Miscellaneous

COPING WITH THE TRAGIC AND SUDDEN DEATH OF MY CLOSE FRIEND

We associate certain kinds of music, scents, flowers, animals, colors or images with different stages of our life. One song that has an extra personal meaning to me because of a very terrible incident that happened a few years after I graduated from high school. Let me explain the story. The song is a very popular song by the rock group Styx: “Come Sail Away.” The beginning of the song is slow then gradually gets a tempo and a fast beat. The slow part really gets me, especially the verse: I remember high school friends and me With our dreams I start to cry when I hear this verse as well as the beginning of the song with just the music before Dennis DeYoung starts singing. It is a wonderful song, after all it stayed on the charts for a whopping two years and initially sold over ...

THE CELEBRATION

Vanesa looked around at her friends and family with admiration. They had gathered together to celebrate her 30th birthday. Everyone knew that birthdays were important to her and she always had huge gatherings on her special day. Vanesa looked around at everyone laughing, eating, and drinking; she was enjoying the warm, loving atmosphere that surrounded her. As she stood up to make her thank you speech, she gently tinged her fork against the wine glass. “Could I have everyone’s attention, please?” she said in an elated tone. “Thank you so much for being here today. I have reached my wonderful 30s and I am so glad that everyone could make it to celebrate with me.” She paused as the room erupted into applause and cheers. “We are here to celebrate me and my awesome existence on earth for the p...

WOMEN THAT ROCK + HARNESS MAG – JULY ARTIST FEATURES

WOMEN THAT ROCK + HARNESS MAG – JULY ARTIST FEATURES Angela Page Angela Page is the blue-haired, cool-girl front woman of Florida punk band the Young Dead. She can be found laying it all out onstage during her electrifying performances, and head-banging front row in the pit at a Distillers show, where the team at Women That Rock first discovered her. As the front woman of the Young Dead, Angela plays rhythm guitar, sings, and pens the band’s lyrics. The band’s debut EP ‘Righteous Violence’ was released earlier this year, and highlight’s Page’s voice as the centerpiece for the album’s visceral rage and vulnerability. Formed by Page in 2012, she has called Young Dead her “first love.” As if being a punk rock princess isn’t enough, Page is also the Founder of Love Your...

PSYCHOLOGIST, PSYCHIATRIST, LSW, WHICH ONE?

Mental Health is becoming less taboo which is a wonderful thing. Many times in conversation a friend will bring up the need or want to talk to someone. There are so many options. Do you go to a licensed social worker? Do you see a psychologist? Do you see a psychiatrist? What are the differences? How do I know what I need? Is it possible to have remote counseling because I have a busy schedule? I am going to attempt to answer some of those questions in this post. The main difference between a psychologist and a psychiatrist is that a psychiatrist has gone to medical school. They can prescribe medication and help with medication management. Psychologists focus on different types of psychotherapy and typically treat patients with coping skills and behavioral intervention. The most frequent t...

TIPS FROM A SERVER

It’s my day off. I’m drinking a glass of cheap gas station wine in my pajamas at 2 p.m. If this isn’t the ideal writing environment, I don’t know what is. Well, I suppose a beach, some sunshine and a bougie bottle of champagne might top this, but that’s beside the point. There’s a point, you ask? Well, yes. Sort of. Hopefully. I’ve been a lot of things professionally, but for the most part, the majority of my adulthood bills have been paid via my serving or bar tending jobs — hence the cheap gas station wine, ha! As I begin to enter the next phase of my professional journey, I’ve had time to reflect on the life lessons I have absorbed while serving others. When I was 14 I started working at a greasy, hole in the wall diner. By the time I was 17, I’d upgraded to a swanky five star establish...

SHE DRIP

She had been dripping down the looking glass for years. While people watched the Drip. Drip. Drip. into the bowl underneath where breathing souls finally fell into themselves. But she was less concerned about when she would fall into the water bowl than how she looked to the people standing around watching. And this tortured her, knowing how foolish her preoccupations. Once, another drop gained her path and they became one piece of wet slipping down faster to the water bowl. surrendered to each other’s weight. She liked it. Their drops one piece of wet magnifying. obscuring. the people watching their drip. But someone screamed outside the looking glass on a no reference afternoon and the glass shook. She looked up, then down. saw the eyes again of the people watching her drip. now with mor...

ALL WOMEN TURNING 60 SHOULD CELEBRATE IN STYLE: HERE’S HOW AND WHY

Hitting the big six-oh doesn’t mean your life is suddenly confined to sensible walking shoes, tweed skirts and brown cardigans. No siree. You may be wondering where the last decade has disappeared to with memories of your fiftieth celebrations as clear as if they were yesterday. But before you get all maudlin about life being over, give yourself a sharp shrift talking to. There’s plenty more joy and fun to come, and you’ll never get a more perfect birthday to throw down the gauntlet and celebrate in style. Here are five fabulous ways to celebrate your 60th birthday and five very good reasons why you simply must.   How to celebrate your 60th in style: Throw the mother of all parties. Once upon a time 60 years ago a beautiful baby was born (that’s you). Growing up you dreamed of being a...

BORN TO B.S.- HOW STORYTELLING HAS STUCK WITH ME

Often when I talk to others about my interest — no — passion for writing I’m asked why that is or what piqued my interest. Some people are even a little surprised. I hope their surprise doesn’t stem from my guilt of typos and grammatical errors. Look, I’m a creator of all things made up — not a perfectionist. If my imagination and creative thought process were represented in the form of a room it would be filthy, messy and half-done. A basic sh*t-on-the-wall case scenario. You get the point. Apologies for the visual of sh*t. Try not to visualize that whilst reading my work. Writing definitely infiltrated my life from an early age. Like some culty book enthusiasts, my parents and other family members were well read and it filtered down to us kids. I was a child who loved books and reading. ...

INDIAN WOMAN

When I was a girl, I read a story I found odd at the time. Many of the story’s details escape me, but the core of the story has been burned into my psyche. It was about an elderly American Indian woman living with her extended family as viewed through the eyes of her great-granddaughter. As so often is the case, many traditions and beliefs get lost from generation to generation. The woman was often dismissed and misunderstood by her family because of her native beliefs and age. Perhaps, her very existence was an uncomfortable reminder of the close familial link between them, and the savage, villains they once represented in the black and white cowboy and Indian movies with a firm footing in Americana. The elderly grandmother seemed sad and out of time to the little girl in the story. Possi...

GHOSTS ARE REAL

A few nights ago, in the darkness of my bedroom at the witching hour, I was visited by a ghost. One that was familiar and foreign to me all at once. With them, they brought the shackles of unfinished business and the repulsive electricity of purposefully forgotten memories. I was scared; not of being faced with the unknown, but because I felt that I didn’t know the person I was in their presence. I was drowning in scenarios that could have been, in realities of their existence I had expertly ignored. I woke up crying. Ghosts are real, and this is my proof. While it may not be in the light-flickering, demonic archetype we expect, it’s true that ghosts inhabit the cobwebbed corners of our mind, emerging in our weakest moments. They haunt the living as the shell of a person we once knew, stuc...

THE NEW CIVIL WAR

North and South Korea worry me much less than the new civil war within the United States. Since 1953, North and South Korea have been quite paralyzed, but with recent efforts to find common ground, it is apparent that these regions have cultural interests that are not mutually exclusive.  Unlike male and female entities in the United States where tensions are rising in the aftermath of the Me Too Movement. Our country is half-accepting of a lack of integrity and outright falsifications from the leader of the free world. Not only does everyone seem to look the other way with regards to rape in pageants, despicable behavior in social media and complete government corruption, but the country embraces child sex slavery and looks a blind eye to the powerful internet predators and trolls with ca...

IT’S NOT REALLY ABOUT THE MATCHING TOWELS (BUT IT ALSO KIND OF IS)

When you hit your mid-thirties, you realize a lot of things. Hopefully a lot of good and useful things, like, cleaning the kitchen before going to bed is always a good idea, as is making your bed and having clean sheets and towels on hand. You know that getting a latte everyday seems a bit frivolous, but it’s your money and your life, and it brings you joy. And things that bring joy are things you hold close. Sometimes the best choice is to buy three of the same shirts in different colors if you love it. To spend a bit more money on the sweater or shoes… To assert yourself at work, because you’re the only one who 100% cares about your future. To spend time with the people that matter most, and stop making so much effort to “stay in touch” with people who don’t make the same effort. W...

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