For the Girl Who’s..Reality doesnt match her Expectation

Chapter intro: “When a photographer can’t change a scene, he changes his angle and lens to capture the best of that scene. Similarly, when you can’t change a situation in life, change your perspective and mindset to get the best out of that situation”-Lokesh Mahale

I did an internship in London the summer before heading back to the States after a year teaching abroad in Spain.

The ideas I had of channeling my inner Corporate queen from 9-5pm and hitting Happy Hours after work with all my new British ‘mates’ came to an abrupt end when I realized my reality was a ~2 hour work commute to an unheard of city outside of London with not a skyscraper or happy hour hotspot in sight. 

I found myself thinking, “My blazer and high heels don’t belong here- God, why am I not in the city center amongst the corporate hustle? I know you can open the door, why haven’t you? I really thought you led me here, did I get it wrong?” 

This type of thinking -combined with the fact that I am commitment phobic and prone to uproot at the slightest inconvenience- almost led me to book my flight back to LA the first week after arriving. 

After weeks of these frustrated prayers I finally came to the point where I asked God to speak to me. And like He always does, He met me where I was. He saw me. He heard me. And He answered me. 

For the girl who’s frustrated and confused on what this season is all about and why it isn’t everything you thought it would be- May I ask when the last time you listened to God was? 

Perhaps He’s brought you here to be a light to someone who needs you. Perhaps He’s brought you here to teach you something you will need later. Perhaps He didnt bring you here, but He’s going to use it for good anyways. 

Only He truly knows- so make room to listen to Him, and in the meantime you can


1) Stay Grateful

“True joy doesn’t depend on circumstances or environment; it is a gift that must be chosen and cultivated, a gift that ultimately comes from God “James 1:2-4) 

Change your language from: “What can I get?” To “How can I give?” 

From “I have to” to “I get to”. 

2) Remember your Mission

Then Jesus told his disciples, “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me. For whoever would save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will find it”. Matthew 16:24-26

Look up from your world and remember this is bigger than you! It’s not your purpose, it’s God’s purpose. He’s fulfilling something special through you, and it might not make sense, but that’s what faith is about- obeying in spite of not knowing. 

You are here on assignment- Take up your cross, friend and bring it back to focus. 


Who will you show up as when life hands you lemons? 

You stepped out in faith and are now in a spot that isn’t living up to be everything you thought it would be. While you can’t always control your circumstances, you can control how you think about it, what you believe, and your attitude. 

Let today be the day a fresh spirit falls upon you. 

Let today be the day you decide to turn those lemons into lemonade. 

Let today be the day you decide there is no uprooting. That you are going to bloom where you are planted until God gives you the peace to move. 

4) Pray: Ask God to reveal to you what this is all about and how it fits into His perfect plan for your life.

5) Watch ”The Uncomfortable Advantage” sermon by Pastor Sarah Jakes Roberts


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by diazgrace17

Hi! My names Grace and I am a faith blogger. When I envision a “2020 Faith blogger” I picture a woman in her late 20s/early 30s with 2 toddlers, a loving husband, Culinary Queen, Prayer Group Hostess, Devoted Leader within her Church community..basically our modern society’s version of the Proverbs 31 Virtuous Woman.

And then there’s me:

-I am 26 years old
-In the past two years I’ve went from quitting my corporate job in NYC, to being “FUNemployed” in LA, to working as a teacher in Spain, to working in HR in London, to being unemployed again, and now working in HR in NYC.
-I’ve never had a serious relationship, and I’ll admit I oftentimes date guys just to feed my ego in the short term when I know they aren’t for me in the long term
-I feel accomplished when I cook something without setting off the smoke detector
-I am a bit nomadic- I’ve lived in Turkey, San Diego, NYC, LA, Madrid, and London in the past 5 years which makes it hard to get plugged into a church community
As you can see, I am a girl just trying to get through this simply complicated thing we call LIFE.

I am continuously learning, adapting, and aiming to become more like God’s vision of me. With a spirit of confidence & faith in knowing Jeremiah 29:11:

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future”.


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