this book, that it shows someone like me or Violet or this reader that they're not alone and in the words of my character, that "You are stronger than your fears."

What are your future plans or projects in the literary or business realm?

So many! I am currently writing two books within the same realm of To Pick a Violet. One is of course the continuation of her story, which I am very excited about as she has experienced so much character growth. Truly writing it feels like coming home at the end of a long day. Simultaneously, I am also writing a novella/prequel to To Pick a Violet that will feature some familiar characters and introduce some new ones for readers to fall in love with. Ultimately I look forward to connecting with more readers and continuing on this writing journey. I have wanted to be an author even before I knew the word for it, and it's a dream I am so excited to be able to live. 

Lastly, how can readers connect with you and stay updated on your work?

I am most active on TikTok! Though I am on Instagram, Threads, and Facebook as well. Most of my accounts are under the username OliviaWilderWrites while my Facebook is Author Olivia Wilder. 

Stacy Thunes' journey is a testament to the power of passion, creativity, and resilience. As the founder of The Scriptory, Stacy has transformed her love for storytelling into a unique business that spans writing, acting, and dialogue polishing. From writing her first screenplay at eleven to navigating the challenges of an evolving industry, she has continually found inspiration in her work and the stories of others. In this interview, Stacy shares her insights on starting a creative business, the impact of AI on writing, and the importance of staying true to one's mission. Her story is sure to inspire anyone looking to make their mark in the world of storytelling and beyond.

What inspired you to start The Scriptory?

The Scriptory has had two incarnations, actually. Initially I started it back in 2007 when I began receiving commissions to write screenplays based on true life stories. This was very inspiring to me because I love talking to people, travelling and learning about cultures other than my own. The scripts I was commissioned to write were as different and varied as night and day and beyond anything I personally had ever experienced. So much for ‘write what you know’! Then, when the translations began taking off and I got more acting work, I sort of let it go. Now it’s having a kind of revival, but this time as a screenplay dialogue polishing and editing service. The idea came to me because, as an actor, I am coming across more and more scripts either written by novice writers using AI, their first language isn’t English, or the work has been translated from another language and not properly checked. I knew someone needed to do something about that so instead of waiting for someone to do it, I did!

Could you share a bit about your personal journey that led you to this business?

When I was 11 years-old my mother received a cancer diagnosis, which was of course very difficult for a single mom of 3 kids to navigate. So I began to escape the real world into acting and writing. I became obsessed with those two things. I performed in my first play, the musical Oliver, and spent all my time in front of the TV or at the cinema. In the early 70’s there was a film called The Poseidon Adventure that I loved. In fact, I loved it so much I think I saw it 50 times. And when my 6th grade teacher gave me a writing assignment one day, I wrote the entire screenplay, by hand, on a stack of yellow lined legal paper! That escape led to a career that has spanned up until today. 

What challenges did you face in establishing and growing The Scriptory?

With writing scripts based on people’s life stories, the biggest challenge was getting producers to read them. I am not a producer, per se, so I am not skilled in financing and the like and rely solely on what the client offers to pay me (or not!). The absolute biggest challenge in the dialogue polishing service is getting people to know that they need it! Some writers can be very touchy about their work, which is understandable. Convincing someone to review and potentially revise their script after they’ve spent years writing it isn’t easy. This is because my services are offered at the end of this long creative process and as a writer we can be attached to certain things that might not be good for the overall script. Mainly, though, because it’s a new idea that no one has ever really focused on before, creatives don't know they need it. 

What advice would you give to other women looking to start their own creative business?

Know why you’re doing it and be passionate about it. And don’t be afraid to take risks. Easier said than done, but I know from personal experience that if you really want to do something and are supported by the right intentions, the universe will definitely conspire to give you exactly what you need. In addition, I ask myself these questions in just about every endeavor I embark on: Does it create value? Will I make a living at it? Is it something I love? If you can answer those three questions with a yes, then there’s no reason why you can’t be a success, just remember to not give up!

Can you share a success story or memorable moment from your work with The Scriptory?

The most memorable story about The Scriptory happened in 2010 when I was walking down the street in the small town where I grew up, actually looking for a job, any job! A small shop selling lingerie had a sign outside announcing Help Wanted. I was in there for no longer than 5 minutes when a man came in and asked me if I knew of an optometrist nearby. I felt it was an odd question since he was wearing glasses, but I played along and soon it was clear that he wanted to talk to me, was a very witty person and we quickly hit it off life wildfire. After taking it outside so as not to annoy the shopkeeper and talking for another few minutes, he asked me what I did for living. When I told him that I was an actor and writer of screenplays, he hired me right there for a whopping 10,000$ to write two screenplays, one of them based on his life called THIS AIN’T HARVARD and the other from a book he wrote. Needless to say, I didn’t need the job in the lingerie shop.

How do you stay updated with the latest developments in AI and its impact on writing and creativity?

I don’t need to read about the impact of AI in writing and creativity because I feel it first hand! For several years I had a very lucrative career translating scripts, treatments and pitches from German into English until literally from one day to the next they stopped. I haven’t had a translation for 2 years now, and I blame AI 100% for that. Recently I saw a post from a creative on Threads that went something like this: “Why are they developing AI to take over the creative jobs instead of promoting it to do the menial tasks like accounting and doing the laundry?”

What strategies do you use to stay motivated and overcome setbacks in your entrepreneurial journey?

For the past 36 years, I have been a member of the Soka Gakkai International, a worldwide Buddhist lay organisation whose members chant Nam Myoho Renge Kyo daily in order to create value and promote peace by doing their own personal human revolution. Without my daily meditative practice, I wouldn’t have developed the self-discipline to continue with this precarious creative life. The opportunities I have met along this journey have been what I can only describe as mystical and have taken me to places I never dreamt I would go. So whenever I feel like giving up, I remember that I have a mission in this life, which is my method for overcoming any and all obstacles.

How do you prioritize and manage your time effectively between your various roles and responsibilities?

A sense of responsibility is what keeps me managing all the things I have to do. And of course lists! I love lists! 

What are your long-term goals and aspirations for The Scriptory?

I would find it absolutely delightful if it became the norm for every producer who is about to green light a script that has been written by AI to give it to me for a go-over. I offer an affordable service that is professional and reliable and it only takes a few days to make sure the actors won’t come back to you and say, “I can’t perform the dialogue like this!" 

What role do you think creativity plays in driving innovation and success in today's competitive landscape?

Our individuality is our creativity. All innovative ideas came from a creative spark in an individual who was then able to motivate others  to either share in that vision or to develop their own creativity. It’s been said that a true teacher is one who makes their students more capable than they themselves. So to me it is imperative that no matter what your profession or passion, you are able to bring out your individual creativity into it. Daisaku Ikeda, my personal mentor, once said,  “A great human revolution in just a single individual will help achieve a change in the destiny of a nation and, further, can even enable a change in the destiny of all humankind.” I believe this with my whole heart.

What are some key lessons you've learned from your experiences with The Scriptory?

I have learned that every single individual on this planet has a story to tell, one that is, in some way relatable to every one. We are all connected and remaining open is the only way to enrich your life as well as the lives of others. 

How do you envision the future of dialogue writing and AI collaboration in the entertainment industry?

Instead of rebelling against AI in the entertainment industry, we have to work with it while maintaining a critical eye. This is why I feel The Scriptory works perfectly for the times that lie ahead. In fact, they are already here for the most part, whether we like to admit it or not, so if humans and AI can collaborate, that could be a very fruitful relationship and beneficial for the entertainment industry as a whole. 

The Scriptory: https://scriptory99.wordpress.com

Talent Agency: www.crawfordtalents.com/stacy-thunes

IMDb: https://www.imdb.com/name/nm2256550/?ref_=ttfc_fc_cl_t17

Killing Eve Scene: https://youtube.com/watch?v=ew7tiWj3aOU

Showreel: https://vimeo.com/183108069

Vanessa Schwippert is the dynamic voice behind the Chick Lit Podcast, where she blends her passion for literature with a mission to empower women. Drawing from her own experiences as a special education teacher in underserved communities, Vanessa has crafted a platform that not only reviews books but also offers solidarity and encouragement to women juggling countless responsibilities. Through her insightful discussions, she highlights the struggles and triumphs of characters and readers alike, reminding them that they too deserve a happy ending. Her journey is one of resilience and dedication, making her an inspiring figure for anyone seeking to find their voice and uplift others along the way.

What inspired you to start the Chick Lit Podcast?

- I see a lot of women carrying a lot of the workload in the spaces we're in. Whether it's at home, at work, or with friends, I find that women take on a lot more than their counterparts and often put themselves on the back burner. With my book review podcast, I highlight how characters might be doing the same thing, why they might be doing it, and empower my listeners to make changes. The books are just an excuse to show my listeners they're not alone and that, just like the main characters, they deserve a happy ending too.

Can you share a bit about your personal journey and how it led you to this project?

I was a special education teacher in underserved communities for several years. This work comes with a lot of guilt for not being able to help everyone. So much is placed on teachers' plates (safety from armed intruders, teaching social-emotional learning, on top of academic standards, and so much more). It's no wonder the female-dominated field has such a heavy workload and gets such low pay. This drove my mental health into the ground. I experienced suicidal ideation because I felt like everything was up to me, and I believe this feeling is not only unsustainable but also extremely common among women, mothers, and women of the global majority. That's why I wanted to be there for us, for people who are currently in the same headspace I once occupied. It's isolating, it's scary, and we do better when we find our community and lean into it.

What are some of the biggest challenges you've faced while working on the podcast?

Funding myself is a challenge. There's a lot of predatory tactics out there, and I would hate to exploit my audience for a quick buck. Balancing the need to generate income with ethical practices has proven difficult. Currently, I'm looking for partnerships or sponsors to run ads during my episodes as a way to achieve this.

Who are some of your role models or sources of inspiration in your journey?

My mom is the epitome of strength and resilience. Coming to a new country as an undocumented, Spanish-speaking woman in the 80s took incredible courage. If she can do that, I can achieve anything I set my mind to. Giovanna González-Chávez inspires me with her unwavering love for our community through her webinars and speaking engagements. America Ferrera's eloquence on tough topics is truly impressive. Seeing her work her magic interview after interview motivates me to develop my own speaking skills.

How do you choose which books and characters to feature on your podcast?

As a bookworm, I genuinely enjoy reading books. I read popular and trending books, usually fiction, as a way to take a break from my life. I also choose self-help books that are about women's empowerment, like "Quit Like A Woman: The Radical Choice to Not Drink in a Society Obsessed with Alcohol" and "Come As You Are" about the female orgasm. Any book that will entertain us and/or empower us, those are the types of books I choose to read and review. If I read a book that has unchecked harmful tropes like sexism, racism, or classism, I will still do a review but I will tell you what's wrong with them and it will most likely be a short episode since I'm not in the game of tearing down people's work that they dedicated years of their lives to.

What are some lessons you've learned along the way that have helped you grow personally and professionally?

I've learned that I'm a badass. The fact that I can read entire books, write around 10 pages of notes and connect it to not only myself but also my listeners, record an episode, edit an episode, make social media clips from that episode, and have the courage to share it all with the world is impressive. If you listen to my very first episode in June 2023 and compare it to my most recent episode from mid-2024, you'll see how much I've grown; not only in podcasting skills but also in confidence and the way I communicate. I'm looking forward to progressing and seeing where this podcast life will take me.

How can interested listeners support and engage with your podcast and its community?

- Subscribing to my Youtube channel where I share my podcast episodes every Monday and also share more personal videos every Thursday.

- My podcast is also available on Spotify every Monday.

- I'm working on my social media presence to land those partnerships and sponsors! I like to be friends with my followers so follow me and DM me and we can be virtual besties. @ChickLitPodcast on Instagram and TikTok

- I don't have a website yet but once I do I will be letting everyone know via all of my platforms.

Eight years ago, Jo Buono’s life came to a sudden halt when she was struck by a debilitating illness. What followed was a grueling journey through chronic Lyme disease, involving nearly 30 doctors and countless treatments. Despite the overwhelming challenges, Jo's indomitable spirit led her to discover the healing power of functional medicine, nutritional support, and herbalism. This profound experience inspired her to create Holistic & Herby, a business dedicated to wellness teas and handmade herbal products. Through sheer determination and a belief in tomorrow, Jo transformed her struggles into a mission to help others, embodying resilience and hope in every cup of tea she crafts. Join us as Jo shares her remarkable story of perseverance, healing, and entrepreneurial success.

Can you share more about your journey with chronic Lyme disease and how it influenced the creation of Holistic & Herby?

Of course! 🙂

Eight years ago my entire world stopped when I got really sick.

Before this, I worked full time, taught horseback riding lessons on the weekend, and was on my way to becoming an American Sign Language interpreter. 

Life had other plans for me though.

In 2016, a chronic illness led me down a 3 year medical rabbit hole that involved almost 30 doctors. It took 19 doctors to get diagnosed, and many more for proper treatment. I was extremely fortunate to (eventually) find help and progress within functional medicine, ozone therapy, nutritional support, and herbalism.

Lyme Disease is complex and complicated. I knew that I needed to continue on the holistic path to get well (and stay well), so I decided to go to school to become a nutritionist.

At the time, I was on weekly 5 hour infusions, barely mobile, and pretty much in bed all day. I honestly didn’t know if I would be well enough to finish the program, but Audrey Hepburn once said, “to plant a garden is to believe in tomorrow.” 

I went for it, despite fear (or maybe in spite of it). I figured focusing on something positive would help me move forward (and would do a lot of good to get my mind off what I was going through).

I’m so glad I listened to my gut on that one.

I completed the program, opened my nutrition practice in 2019, and began my journey as a small business owner. The herbs came into the picture that same year after noticing so much progress in my own health and energy levels, so I decided to continue my herbal studies at Commonwealth Center for Holistic Herbalism, which opened a door in my nutrition practice that I didn’t know existed.

I quickly connected to nutritive tea blending and started experimenting with formulations. I made blends for digestion and stress, mostly because I needed something to help me in those areas.

I decided to get a home processors license and begin my journey making products in 2020 after hearing consistent positive feedback from friends, family, and clients.

And just like that, I celebrated my 5 year business anniversary in April, which I’m super proud of because it took a lot of trials, tribulations, (and frustrations) to get here today.

What were some of the biggest challenges you faced while starting your business during your treatment?

One of the greatest lessons I learned as an equestrian was to always compete in the division under the one you trained in. Doing so ensured the rider is confident in their abilities to successfully navigate their course with a clear head. Riders who compete in divisions that they are not prepared for are more likely to experience falls, accidents, or poor performance. This can also lead to increased anxiety and stress, which wouldn’t be present in a more suitable division.

The last (almost) decade has felt like I’ve been thrown into jumping divisions that exceed my ability, so I’ve been navigating complicated courses at lightning speed while trying to make the best decisions possible, quickly, with limited information.

In my eyes, each chapter of this journey has presented very different challenges. The first chapter (2016-2019) was difficult because I was going through a medical crisis that required mental and emotional energy that was barely available, and I had to somehow learn complicated information and apply it in real time so I could survive, while managing debilitating (and highly concerning) symptoms. 

This timeframe was especially difficult because it took a while to find a practitioner circle who believed me, so I spent a lot of time advocating for myself, while trying to do all the above. Once I secured a practitioner circle and treatment plan, I had (a little) more mental energy to focus on my coursework and certification exam prep. 

I consider 2019 the peak of the first mountain. I became certified as a Holistic Nutritionist through the American Fitness Professionals and Associates (AFPA) and officially started my business. Although I still had health work to do, I was finally feeling better, seeing friends, driving again, and piecing my life back together. 

The knowledge I've gained over the years has helped me realize that wisdom comes with time, and if I had the resources then that I do now, my journey would likely have one or two less mountains to climb.

 

The second chapter of my journey (2020-2022) presented challenges that I could have never imagined:

-        A global pandemic

-        losing my best friend to cancer, and another friend to a different cancer in the same year

-        A significant Lyme flare that left me (seemingly) back at square one. I was bed bound again and back on weekly infusions.

I put a pause on my business during the second chapter. I was too overwhelmed, in shock, and sick to do anything other than rest and regroup. I dubbed this era “monkey wrenches and infusions” because it seemed every week brought new hurdles or tragedies and I was just. so. done. I needed a break. Chapter 2 was messy, foggy, and so hard, but I got through it. 

Chapter 3 began in 2023. I was finally starting to make some progress, so I decided to start blending tea again. I began (slowly) rebranding and rebuilding, while trying to find ways to grow my business with limited energy. I am fortunate to have made connections with a few local Long Island retailers who were happy to carry my products and support my venture. 

In the background of business building, I had to maneuver my way around countless treatment roadblocks because the process of treating Lyme & Tick-Borne disease can feel like one step forward, followed by 5 steps back, so I really had to learn how to temper my expectations while managing (what felt like) a dumpster fire. 

During 2023, I worked in short spurts, when I had energy, and I only committed to opportunities that were flexible and feasible for me. That said, I had to say no to a lot of fun opportunities, which was disheartening. I wish I could tell the 2023 version of me to hang in there because I made a comeback in 2024 and have already been a vendor at 3 really cool in-person events, including speaking at a women’s empowerment event! 

Although it was one of the most challenging years I’ve ever faced, I’m grateful that I had some really cool opportunities in 2023. I made great connections that helped move my business (and my mindset) forward. 

Lastly, this current chapter (2024) continues to show me new puzzles to solve, and I am taking each challenge one day and one sip of tea at a time).

How did you stay motivated and positive during those difficult times?

I love this question! My business mantra is MoTEAvation! But before I share more about that, it’s important to know how I got here, because motivation doesn’t always come easy, especially during times of adversity.

Staying motivated and positive has honestly ebbed and flowed. I spent most of 2023 walking around as bitter as a cup of Starbucks dark roast. Grief and chronic illness layered together has been a mental marathon that could turn even the most positive person into a ball of cynicism. In fact, my first herbal product launch last year was titled “sweary self-care,” which was a fun idea, but the theme of bitterness reflected where I was at that moment, not who I am at my core. The project didn’t resonate long term, so I took a pause to regroup. 

While regrouping, I came across a quote by Maria Rainer Rilke: “Let everything happen to you: beauty and terror. Just keep going. No feeling is final”

Every day, I wrote “Just keep going” somewhere at least once, because I had nothing positive to say. I was depressed and stressed to the limit, so most days my goal was to stay as neutral as possible and focus on very small, attainable goals.

Thankfully I started to make progress in treatment in late fall 2023. I still had plenty of down days (and sometimes weeks), but my life was expanding far beyond eat, sleep, survive, repeat.

Although I was starting to feel much better, I still had to slow down a lot to manage fluctuating energy levels.

Adjusting speed hasn’t been easy for this overachieving Type A who wants to do all of the things (yesterday), but I’m super grateful to have tools to lean on when I’m frustrated, and Sheldon the turtle to remind me that I’m still in the race.

Sheldon is a squeezeable stress turtle that quickly became my mascot after I found myself saying that I’m operating in “turtle mode.”

Turtles are known for longevity, wisdom, and endurance, so Sheldon is my visual reminder to stay the course and trust the process…even if it’s a super slow one. 

It seemed appropriate to have a turtle around during a time that I was forced to go slower than I wanted to, so he’s been coming along for the ride, and I’m attaching a photo of him for you to see!

What role did your wellness teas and handmade products play in your own healing process?

Before I got sick, I went to the barn anytime my world felt upside down. It was the one place that always made sense to me. Horses have this way of settling my anxious mind, and I’ve missed spending time with them more than I can say.

I felt lost when I couldn’t go down to the barn for health reasons; it was a huge part of my life for 15 years. Nothing can ever compare to the horses, but I will say that I’m super grateful for the herbs because the artistic and methodical process of blending tea brings my overactive mind back to a centered state, something only the horses were able to accomplish in the past.

It didn’t take long for me to fall in love with how the blends made me feel and the process of creating them. At the time, I was only tolerating a few foods, so from a nutritional standpoint, it felt good to make mineral-rich blends to support my very depleted body.

My digestion has been severely compromised by Lyme disease, tick-borne diseases, and SIBO, to the point where many beverages (even some tea brands) irritate my gut. It was such an accomplishment for me to create blends that sit well and are soothing!

Building this business has given me the gift of strength to keep going during some really hard times. I am so fortunate to be doing work that means so much to me. While I may not be able to go down to the barn right now, I have found a way to create my own little space in the world that supports both rest and my growth. Holistic & Herby is incredibly special to me, and I feel so lucky to have the opportunity to share my work with the world. 

Can you describe a moment when you realized your business was truly making an impact?

There have been so many cool moments that have validated and encouraged me to continue this work. The most recent was when my friend’s 7-year-old daughter took a special interest in my tea and my business. She is fascinated by my business, loves my tea, and is always asking her mom questions about it.

It was a surprise and an honor to learn that I was making an impact on someone so young, who is also managing tick-borne disease. The kids are the real heroes in my book. I wrote a special letter to her because she truly made my week, and I hope I made hers, too.

The work I do has a lot of rich history and discovery to it. I think it's extra special when the younger generations take an interest, and I'm happy to support those who do however I can!

What advice would you give to other women who are facing their own health challenges and have dreams of starting a business?

-Just keep going

-Progress never feels like progress until you look back and see how far you come 

-Small accomplishments count, everything adds up 

-Never forget how wildly capable you are

How do you balance managing your health with running a business?

This has been a lesson learning process that is still evolving. 

My biggest challenge in this chapter has been learning how to navigate fluctuating energy levels, and the mental marathon of constantly having to pivot. Between treatments, unexpected (and emotionally demanding) doctors’ appointments, business building (and everything in between), things can get overwhelming quickly over here. I’m very fortunate to have tools to lean on when my world feels like it’s spinning. 

It also helps that I make tea for stress haha! 

What has been the most rewarding part of your entrepreneurial journey so far?

I’m trying to pave the road forward so I can continue to improve and be a light for others on the same road behind me. I do this work in honor of the younger versions of me who were sick, scared, and directionless. My entire mission has been to create a business that offers the tools I needed, and still need. 

I’m grateful to say that if the 2016 version of me (at my weakest and most scared) found my online shop, I would be able to provide helpful information, direction, and supportive tools that would have helped me avoid some less than desirable situations. I included a photo (attached) of myself from that time as a tribute to the first chapter of my journey.

How do you stay inspired and continue to innovate with your products?

At the risk of sounding cliché, it’s people who inspire me! Each event sparks new creativity because of connection and conversation!  

What message do you hope to convey through your brand and products?

If the world doesn’t have what you need, you can create it; you just have to find a little MoTEAvation and BeLeaf in Yourself <3.

Can you share a story of a customer who was significantly impacted by your products?

Someone expressed deep gratitude to me for giving them a tea that was more soothing than anything else they had tried, including other recommendations I had made. At the time, I was taking a break from my business, but it was that moment I realized people were finding my blends more supportive than what they found in a store. I started blending tea again that very weekend and never looked back. 

How do you handle the day-to-day stresses of being a business owner?

By drinking lots of tea!

Jokes aside, the most helpful tools for me have been organization, prioritizing, and time management. Recognizing when to disconnect for a break has been crucial. Additionally, I've come to understand that the to-do list is never truly finished; it simply evolves. It's important for me to acknowledge this and intentionally schedule downtime to rest and recoup.

What are some of the key lessons you've learned since starting Holistic & Herby?

- Learn my limits, even the ones I don’t like

- Trust the process, even if it’s a super slow one

- Do my best to live in the moment and not get caught up in the negativity of my inner antagonist, who I have dubbed “Darth Jo”

-The process is never linear, in healing or in business. There will be busy times, and downtimes. Both have a purpose. 

- Everyone needs help sometimes, and it’s okay to ask for help.  

- Always look forward, because the possibility of greatness is far bigger than the fear of failure. 

How important is community support to you, and how do you engage with your community?

Community is everything! I feel honored to be able to support my community in a unique and meaningful way. I have been participating in community service for as far back as I can remember:

-When I taught horseback riding lessons, I offered work study programs to intermediate & advanced riders who otherwise couldn’t afford to ride. In exchange for helping prepare horses for lessons with my younger students, I offered my helpers free lessons and equine education.

-After completing my certification, I offered free weekly nutrition services at a local wellness store for 3 months

- At the beginning of the pandemic, I worked with a local business to help spread awareness for a program that was feeding those in need.

-During the height of the pandemic, I offered services in a women’s Facebook group, and volunteered time to teach a mini class on stress management. 

-I work with a few people every year who need services but otherwise can’t afford it, so I donate time and products to individuals when I feel the situation is right. 

-I was recently a speaker at a Women’s Empowerment Charity event to benefit St. Basil Academy and Fearless of Hudson Valley, NY. I also donated a gift basket to this event for the raffle to benefit the organizations. It was such a great day! I wrote about it and shared my speech on Medium, please feel free to check it out here.

- While I am building my strength back to ride again, I am in the very early stages of inquiring about how I can help volunteer with a local equine therapy program that supports riders with all mobility levels and abilities (HorseAbility). I will be making a product donation to support their horses and riders in the meantime, which will be mailed out early next month. This organization has a special place in my heart, and I hope to be involved soon! 

-I am in the infancy stages of working on a bigger community service project for food allergy awareness, but that may be a while because there’s a lot happening in the background right now.

What future plans or goals do you have for Holistic & Herby?

My goal is to chase this dream as far as it will take me! I have a lot of big dreams and goals for both my tea and my research work. I’m excited to be in a place where I can attend in-person events, and I’m savoring the moment while looking forward to continued growth in the very near future!

As I work towards my goals, I hope to be a source of information and inspiration for others who are starting a small business under less-than-ideal circumstances, even if it's not a chronic illness. We all face adversity, and although we may not be able to relate to our individual struggles, we can all relate to the challenges of hard times and adjustment periods.

I hope my story brings a little bit of MoTEAvation and EncourageMint to anyone who is trying to do big things while fighting stress monsters <3

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Discovering the spark within to blend fantasy with poignant societal reflections, Margarita Artista, author of "The Phoenix Keeper and the City of the Sun," unveils her creative odyssey. Rooted in a passion for storytelling and a profound sociological understanding, Margarita's journey intertwines personal growth with a mission to inspire and empower. Through her candid insights, she shares the challenges, triumphs, and profound meanings that fuel her artistry, offering a roadmap for fellow creatives seeking to illuminate the world with their unique voice and vision.

What inspired you to start your creative project, "The Phoenix Keeper and the City of the Sun"?

I’ve always been a big reader, and from a young age, I knew I wanted to write books that would inspire people the way my favourite books inspired me. It wasn’t until I took Sociology in university, though, that I truly understood the extent of the creative journey I wanted – more like needed, really – to embark on. I needed to explore my learnings about society, and to share them with the world, in the hopes of maybe leaving it a better place than I found it.

Can you share a bit about your personal journey and how it influenced your work?

I have a deep fascination with the world around me. I enjoy learning about how our world works, and how people function, and what makes society do all the strange and incredible and confusing things that it does. I’ve also always loved magic, and fantasy, and escaping into new worlds when ours became just a little too rough. Reading and video games also taught me a lot about people, and passions, and most importantly, about myself. Combining the two was more inevitable than I think I realized at the time I started writing.

What were some of the challenges or struggles you faced while working on your project? 

Reliving some of my hardest personal moments – a primary source of inspiration – can be a tricky exercise. On the one hand, I really enjoy self-reflection and taking the time to really piece apart experiences and share what I’ve learned. On the other hand, it’s a very vulnerable process. Some of the moments my characters face were inspired by real moments that were hard for me. But in the end, I think the value of connecting with my readers through sharing these hardships outweighs the discomfort of having to face them as I write.

How did you overcome these challenges, and what did you learn from them?

I remember my favourite stories when I feel challenged. I take the time to recollect what makes them my favourite stories, and how they’ve had an impact on me. And then I remind myself that if I can have the same impact on even just one reader, then I’ve done what I’ve set out to do. That usually keeps me going.

Your project incorporates sociological discussions such as wealth, power, discrimination, and mental health. Can you elaborate on why these themes are important to you?

Learning about these themes throughout my education really changed my perspective and how I interact with the world. It has benefitted me greatly to be more aware of how wealth affects power, how discrimination appears in systems, and how paying attention to these things can help you make better judgment calls when it comes to who you vote for or where you spend your money. As a collective, we can have tremendous influence when it comes to social issues, and I’m so inspired by everyone who uses their voice to stand up for others; I definitely see this younger generation especially speaking up for the things that matter and sparking positive change in the world.

I also believe mental health is an ongoing discussion that needs to be visited and revisited in our social circles. Learning about each other, our struggles, our strengths – it allows us to better accommodate, and more importantly, invites compassion into our daily living. We, as a society, need to take care of each other, and that starts with normalizing and destigmatizing the issues we face. We are all better off when we are unafraid to ask for help, when we can access care, and ultimately, when we are given space to heal.

What advice would you give to other women who are pursuing their creative passions or starting their own projects?

Be loud. Take up room. Be unapologetic in your presence. Never let anyone tell you that your ideas aren’t worthy – you have them for a reason. And most importantly, you are entitled to embrace as many identities as you choose. You can be a mother, a painter, and a wife, in any order you choose. You can enjoy sex and spirituality at the same time. The world tends to encourage women to fit into a box – I say we break out of that narrative and do whatever we want.

How do you balance your personal life with your creative work?

If I’m really struggling to write, it’s usually a sign that I’m burnt out. Part of the creative process is knowing when you need to pause and recharge. I try to spend time moving my body intentionally with exercise and enjoying other works of art, whether its reading, shows, video games, or a trip to the museum, when I’m feeling creatively low.

Can you share a pivotal moment or turning point in your journey that significantly impacted your project?

What role does storytelling play in addressing societal issues and promoting change?

One of our primary ways of learning is through story. We listen to the experiences of others and read words that leave impressions on us. Whether fictional or not, they ignite feelings, thoughts, and opinions. They fuel outrage, they invoke pity, they share pain. All of these things are beautiful, wondrous parts of the human experience. More importantly, when you feel deeply enough, you’re usually motivated to seek further information, or to make a change. That’s what the power of story is – it moves people. 

How do you stay motivated and inspired during times of doubt or uncertainty in your creative process?

I try to give myself the same advice I’d give to any of my friends – to keep going, no matter how hard it gets. It can be difficult at times to see myself in the same light as I do other artists. I have a bit of imposter syndrome sometimes; occasionally, I wonder if I’m leaving the mark I intend to leave, or if I’m leaving one at all. But if I don’t at least try to, I know I never will. And that fact in itself fuels me to not give up trying, at the very least.

What message or legacy do you hope to leave through your work?

If my readers leave my work feeling something – anything – then I’m happy. If they were moved in some way, or they felt that reading my work was worthwhile for whatever reason, then I feel I’ve accomplished my goal. I want people to be inspired by my stories, and in special regards to the Phoenix Keeper series, I want them to know they, too, can embark on their own journey of redefinition and magic. They just have to believe in themselves.

Can you talk about a specific character or aspect of your project that is particularly meaningful to you?

Seraphine is very much like myself, in a lot of ways. Well, she’s a lot cooler than I am. But at her core, she responds to situations very much like I would. That’s a really neat experience to have as a writer. I’ve been able to forgive myself a bit for my emotional or ‘fiery’ nature, since I’ve seen how Seraphine’s passion drives her through the story and gets her into some fascinating adventures. I relate to that quite a bit, and I hope my readers do, too.

What strategies or practices have helped you grow and develop as a creative entrepreneur?

Learning to accept and incorporate constructive criticism is a very good skill to have. You want to approach editing, for example, with a warm open-mindedness; listening to feedback and using it to make your work better is a fundamental part of growing as a creative.

How do you navigate the intersection of art, business, and social impact in your work?

Above all, authenticity remains of most critical importance to me. I want to be honest with my readers and followers, and I want to provide them with a safe space to share ideas and connect. At the end of the day, money comes and goes, but the impact you have on someone can last a lifetime. I want to leave a positive impact on anyone who chooses to follow my journey.

What upcoming projects or initiatives can we look forward to from you?

The second book in the Phoenix Keeper series, The Phoenix Keeper and the Fiery Waters, will be releasing in November of 2024! I cannot wait for my readers to continue their journeys with Seraphine. The series consists of five books, so in the coming years, I plan to get the remaining three books out before starting on my next project – I’m thinking a high fantasy this time.

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In the dynamic and often challenging world of the music industry, Jazmine Valencia has carved out a remarkable path, transforming obstacles into opportunities. As the founder of JV Agency, Jazmine's journey is a testament to resilience, authenticity, and innovation. Overcoming the hurdles of a male-dominated field, she has built a successful agency that champions diversity and empowers artists to achieve their dreams. Her story is not only inspirational but also a beacon of hope for women aspiring to break into the industry and create their own ventures. Join us as Jazmine shares her insights, experiences, and the driving forces behind her remarkable career.

Can you share more about your journey in a male-dominated industry and how it led to the creation of JV Agency?

Absolutely, I'd be happy to share my journey. Breaking into the music industry, which is often male-dominated, has been both challenging and rewarding. When I first started, I faced a lot of skepticism and had to work extra hard to prove my expertise and earn respect. There were moments when I felt overlooked or underestimated, but those experiences only fueled my determination to succeed.

Early on, I realized the importance of building a strong network and seeking out mentors who could provide guidance and support. I also made it a point to stay updated with the latest trends and technologies in music and in marketing, which helped me bring fresh and innovative ideas to the table. Over time, my dedication paid off, and I began to carve out a reputation for delivering results and helping artists achieve their goals.

The idea for JV Agency came about because I saw a gap in the market. There were plenty of agencies, but very few that truly understood the unique challenges and opportunities in the music industry, especially from a marketing perspective. I wanted to create an agency that not only provided top-notch marketing services but also offered personalized support tailored to each artist’s needs. 

Founding JV Agency was a way for me to combine my passion for music with my expertise in marketing, all while fostering an inclusive environment where diverse voices are valued and heard. Our team is a mix of talented individuals from various backgrounds, and I believe this diversity is one of our biggest strengths. It allows us to approach challenges creatively and come up with innovative solutions that resonate with a wide audience.

In essence, my journey has been about turning obstacles into opportunities and using my experiences to build something meaningful. JV Agency is the result of that journey, and I'm incredibly proud of what we've achieved and excited for what's to come.

 How did you stay motivated during times of difficulty or setbacks?

Staying motivated during difficult times and setbacks can be tough, but I’ve found a few strategies that really help. Firstly, I always keep my end goals in mind. Having a clear vision of what I want to achieve with my career and JV Agency helps me stay focused and driven, even when things get challenging.

Another key factor is surrounding myself with a supportive network. My friends, family, and colleagues have been incredible sources of encouragement and advice. They remind me of my strengths and the progress I’ve made, which helps me push through tough times.

I also make it a point to learn from every setback. Instead of seeing them as failures, I view them as opportunities to grow and improve. This mindset shift helps me stay resilient and optimistic. For example, if a campaign doesn’t perform as well as expected, I analyze what went wrong, gather feedback, and use that knowledge to do better next time.

Additionally, self-care is crucial. Taking breaks, exercising, and engaging in hobbies I love helps me recharge and maintain a positive outlook. It’s easy to burn out if you’re constantly working, so I make sure to balance my professional and personal life.

Lastly, celebrating small wins keeps me motivated. Acknowledging the progress I’ve made, no matter how minor it may seem, gives me the boost I need to keep going. Every step forward, even if it’s tiny, brings me closer to my ultimate goals.

What advice would you give to women looking to break into similar industries or start their own ventures?

Persevere and stay focused. Your journey can inspire others. Keep pushing forward!

How do you prioritize self-care and work-life balance while managing a successful agency?

Having a work-life balance is definitely a priority for me and my team, 
Prioritizing self-care and work-life balance is crucial, especially when managing a successful agency.

Here’s how I do it:

1. **Set Boundaries:** I establish clear boundaries between work and personal time. This includes setting specific work hours and sticking to them as much as possible.

2. **Delegate:** Trusting my team and delegating tasks effectively allows me to focus on high-priority tasks without getting overwhelmed.

3. **Schedule Downtime:** I make sure to schedule regular breaks and time off to recharge. This includes daily breaks, weekends, and longer vacations.

4. **Stay Organized:** Using tools like calendars and to-do lists helps me stay on top of tasks and reduces stress. It also ensures I allocate time for both work and personal activities.

5. **Exercise and Hobbies:** Regular exercise and engaging in hobbies I love help me unwind and maintain a positive mindset.

Balancing self-care with running an agency is all about creating routines that sustain both my professional and personal well-being. It’s an ongoing process, but it’s essential for long-term success and happiness.

What future goals or aspirations do you have for JV Agency?

As we are getting close to celebrate our Ten Year Anniversary,  I have several exciting goals and aspirations for the future of JV Agency: 

1. **Expand Our Reach:** I aim to grow our client base both nationally and internationally, helping more artists achieve their dreams.

2. **Innovative Services:** Continuously innovate our marketing strategies and services to stay ahead of industry trends and offer cutting-edge solutions.

3. **Empower More Artists:** Develop programs and workshops that empower emerging artists with the knowledge and tools they need to succeed independently.

4. **Diversity and Inclusion:** Foster an even more diverse and inclusive team to bring a variety of perspectives and creativity to our work.

5. **Sustainability Initiatives:** Implement sustainable practices within the agency and support artists who prioritize environmental consciousness in their work.

6. **Community Engagement:** Increase our involvement in community projects and partnerships that support local talent and the broader music community.

Ultimately, I envision JV Agency as a leader in the music marketing industry, known for our innovation, inclusivity, and dedication to artist success. I'm excited about the journey ahead and the impact we can make.

How do you think the industry landscape is evolving for women, and what changes would you like to see?

The industry landscape for women is evolving positively, but there’s still a lot of work to be done. We’re seeing more women in leadership roles, greater recognition of female talent, and a push for inclusivity and diversity. However, challenges like gender bias and unequal opportunities persist.

I’d like to see:

1. **Equal Opportunities:** More initiatives to ensure women have equal access to opportunities, mentorship, and career advancement.

2. **Support Networks:** Stronger support networks and communities for women in the industry to share experiences, advice, and support.

3. **Pay Equity:** Continued efforts to close the gender pay gap and ensure women are compensated fairly for their work.

4. **Representation:** Increased representation of women in all aspects of the industry, from executive roles to creative positions.

5. **Work-Life Balance:** More policies that support work-life balance, such as flexible working hours and parental leave.

By addressing these areas, we can create a more equitable and inclusive industry where women can thrive and lead.

Lastly, what motto or mantra do you live by that has helped guide your professional journey?

The motto I live by is: "Stay resilient, stay authentic." This has guided my professional journey by reminding me to persevere through challenges and remain true to my values and vision. Resilience helps me navigate setbacks, while authenticity ensures I build genuine connections and stay aligned with my goals. This combination has been key to my success and fulfillment in the industry.

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Meet Ayana Crichlow, a vibrant writer, podcaster, and spiritual explorer whose journey to self-love and authenticity shines through her creative works. From her insightful podcast "Cocoa In De Sun" to her captivating novels and poetry, Ayana's mission is clear: to inspire others to embrace their passions and follow their hearts. Through introspection, meditation, and storytelling, she shares empowering messages of self-acceptance, resilience, and the beauty of imperfection. Join us as Ayana delves into her personal journey, the challenges she's faced, and the profound impact she hopes to make on her audience.

What motivated you to start the "Cocoa in De Sun" podcast and write the novel?

I started Cocoa In De Sun in 2019/2020 because I wanted to share thoughts about my journey to a better self and living a life I loved.  At the time after being a contributor on Huff Post they had canceled the contributor platform suddenly and  I wanted another way to reach people but after a few months of no success with the podcast, life and living distracted me and I just stopped doing the podcast episodes but I never deleted the podcast or the instagram. 

I restarted Cocoa in De Sun this year after losing my job in November and having an even deeper connection to aspects of myself that surprised me and as a result I was having spiritual insights and understandings and perspectives of my life that I thought may help others and I wanted to have the conversation with anyone that would listen.  So I found the podcast space again and I LOVE IT, even if I do not have many listeners, I simply enjoy just having the conversation.

I also wrote the books for the same reason, just to express as this is what I enjoyed most, sharing my thoughts and ideas and hoping it helps others on their own journey. All the books are self published as I saw them as art and an authentic expression of myself, and saw each flaw or error in the books as imperfections that made the work more me. I could not conform to categories so I chose to self publish as I knew agents and publishing companies would not understand. I have self published a poetry book, 2 novels and a few children’s books.

I will link the books and the youtube and apple podcast links below so you can get a better vibe of me.

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Can you share a bit about your personal journey and how it influenced your creative work?

My personal journey has definitely influenced my creative work, in that it is all my creative work is about really.  I write and talk about what new things I am learning and loving about myself in the podcast.  Originally from Trinidad which was steeped in colonialism and colorism when I was growing up, it affected my self esteem, not just by things said but things unsaid can be just as loud. Leaving trinidad at 17 to live in America, although colder in some ways in terms of caring as it was, America was also very freeing and I Started to learn to love myself by seeing how others that looked like me seemed to love themselves or were at least less confined by the colorism so embedded and accepted in Trinidad.

Embedded to the point that it seemed to not exist as it was not ever spoken about just simply understood. Though this unraveling is still occurring I am in a much more loving place than I was 20 years ago.  I still ended up in an abusive relationship but got out of it as soon as it got physical, so although I still fell into many of the scenarios that plague individuals that have low self esteem, I was still able to accept much less of it than others before me had or may have. Previous women in my line have stayed much longer in situations that I did not.

So I was growing, I think. I grew enough to realize that although I had 2 good jobs as a nurse and I was making good money that I was not happy, and needed to find out what made me happy beyond having things around 2017. I found that I preferred telemedicine work if I had to work, but I preferred writing and talking and conversation if I was truly myself. So I found a happy medium with the self publishing and HuffPost articles while still working in a nurse job that I did not hate.  But as you learn more and more about yourself and your joys, you get less and less ok with accepting anything that does not bring you joy. So in 2023 I went for something called QHHT Hypnosis which really accelerated the spiritual journey and here I AM.

Have you faced any challenges or struggles along the way, and how did you overcome them?

Yes, I have faced challenges and struggles.  I am not successful in the traditional sense, although I am the happiest I've ever been. I don't have a stable job, I don't have a lot of listeners on my podcast, my podcast is not monetized, it makes me no money, neither have any of my books.  I am currently unemployed.  BUT I now define success as anytime I am able to do what I want instead of what I should do. So success is waking up when I want, doing what I want with my day, not having anxiety, trusting that everything will work out and somehow it does in a strange way. Success is opportunities that are aligned with my passions, inspiration for my podcasts, cooking, painting.  Success is genuine conversations that fill my soul or a hello from a neighbor.  Success is hearing back from YOU!!!!!!!!!

So I got to this new perspective by first being true to myself and what I want to do, this allowed for situations to show up where I had to face my fears about needs being met, doubts about things working out, and embedded beliefs about what I deserve and what happens in my life, beliefs and fears and doubts I would never have faced had I not been in these situations brought on by following my authentic self, my authentic self being what gives me joy that is not attached to money circumstances. So although I feel like I still have some work to do for my conscious life to reflect my inner knowing, I now know that it will, that  my faith is stronger, my trusting of self is stronger, my coping mechanisms such as stillness and qigong and asking guides and angels for signs, dreams, my trusting in the divine due to experiences and synchronicities, that affirmations work etc, all these aspects of my life help me overcome daily, moment by moment.

How do you balance your creative endeavors with other aspects of your life?

Generally I believe when I am working 40 hours a week my creative ideas are pretty much non-existent or minimal.  I have been unemployed since November 2023 and though it can be scary at times financially it has been a freeing time.  And I am able to pursue my creative aspects much more.  I have time for poetry, painting, cooking, baking, reading, podcasts and deep thoughts.  My hope is to somehow maintain myself in such a way I can do what I want with my time. I have not figured how yet but the answer is there, somewhere in the vast aether of quantum space.

What advice would you give to women who are looking to pursue their passions and share their insights with others?

Go for it!!! In the ways that bring you JOY!!!!  In the way that is possible for you now, just do it.  A way always opens, if not in that exact moment, in the BEST moment for you!! Have faith that your life is to be happy and enjoyed and your passions are pivotal to that.

How has meditation and introspection played a role in your creative process?

Definitely, I find stillness meditation works best for me.  I did not know that stillness meditation was what I was doing until recently. All I knew was that every evening I had to watch the sunset and be still, I loved this time of day and would stop what I was doing to do this. This stillness allows for ideas and thoughts and understandings to flow through, it allows for peace and feelings of harmony, feeling connected, all of which are important to the creative process for me. This allows for more clarity, the next steps show up, or maybe something will come up that I need to clear in order to allow the new to come.. It can help in so many ways. I also had a dream of Qigong and that has been helpful for me too.  Sound Baths are also major!!!!!

Can you discuss the themes or messages you aim to convey through your podcast, novel, and poetry?

Love of self and following your heart’s joys are themes that I follow in my own life and what I want to share with others. This seems simple but sometimes it is not. As someone that did not always think lovingly to myself I had to learn and there are many different layers to this.  I want to be able to share this complexity in a language that everyone can understand, and how it leads to a life you love specifically curated for you.

What impact do you hope your work will have on your audience or readers?

I hope it shows them that loving yourself is what leads to all the things that bring them  joy authentically.  That they learn to trust themselves and their own guidance, that nobody has what they have to offer and the world needs whatever it is. 

That imperfection is the perfection, that is where all the learning is, all the expansion into understanding yourself and loving yourself truly comes from the imperfections and this then expands to understanding and loving others, but it must start with you. The hard lessons learnt contained a ton of wisdom.  How to retain the wisdom but let go of the trauma. That life can be a beautiful journey based on perspective. 

Are there any particular women or mentors who have inspired or supported you in your journey?

Not in my life currently but I think the stuff I like may be out of the norm for most. In regards to inspiring women as a whole, I find the work of Dolores Cannon quite amazing as it would have sounded crazy in her day and she still went forward with her research.  Audre Lorde just simply as a WOMAN and a CARIBBEAN WOMAN at that.  Toni Morrison for writing about women that did not fit the ideals of what women should be but strength and beauty in women as they are, intriguingly unique.

How do you stay motivated and inspired during times of doubt or creative blocks?

In regards to doubt or fear I push through as I know on the next side is a new strength, a new thing I can do, a new fear conquered.  In regards to creative blockers I stay still, being still is important to me when I don't know what to do, I wait until I know, however long that may take.

What future projects or goals are you currently working on or planning?

I have 2 other podcast I am working on VOG CARIBBEAN ( a podcast for caribbean folklore and perspectives) and HELLO FRIEND NEWS (A podcast that share news like a friend talking to you that consists  33% regular news and 66% good news) - I think media is contributing heavily to the fear that exists and it should be more balanced, like yes society is messed up but also there is a lot of beauty and good people in the world too and they should be the example.

How important is it for you to connect with your audience, and how do you cultivate that connection?

This is what I crave but have not had many opportunities to do.  I try to answer the few comments I get on youtube but I would love to facilitate more conversations and have others share their own insights in my comments if possible as this will help others. 

What role do you think storytelling plays in empowering women and fostering change?

I think storytelling is integral to empowering women as it feeds the imagination to further ideas of what could be. I am currently listening to “Magdalene Revealed” on audible and the author refers to the story of Thecla and Perpetua on the early gnostic texts and was like WOW, we need theses stories, not just for women but society on a whole can learn from these stories of believing in yourself when others doubt and your own inner knowing and how this empowers.  But definitely women need these stories as it just solidifies that we always have been knowing, lol.

How do you define success in your creative endeavors?

Success is following my heart’s joys in every minute of the day.

Can you share a memorable experience or feedback from your audience that has impacted you?

When I did the article about growing up black in Trinidad and I had feedback from Malaysia and India in regards to how darker skinned individuals are treated not as well as light skinned individuals, this let me know that my experience was universal and showed I could connect with other cultures.

Although Trinidad may still have issues with colorism that it may have improved somewhat since my childhood and I do recognize how young the country is, as it only gained independence in 1962. Progress does take time and being gentle and allowing for grace helps but awareness is a must for progression

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Welcome to an inspiring conversation with Erin Zhurkin, the author of "Plus-Size in Paris" and the host of the "Plus-Sized Hearts Podcast." Erin's journey from feeling like an outsider in Paris to rewriting her own narrative is a testament to the power of self-discovery and embracing vulnerability. Through her book and podcast, she opens a dialogue about body image, cultural challenges, and the importance of storytelling in finding empowerment and belonging. Join us as Erin shares her experiences, insights, and the transformative impact of embracing one's true self.

Can you tell us about a pivotal moment in your life that inspired you to start rewriting your story?

The pivotal moment that I decided to rewrite my story was when I realized that I COULD rewrite my story. My book Plus-Size in Paris was inspired by some of the experiences I had living in Paris in a plus-size body, and I felt like such an outsider. I realized one day when I was walking around the Bois de Boulogne and I ran into another woman that was a larger body than the norm that you see in Paris, the question crossed my mind, “I wonder what it’s like for her being plus-size in Paris, does she feel the same way…” and somehow saying that in my mind sparked a feeling that maybe there were other women that might be feeling the same as me and if I were to tell my story it might help me rewrite my experience which might then give voice to them too. It was one of those moments in life when you feel you were gifted something. 

How did you navigate the cultural challenges you faced while living in different countries, particularly regarding body image?

I’m still navigating cultural challenges as I moved from Paris to Dublin, and I currently live in Seoul. I’ve come to realize that navigating these challenges comes back to how I feel in myself and what I think I can offer the culture where I live at the time. Regarding body image, I’ve learned it really comes down to me and how I go about it. For example, I launched my book Plus-Size in Paris in Seoul. I had my first of many book launch events in Seoul and by doing that, by opening my story in such a vulnerable way it opened a dialogue that allowed other women at that launch event to share what it’s like in Korea and how the body image here is full of unattainable stereotypes and how young girls are suffering under it. I’ve learned to not be afraid to talk about it openly and have an open heart. 

Could you share some insights into your creative process while writing "Plus-Size in Paris"?

The creative process for me writing this book went very deep. I often wonder if other authors have this kind of journey with their first book or if I just take things too much to heart. For me it was about allowing myself to be messy, vulnerable, and broken completely open. I had to allow all fears to see the sunlight and I had to be willing to be open and true to the story as uncomfortable as it was sometimes to document what it felt like for me in those scenes. Which takes me to your next question…

Can you share a specific scene from your book that closely mirrors a real-life experience? How did it feel to immortalize that moment in literature?

I had a few what I call anchor scenes that happened to me as I’ve mentioned before so I wanted to stay true to those as they added a kind of realness to the fiction because I could write them with authenticity. I thought about doing a memoir, but I decided in the end that I wanted to do have fun creating a story too as there were such fun places to insert some humor and off the beaten path Parisian moments that would add a little fun to what wasn’t always a pleasant experience. 


How do you hope your story will resonate with readers, especially those who may relate to your experiences?


I hope my story will resonate with readers the way they need it too. I think there are layers to this story, and I hope readers will find the places in those layers that offers them reflection, refuge and belonging. I really want women to come away feeling empowered and that they have been on a fun yet heart stretching trip to Paris the city dreams are made of.

Starting a new journey later in life can be daunting, but for Alexandra Antonopoulos, the decision to dive into her passion for music was a lifeline. As the creative force behind Honeycrush, Alexandra shares her deeply personal and inspiring story of overcoming fear and internalized ageism to pursue her dreams. In this interview, she opens up about the pivotal moments and challenges she faced, the joy of creating music, and the rewarding experiences that have shaped her journey. Her words serve as a powerful reminder that it’s never too late to follow your passions and that the pursuit of happiness and self-fulfillment is always worth the effort.

How did you overcome the fear and internalized ageism when starting your musical journey? 

I needed to make music or I was going to implode. I think when you have stakes that high — your overall mental health and potentially living the rest of your life miserable because you didn’t go for it — it’s very easy to get over your doubts and any prejudices you might have. I’d gotten progressively more miserable realizing that music was something I wanted to do but wasn’t doing and I knew my options were either go for it or spend the rest of my life in regret.

Can you describe the moment when you first picked up the guitar and how it felt?

The guitar felt huge and I felt really incapable. But I also felt so joyful and like I’d just won a prize. I was excited to start and I knew that that moment was going to be the hardest moment, because it was the point at which I’d know the least, but that every moment thereafter I’d know more, feel more comfortable, be closer to playing some notes! Most importantly I knew I’d given myself permission to actually try writing a song, to finally give myself the chance to make music, instead of wondering if I could.

What challenges did you face while learning to play, produce, and write music?

The challenge to sit down and work on something that you can’t do yet is a big hurdle. I think that’s why a lot of people quit. Forcing yourself to try to play a chord when your hands can’t do it yet is frustrating but that’s the growth part. My partner is a musician so it was always nerve-wracking to share something I’d written with them because you have no frame of reference to know whether what you’ve made is “good" but all these years of emotions — insecurities and pride and self-doubt but fierce ambition — all kind of bumping up against each other in your brain as you play it for them. The first year took a lot of emotional resilience. I was really sensitive about it even when I thought I wasn’t.

What has been the most rewarding experience since you started Honeycrush?

What I’m working on now is definitely the most exciting thing I’ve done so far. Learning to play really killer shows with my band and shaping the direction of our sound has been so special. Feeling like I’m making conscious choices instead of just seeing what comes out has been artistically very rewarding.

How did it feel to have one of your songs picked up by a TV show?

It was surreal. Debi Mazar was in the scene and I was just thinking, “Wow, that’s Debi Mazar,” haha. An actress I’ve seen my whole life in the same scene as my song! It was incredible and I felt very lucky.

What advice would you give to other women who feel like they might be "too old" to start pursuing their passions?

The alternative is being unhappy for the rest of your life. Does that sound more appealing than worrying someone somewhere might say you’re “too old” for something? You just have to do it. You owe yourself the happiness, the satisfaction of being in alignment with your truest self, and fuck the idiots who say shit like that. They’re miserable.

How do you stay motivated and inspired to keep creating and performing?

I relate to the world through music. I could sit in a room all day and write songs. And I truly feel like I’m in harmony with the universe when I’m singing. The love of it doesn’t require any motivation, but I know the business is tough. I have a lot of energy to write and learn and fight to book shows or drive a long way to a practice space or work extra freelance hours to afford a van rental because this almost didn’t happen. I’m grateful every day that I woke up and finally trusted myself. If the day ever comes that I don’t feel that way, I’ll stop. But I doubt I’ll ever stop.

Can you share any upcoming projects or goals you have for Honeycrush?

Right now, we’re getting ready to play our first out of town shows and our first summer festivals. I can’t believe I’m even saying that because a year ago I was so nervous to play at an open mic that I was always on the verge of tears. And a new EP will be coming out late fall that feels like the best work I’ve done yet. I just want to play for everyone in the world and keep experiencing the euphoria of making music.

What message do you hope your music conveys to your listeners?

I write a lot about self-discovery and the experience of being a woman, typically by excavating a lot of painful experiences from my own life. Figuring out who you are and what you’re about can be messy but it’s important and I hope listeners relate to that.

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Meet Alyssa, the creative force behind KapwaPaper, a stationery brand born from a passion for journaling, vintage aesthetics, and sustainability. Alyssa's journey from the fashion retail industry to starting her own business is a testament to resilience and creativity, particularly after facing the challenges of a layoff during the pandemic. Through KapwaPaper, Alyssa channels her love for unique, handmade paper goods and vintage ephemera, all while promoting sustainable living. Her story is one of turning adversity into a beautiful, purposeful endeavor, inspiring others to embrace their creative passions and make environmentally conscious choices.

What inspired you to start KapwaPaper, and how did you come up with the name?

KapwaPaper was born out of my love of journaling and stationery along with an enthusiasm for vintage and sustainability. With a professional background in the fashion retail industry and witnessing the waste of the industry firsthand, I was excited to put a sustainable and handmade twist into my own journey with stationery and journaling. “Kapwa'' comes from the Filipino words that can be translated from the English words “togetherness” “kindred” and “community.” I know how stationery nerds like myself can find comfort in the analog community of paper and stationery, so I saw it fitting to bring these together through KapwaPaper.

Can you share a bit about your personal journey and how it has influenced your work with KapwaPaper?

KapwaPaper came about after being let go from a job that I loved which left me feeling empty about what to do next. If anyone who has been through a mass layoff knows, finding a new job is stressful and difficult especially as it was in the midst of the pandemic so I found myself embracing journaling including creative and collage journaling. This then grew into KapwaPaper and its focus on vintage ephemera and handmade paper goods. In addition, my work is fueled by the unique one-of-a-kind vintage find, which I believe creates a deeper connection to its buyer and makes for a more intentional shopping experience.

What challenges or struggles did you face when starting your business, and how did you overcome them?

The challenges were plentiful and there’s always a struggle of some sort, but I think one of the biggest challenges in the beginning was imposter syndrome. With so many amazing stationery shops out there, it's easy to feel like you don't measure up, especially as an introvert. Sometimes, the mind can play tricks on you as you scroll through social media, making you doubt your own capabilities. While there's always a bit of imposter syndrome lingering, I overcome it by reminding myself that social media and the internet often don't reflect the full picture. Recognizing the value and uniqueness of my own work helps me push through those doubts.

How does journaling contribute to mental clarity, and how is that reflected in the products you offer? 

Journaling provides a space for self-reflection and emotional expression, helping to organize and understand one's experiences. It requires no creativity but can inspire it, much like the pieces in my shop. Each product at KapwaPaper is thoughtfully curated and crafted to inspire creativity and emotion, whether it’s using vintage ephemera to decorate a journal or gifting a handmade bookmark to a friend. I hope the care and attention I put into every item inspires others on their own creative practices.

What advice would you give to other women looking to start their own creative projects or businesses?

Fear regret more than failure. There’s nothing worse than that “what if” feeling. If your gut says go for it, then go for it. When someone wants to start their own project whether they are pursuing it as a hobby or a business, there really is no time like the present. Just stay your authentic self and go!

How do you infuse vintage vibes into your work, and why is this aesthetic important to you?

Vintage is at the heart of my work. I believe there's a unique beauty in items that once held significance in the past. They add character and depth to my creations. Plus, using vintage materials is sustainable—no new resources or waste are generated, as I repurpose what already exists.

Can you describe a moment or experience that validated your decision to pursue KapwaPaper?

One moment that validated my decision to pursue KapwaPaper was when someone referred to my work as "art." Initially, this began as just a hobby and something to give my days purpose after losing my job, and even though I opened an Etsy shop that grew alongside it, I never saw my creations as "art." Hearing someone refer to my work as “art” shifted my perspective and made me understand there is actual value and creativity in what I do.

How do you balance creativity and practicality in your designs and business approach?

I’m fortunate to have a passion for both my creative and analytical sides. While I love fashion, color, and art, I also enjoy organization and spreadsheets. Though I'm a maximalist at heart, as I’ve grown to value minimalism and intentional choices, including being sustainable thanks to my experience within the fashion industry. This balance between creativity and practicality is essential to me, guiding my designs and business approach.

What impact do you hope KapwaPaper will have on your customers or the community?

I hope KapwaPaper encourages people to become more aware of and passionate about living sustainably. By offering vintage ephemera and handmade paper goods, I aim to show how beautiful and meaningful repurposed materials can be. I want to inspire my customers to incorporate sustainability into their creative projects and even their daily lives, fostering a community that values both creativity and environmental responsibility.

What role does sustainability play in your business practices, if any?

Sustainability is integral to every aspect of my business, especially considering the shop’s focus on vintage ephemera and handmade stationery. I'm dedicated to minimizing waste by recycling, reusing, and repurposing materials whenever possible and as creatively as I can. Additionally, I prioritize eco-friendly packaging, opting for biodegradable and recycled envelopes to minimize environmental impact.

What are your future plans or goals for KapwaPaper?

My future plans for KapwaPaper involve expanding its product offerings by sourcing more creative vintage ephemera suitable for journaling and other stationery purposes. Additionally, I aspire to become a source of inspiration for others to live more sustainably and intentionally even outside of their stationery and creative lives. In pursuit of this goal, I aim to hold workshops on creative journaling and with vintage ephemera, fostering a community dedicated to sustainable and intentional living and creative expression.

Lastly, how can people best support you and your business?

People can best support by following me on Instagram (@ kapwapaper) and being an active follower through comments! I love discussions! People can also take a look at my Etsy shop (kapwapaper.etsy.com) to see if anything catches their eye!

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Elana Weinstein, an artist and entrepreneur whose journey of rediscovering her creative passion amidst the challenges of the pandemic has been nothing short of transformative. Through her platform, CTOW (Counting the Omer Within), Elana intertwines her Jewish heritage, spirituality, and artistic expression to inspire positive change, promote healing, and contribute to the concept of "tikkun olam" (repairing the world). In this interview, Elana shares her insights on the profound connection between creativity, spirituality, and mental well-being, along with her vision for the future of her creative journey and the impact she hopes to make through her art and message. Get ready for an easy read that's as inspirational as it is enlightening.

Can you share more about your personal journey and how the pandemic influenced your decision to reconnect with your creative side?

Ever since I was young, I have viewed and lived through the world creating without really knowing it. When the pandemic hit, I found myself in my childhood home in the basement, contemplating why I was there and how I got there figuratively and literally. I began to go deeper into the unknown but knew at the same time it was time to create again. I looked at my old color pencils, How much I missed them, the feeling, the connection I felt when I was creating and in the still. 

What challenges did you face while rediscovering your artistic passion, and how did you overcome them?

SOOOO many, I was let go from jobs, opportunities didn't work, a LOT of re-direction occurred that brought me into "dark night of the soul." I had to go deep within to really look at not only my life but what I want out of it and my CALLING. I am not sure how I did tbh, it got pretty challenging and dark at times, my art and connection to the practice of CTOW that I created and brought into my life was my safe haven.

How has your Jewish heritage and spirituality influenced your art and creative process?

It has played a HUGE part. I would not be creating what I am now if I wasn't connected to my Jewish heritage and spirituality. I absolutely think the moments that I felt a void or something missing it has always been my relationship with my Jewish mysticism and creativity, they are me, and I am it. It is my life-force, it helps me stay not only grounded but dream things and ideas into existence. 

Can you discuss a specific piece of art that holds special meaning to you and explain its significance?

CTOW! Here it goes, more on the older blog post here, too:

What lessons have you learned about balancing creativity and professional responsibilities, especially within the nonprofit sector? 

After more than a decade in the nonprofit sector, I've learned firsthand the importance of embracing my identity fully and charting my own path. While navigating the delicate balance between my professional responsibilities and creativity, it became evident that I needed to venture into the unknown and pursue my entrepreneurial endeavors which has not come without sacrifice and hardships financially, emotionally, spiritually and everything in between. 

Transitioning out of the nonprofit sector full-time was a challenging decision, yet essential for me to fully immerse myself in nurturing and expanding upon my creative vision.

As my creative ventures began to flourish, I recognized the necessity of prioritizing my mental health alongside cultivating my creativity. These two aspects are intertwined, requiring intentional care and attention to ensure sustainable growth and fulfillment.

How do you believe creativity and spirituality can contribute to mental well-being and healing, particularly for women in high-impact roles?

Creativity and spirituality play profound roles in fostering mental well-being and healing, especially for women in high-impact roles. Creativity offers a channel for self-expression and exploration, allowing individuals to process emotions, navigate challenges, and cultivate resilience. 

Engaging in creative practices such as art, music, writing, or crafting provides a therapeutic outlet for stress relief and emotional release. For women in high-impact roles, who often face immense pressure and responsibilities, tapping into their creative side can offer a vital source of rejuvenation and self-care. 

Similarly, spirituality provides a framework for finding meaning, purpose, and connection to something greater than oneself. Whether through religious practices, meditation, mindfulness, or connecting with nature, spirituality offers solace and guidance during times of difficulty. It can serve as a source of inner strength, resilience, and perspective, helping women in high-impact roles navigate challenges with grace and authenticity.

By integrating creativity and spirituality into their lives, women in high-impact roles can cultivate holistic well-being, fostering mental, emotional, and spiritual resilience. These practices empower them to nurture themselves, maintain balance, and sustain their effectiveness in their professional endeavors while prioritizing their mental health and overall wellness.

What advice would you give to individuals who are hesitant to pursue their artistic interests or feel disconnected from their creative side?

For individuals hesitant to pursue their artistic interests or feeling disconnected from their creative side, I would offer the following advice:

1. Embrace experimentation: Start by exploring different forms of creativity without pressure or expectations. Try various artistic mediums, such as painting, writing, cooking, or gardening, to discover what resonates with you.
   
2. Cultivate curiosity: Approach creativity with an open mind and a sense of curiosity. Allow yourself to explore new ideas, techniques, and perspectives without judgment or self-criticism.
   
3. Start small: Break down creative pursuits into manageable tasks or projects. Set aside dedicated time each day or week to engage in creative activities, even if it's just for a few minutes.
   
4. Practice self-compassion: Be kind to yourself throughout the creative process. Understand that creativity is a journey, and it's okay to make mistakes or encounter challenges along the way.
   
5. Seek inspiration: Surround yourself with sources of inspiration, whether it's through books, artwork, nature, or conversations with other creatives. Draw inspiration from diverse sources to spark your creativity and ignite your passion.
   
6. Embrace imperfection: Let go of the need for perfection and embrace the beauty of imperfection in your creative endeavors. Recognize that creativity is about self-expression and personal growth, rather than achieving flawless results.
   
7. Connect with others: Join creative communities, workshops, or classes where you can connect with like-minded individuals and gain support and encouragement. Sharing your creative journey with others can provide valuable feedback, inspiration, and camaraderie.
   
8. Cultivate intuition: Tune into your inner voice and trust your instincts when it comes to creative decision-making. Pay attention to subtle cues, feelings, and insights that guide you towards meaningful creative expressions. Trusting your intuition can lead to unique and authentic artistic creations.

Remember that creativity is a natural and inherent part of being human. By taking small steps, exploring new possibilities, and nurturing your creative spark, you can reconnect with your artistic interests, inner child and unlock your full creative potential.

Can you share a memorable experience or achievement related to your art that has been particularly inspiring or fulfilling for you?

One particularly memorable experience related to my art journey is related to my venture, CTOW has been the freedom to explore and experiment with various mediums, messaging, colors, and vibes. This platform has provided me with a canvas to express myself authentically and unapologetically, allowing me to tap into different aspects of my creativity and identity.

Through this exploration, I've not only transformed my artistic expression but also my personal style, thoughts, and emotions. The process of experimenting with different creative elements has translated into how I dress, think, and feel, leading to a more holistic and integrated sense of self.

Moreover, CTOW has connected me with diverse communities where I feel fully accepted and embraced for who I am. These communities have become a source of inspiration, support, and encouragement, allowing me to thrive creatively and personally. Being a part of these communities has been deeply fulfilling, as I've found a sense of belonging and camaraderie that empowers me to be myself entirely.

In essence, the journey of artistic exploration within CTOW has been a transformative and empowering experience, shaping not only my creative expression but also my sense of identity, belonging, and fulfillment.

How do you envision the future of your creative journey and the impact you hope to make through your art and message?

As I look ahead to the future of my creative journey, I envision a path filled with continued growth, exploration, and meaningful impact. My goal is to leverage my art and message to inspire positive change, foster connection, and promote healing on both individual and collective levels.

I aspire to expand the reach of my creative endeavors through CTOW and beyond, reaching diverse audiences and communities with my authentic expression and messages of empowerment, self-discovery, and social change. Through my art, I hope to spark conversations, challenge perspectives, and ignite passion and action for a more just, equitable, and compassionate world.

Moreover, I aim to create inclusive spaces where individuals from all walks of life feel seen, heard, and valued. Whether through workshops, events, or digital platforms, I intend to cultivate communities where creativity thrives, and people feel empowered to embrace their unique identities and voices.

Ultimately, my vision is to leave a lasting impact through my art by inspiring others to embrace their creativity,  connect  with their inner selves, and contribute to positive change in the world. I believe that by staying true to my authentic expression and purpose, I can make a meaningful difference and leave a legacy of love, compassion, and empowerment through my creative journey.

What role do you think art plays in promoting social change and contributing to the concept of "tikkun olam" (repairing the world)

Art plays a powerful role in promoting social change and contributing to the concept of "tikkun olam," or repairing the world, by serving as a catalyst for awareness, empathy, and action.

Firstly, art has the ability to shine a spotlight on social issues and injustices, bringing them to the forefront of public consciousness. Through visual representations, storytelling, and creative expression, artists can shed light on systemic issues such as inequality, discrimination, and environmental degradation, inspiring viewers to reflect, empathize, and engage with these issues on a deeper level.

Moreover, art has the potential to foster empathy and understanding by providing a platform for marginalized voices to be heard and stories to be shared. Through art, individuals can connect with the lived experiences of others, challenging preconceived notions and fostering a sense of solidarity and compassion across diverse communities.

Additionally, art has the power to inspire action and mobilize individuals towards positive change. Whether through protest art, community murals, or multimedia installations, artists can galvanize people to advocate for justice, equity, and sustainability, amplifying voices and driving collective action towards a more just and equitable society.

In essence, art serves as a powerful tool and catalyst for promoting social change and contributing to the concept of "tikkun olam" by raising awareness, fostering empathy, and inspiring action towards repairing the world and creating a brighter future for all.

Links:

https://www.atthewellproject.com/blog/counting-the-omer-reclaiming-my-spark

https://tikkunelana.my.canva.site/ctowartistjourney

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