So you failed? Now what?

Some of you have been here, some of you may have not.

But, often times when you start something big, you have big goals and aspirations and a vision to change the world… it falls a bit flat.

Because sometimes the reality of making that dream come true isn’t exactly what you had planned out – maybe you had the ambition and drive, but not the knowledge that you needed.

Maybe you knew what you needed to know, but you didn’t love it quite as much as you thought you did.

Perhaps YOU loved it but nobody else bought into it.

The fact of the matter is failure happens. It’s how you deal with and move on from it that defines you.

We’ve been programmed to believe that failing is a bad thing. Failing is only bad if that’s where it ends. 

If you can see your failures as a lesson, as motivation to do better and to be better then, surely, failure can only be a good thing?

If we define ourselves by our failures, rather than our ability to bounce back then we will forever be in a cycle of negativity.

I have quit so many things. Do I see myself as a quitter? In the moment, yes. But when I look back I know that I wouldn’t be where I am if I’d kept going at certain things.

Sometimes it is not only OK, but it is right, to pull the plug. 

Note that I say SOMETIMES, not always.

The question is: when is it time to quit?

That’s something only you can answer for yourself. 

For me it’s when the process AND the end goal no longer bring me joy. I’m in love with neither.

You see, if the process is just a little sucky but I still love the goal – then I’ll press on through, because I believe in the reason why I’m doing it.

If the goal is no longer my dream but the process still fires me up, then it’s time to re-think my goals, but not abandon them entirely. 

If both of them make my physically ache, like I’m suffocating myself or I’m beyond exhausted, FOR ME; that’s God, my intuition, my soul, telling me what to do.

Why am I writing this? 

Because I think some of us hold ourselves to some ridiculous unattainable standards, and persevere at something because we are worried about the optics of quitting, of being labelled a quitter.

I say screw the optics. Those judging you aren’t the ones experiencing what you are experiencing.

Only YOU know if you’re flaking out because it got a little tough, or it really is the end of the road and it’s time to sit up and pay attention.

Either way: DO NOT EVER GIVE UP ON BEING THE BEST VERSION OF YOU. Whatever that looks like, and however long and however many attempts it takes to get there.

I believe in you. It’s time to start being EXTRAORDINARY.

by GemsCollins

I'm a military spouse, born in the UK married to a US serviceman and living in the USA (for now!).
I believe that we all have the ability to be extraordinary, no matter our circumstances. I want to share my stories, as well as other people's stories, to empower and inspire people to find their true purpose, change their world and change the world for other people.

I believe in the power of failing. I believe that quitting can be a good thing. I don't believe that struggling is the only way to live a higher purpose.

I have opinions that I want to share, to empower others - to help them view themselves and their situations differently, positively.

Hopefully you'll enjoy them too!


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