The death of a loved one is an irreplaceable loss. Even if you saw it coming for a while, the pain of losing someone you’re close to is unbearable. After the initial shock and disbelief sets in, you’re left with a mammoth void in your life. Even if you try to normalize things by getting back to your routine life, grief has its unique ways of hitting you.
Living in the times of a raging pandemic, the fear of loss and the anguish of grief has only been exacerbated. Don’t be surprised if you often catch yourself pondering whether your loved ones will succumb to the virus. Dealing with such a loss in these stressful times can be particularly heartbreaking.
While there isn’t a right way to grieve, it’s important that you find your means to heal. If you or someone you know has lost a loved one, here are a few things you can do to heal:
Everyone Grieves Differently
Grief doesn’t come with a handy user manual. Every person has a different way of dealing with death and loss. Even if you belong to the same family, you’ll find that individual family members will react to the death of a loved of differently. While some may choose to immediately move on with their lives, others will take their time to cope. And that’s completely fine.
Try not to harbor any anger or resentment for family members/friends who choose to move on. The last thing you want is to drive them away while you’re dealing with such an insurmountable loss. Instead, you should respect their decision, stay in touch, and never stop sharing your feelings with them.
It’s Okay to Be Vulnerable
You can’t rush your way through grief. Just because others are getting back to their normal lives, you don’t have to do the same. You don’t have to put up a stern face and go about doing routine chores and running errands. It’s okay to take a timeout and sulk in your room for a couple of days or more days.
Cry your heart out if it makes you feel better. Don’t be afraid to express your vulnerabilities to others as well. It’s okay to cry in front of others and not want to go to work for a while. The important thing is to let your mind and body process the overwhelming emotions you’re feeling right now.
Let People In
When faced with an irreversible loss like death, our immediate response is to retreat into a shell. The biggest mistake you can make during this time is to shut yourself away from the people who care about you. Grief is excruciatingly painful, but it’s easier to get through when you’re not alone.
If you don’t feel like reaching out to people, that’s fine. But if there are friends and family members who want to be with you during this tough time, don’t push them away. You’d be surprised to find how much better your day can get when you’re surrounded by people who love you.
It’s also important to share your feelings with others. Sometimes, giving words to emotions and expressing them in front of others can make you feel better. But you should do this only when you’re ready to talk about the loss.
Find Closure with a Psychic
When a loved one ceases to physically exist, you’re left with a cornucopia of unanswered questions, unsaid words, and unexpressed feelings. This is particularly true when you’re dealing with sudden and unnatural deaths. Nevertheless, finding closure with the loved one is an important part of grieving.
You can turn to spiritual modalities including tarot readings and astrology readings to find some answers. You can also consider working with a psychic to reconnect with your loved one. If you’re a skeptic, try considering real free online psychics before taking the actual plunge. An insightful psychic reading can go a long way to sort out unresolved issues and help you understand the whys, how,s and what-ifs.
Celebrate the Memories
No. You’re never going to move on from the death of a loved one and the immeasurable loss associated with it. You need to find a way to continue living without them. What can make this process easier is to think about all the great moments you’ve shared with them. Talk about them with your friends and family and explain what made them special. Celebrate their life by treasuring the countless memories of the deceased person.
Death is the inevitable reality of life. Despite knowing this, dealing with the death of a loved one can take a toll on any person’s physical and mental wellbeing. It’s important to give yourself the time and space to fully grasp the loss and recover from it. Prioritizing your needs, paying attention to your feelings, and keeping them alive in your memory is the only way forward.