1. Understanding FEAR is the number 1 reason we don’t change.
Everybody experiences fear and it might relate to business, self-worth, relationships, traveling a sometimes it’s spiders. Fear becomes a big problem when the unknown, or our limiting beliefs, become a strong enough reason for us to stay stuck in the life we are living. Life might be comfortable and safe, but if you’ve got a nagging feeling that something needs to change and you are too scared to, then comfortable isn’t good enough. This is when you need to embrace your courage, step through the fear and chase the life you want. Which leads to number 2.
2. How will your life be impacted if you don’t move past your fear and make some changes?
This one really hit home for me a few years ago, and it was recently raised at another event which crystalized it for me. I had been living a comfortable life, I could pay my bills, go out for dinner or brunch, I had a good circle of friends and I was healthy, but I wasn’t happy with my life and had a constant, nagging voice telling me to do something about it. I wasn’t living the life I knew I could, BUT I was too scared to change because my old limiting beliefs were scarier to me than where I was in my life. I wanted to change, but my reason why I had to change wasn’t great enough.
How did I get over it? Imagine your life in 10 or 20 years if you never change. Imagine your life if you never say YES to exciting, but unknown opportunities. Imagine if you never take risks. Imagine if you never resolve or let go of pain. Imagine if you never allowed yourself to get close to people because you were scared of getting hurt? Imagine if you stay stuck in a mundane job that gives you zero satisfaction. How would that impact your life?
I can tell you right now, that if you never change and never grow, your future will not be very good. I did this exercise, and as awful as it was at the time, I created a pain so bad that it was enough to make me take instant action and never hold myself back because of these fears.
3. TIME is the fairest resource of all.
‘I don’t have enough time’. It’s a common excuse for people not to change, but everybody gets the same amount of time. Don’t they? You and I have the same amount of hours in a day. You have the same amount of time as Oprah. You have the same amount of time as Barack Obama. You have the same amount of time as the people you admire the most. We all have the same amount of time, the difference is how we use it.
If you really don’t know how to find time, use a diary for a few days and allocate time to what you want to do, switch off the television and turn on ‘down time’ on your phone and do whatever it is you want to do.
4. Your physical body (health) needs to be your #1 priority.
Think about it. If you’ve been eating well, exercising and generally looking after you, you feel good don’t you? You don’t get as angry as you do when you feel flat or frustrated. You function better at work, in business, in relationships, at the gym, in every area of your life. It just makes sense.
So I challenge you to implement something positive today to improve your health. It might be you have a glass of water as soon as you wake up. To eat more fruit and vegetables or incorporate raw food into your diet. Exercise a little bit more. Stop drinking coffee or sugary drinks. It can be anything you want, but initially, keep it simple, keep track of your progress and be aware of your results.
5. Who you spend time with is who you will become.
A harsh reality… But hands up (my hand is definitely up), if in the past you decided to change something in your life (food, exercise, sleep, alcohol, anything positive), and you start off really well and you’re killing it! But the people around you still have the same bad habits and don’t want to change. Then, after some time, your high standard for the ‘new you’ comes down a little, then a little bit more, then you are back where you started from because everyone around you is still there. Is your hand up??
I thought it might be. We have all done it. So surround yourself with people who are going to support and encourage you, and find people who have what you want, or are considered experts in the same area and learn from them. Don’t see them as competition, see them as mentors and inspiration.
While these five points, while seemingly obvious are super important to change the way you think and act, I want to add one more little thing…