In the Age of Connectivity, Why Do I Feel So Disconnected?

With how integrated social media is in our everyday lives, I find it hard to differentiate the true relationships from the acquaintances anymore. When it takes two seconds to reach out and message someone, it becomes easy to trick yourself into thinking you are maintaining a relationship. However, this ability to “connect” within anyone instantaneously is a significant problem for those of us with anxiety.

With Facebook’s memories, I find myself constantly reminded of great conversations I’ve had with people, frequently sharing it back with them and saying, “Miss you! We should do it again sometime.”

No response.

A couple of weeks later, realizing they never responded, I end up asking if they got my message.

Then after another week of no response, panicking and saying, “Ok, I’ll stop bothering you.”

I know we live in a time where everyone is busy and we’ve created a burnout culture where people seem to feel if you’re not engaged in something 24/7, you’re not successful — but is it really that hard to shoot back a, “Miss you too,” “Sorry my schedule is really hectic right now,” or, “Yeah, you’re right, I’m not really into this friendship.” The ghost mentality of, “I’ll just ignore them until they go away,” is in my mind a pretty cruel and unusual punishment for people who genuinely care about you and your well-being. But hey, maybe to them, you’re only worth an occasional like on a post rather than any extended measure of time, mental energy or effort. Maybe they think you should just get the hint.

It’s just such a shame that we’ve created a world where communication is at our fingertips at all times and yet we’ve become exceptionally bad at communicating, devoid of empathy, and restrictive with our time and compassion.

by xpc454

Dr. Allison Quintanilla Plattsmier was born and raised in Nashville, TN. She graduated summa cum laude from the University of Tennessee at Chattanooga with a B.S. in Political Science: Public Administration and Nonprofit Management and a minor in Entrepreneurship. She went on to receive her M.Ed. in Community Development and Action from Vanderbilt University’s Peabody College and her Doctorate of Education in Leadership and Professional Practice at Trevecca Nazarene University. She completed an Elite Masters of Business Administration in four months through Smartly and is a Certified Nonprofit Professional, Certified Fund Raising Executive, SHRM Certified Professional, and Associate Professional in Human Resources.

Allison has a wealth of experience in the nonprofit sector including Associate Director of Programs and Development for the Transit Alliance of Middle Tennessee, Community Investment Manager for NeedLink Nashville, and Executive Director of the Tennessee Intercollegiate State Legislature (TISL) Foundation. She currently serves as Executive Director of the Jordan Thomas Foundation, as Project Manager of a nonprofit she founded called Close the Loop, and runs her own nonprofit consulting business, AQP Consulting. She has raised over $1.2 million throughout her time in the nonprofit sector earning her recognition as one of AFP’s 2018 Outstanding Young Professionals and specializes in nonprofit governance, strategic planning, donor psychology, and grant writing.

She is a member of the Rotary Club of Nashville, Nashville Kiwanis, Nashville Cable, the Association of Latino Professionals for America (ALPFA), Junior League of Nashville, Nashville Junior Chamber, the Association of Fundraising Professionals (AFP), MT|SHRM, Ellevate Network, the Young Nonprofit Professionals Network (YNPN), the National Association of Women MBAs, Pi Sigma Alpha Political Honor Society, and Golden Key International Honor Society. She serves as Secretary and Awards Chair on the board of Doing Good, as a board member and Professional & Civic Engagement Committee member for Futuro, as a board member and Civic Outreach Chair for Nashville Cable, as Treasurer of Healing Arts Project, Inc. (HAPI), and as an advisory board member of Moves & Grooves.

In her free time, she enjoys volunteering, reading, singing, kickboxing, and hanging out with her phenomenal husband, Kris, their son Quintan, and their three cats, Sheena, Jacinda, and Milo.

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