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YOU ALREADY KNOW HOW TO LOVE YOUR BODY

There’s been a lot of talk lately about “loving your body.” For some it’s empowering. For others it seems impossible and daunting and like a complete, “YEAH, RIGHT.” I firmly believe that not only can you love your body (as it is, right now), I believe you already know how to love your body. Yes, right now. And, I believe that loving your body is vitally important. In fact, it’s at the very core of being able to live a healthy, happy life. And if you’re sitting there, like, “Girl, you don’t know me…” it’s true. I don’t. But I do know that I’ve had my own struggles with loving my body. I started dieting at the age of 12 praying to lose weight and trim fat. I hated my body. And of course I did, I was taught by the media and practically everyone around me that I should hate my body, pick it a...

HOW TAROT CARDS CHANGED MY LIFE

I was 14 years old when I purchased my first ever pack, Astrotarot by Russell Grant. Since then, a pack of cards has never been far from my side. My initial use of tarot cards was, of course, consumed wholly with what they could tell me about my love life. When my Wiccan dad and stepmum would read for me, all I was waiting for was the card that told me that true love was coming. Alright, forget true love, really I just wanted a nice boyfriend, a bit of a snog. Like many teenagers before me, the world revolved around me and my desires, and so for some time, that is how I used the cards; as prophesier of how likely or not I was to get hooked up. For years and years, those cards were barren on the boyfriend front. It was frustrating. But it reflected truth. Compared to many of my school frien...

WOMEN

This generation Is not going to praise locked up princesses Or the ones with very long hair. But the queen who fought alone And conquered a nation. When your kid wants to watch a Disney movie, Show her “Brave,” “Mulan” and “Pocahontas.” Because This generation Needs to know That beauty isn’t strong Instead Strong is beauty. This generation Of women Shall learn to fight on their own With their chins up And eyeliners winged.     Name: Muskan Agrawal Email: muskanagrawal2000@gmail.com Author Bio: I’m an artist. I want people to see my work and feel that they are not alone. Link to social media or website: Instagram @writer_she

HEAD, HEART, SOUL

I can hear it. The crying, the sadness, the despair and hurt. She has been here a long time, but finally I found her. I see her in the distance. “Hello. Found you J” GO AWAY! She’s scared now. She did not think I would look here. “I can’t do that.” Yes you can, just walk away damnit! Just go! Please! Leave me alone! “You can’t stay here. Let’s go.” NO! I’m staying damnit! This is all I know now, all I’m meant to have. She wipes away her tears with the back of her sleeve. I could go, I know I can. But if I leave she’ll never come back. It has to be now. I’ve left her for far too long; I was too scared to come and find her. She fled fast when it happened. One minute she was beside us and the next—gone, vanished into thin air. Talking down to her like this will not get us anywhere. I sit besi...

3 WAYS TO KNOW IF YOU’RE WORKING HARD ENOUGH

You are a new entrepreneur and loving the flexibility, answering to yourself and being able to work at 2 a.m., which happens to be your peak productivity time. Really, you’d be hard pressed to find these perks in a corporate office. But corporate does have its own set of perks, including knowing the exact amount that will be deposited into your checking account on Friday and having a good sense of if you are working hard enough. When I first left my corporate job and started my own business there was a ton to do and even though I worked (work!) almost every day, I had this nagging feeling that I wasn’t working hard enough. After more than two decades of working in corporate and delivering on management’s objectives, working with tight deadlines and looming performance reviews, I had a good...

MY DECISION TO SEEK COUNSELING

It had been months and I was still waking up with my hands clenched in the morning. I was an expert at blocking out stress. As much as my mind denied the outside pressures, my body still pushed through to show me. At the deepest hours of the night when my subconscious could roam free it chose to leave me clues for the morning. A clenched jaw, clenched fits, a charlie horse in my leg or a restless nights sleep. Anxiety has a funny way of coming and deciding to never leave. Like a needy relative it shows up on your doorstep with a suitcase and no money – promising only a few days on the couch, but days turn into weeks and weeks turn into months. And my anxiety was here. All of it. Both feet planted in the dirt looking me square in the eyes and demanding to be heard. I couldn’t ig...

GONE BABY GONE

The triggers are everywhere, Reminding me of how life is unfair. The children’s section of a bookstore, which I have to walk through, The cute characters and titles making me blue. A pregnant woman, I glare at her, Immediately embarrassed of my own hate, Jealousy and longing is my miserable fate. The clothing store with the children’s section, all of the clothes so sweet, Reminding me of the few items I keep in a drawer, a baby never will they meet. Mother’s Day, the worst day of all days, Reminding me of my failed womb, The many embryos implanted that went from hope to an eternal tomb. A baby’s smile warms and breaks my heart at the same time, Reminding me of the child that will never be mine. Children’s laughter can make me cry, Tears in my eyes as the strollers stroll by. That mom group...

KATE AND ME

Kate Spade New York was the first brand I truly fell in love with. It was a brand that understood my needs and I felt an immediate connection to Kate Spade herself. The brand is full of life and color and I am continuously inspired and empowered by the little messages found on dust bags and coffee mugs. My first Kate Spade was a tan handbag that I purchased for myself when I landed my first digital position. Before I checked out, I grabbed a pink glitter wallet and the pair made me feel professional and fun simultaneously. On the afternoon of June 5, 2018, I was sitting in the doctor’s office when I read ABC News’ alarming headline: Fashion Designer Kate Spade Found Dead in Apparent Suicide. I was shocked. I was sad. I was hurt. It was at that moment that I realized the connection I felt t...

SHE DRIP

She had been dripping down the looking glass for years. While people watched the Drip. Drip. Drip. into the bowl underneath where breathing souls finally fell into themselves. But she was less concerned about when she would fall into the water bowl than how she looked to the people standing around watching. And this tortured her, knowing how foolish her preoccupations. Once, another drop gained her path and they became one piece of wet slipping down faster to the water bowl. surrendered to each other’s weight. She liked it. Their drops one piece of wet magnifying. obscuring. the people watching their drip. But someone screamed outside the looking glass on a no reference afternoon and the glass shook. She looked up, then down. saw the eyes again of the people watching her drip. now with mor...

ALL WOMEN TURNING 60 SHOULD CELEBRATE IN STYLE: HERE’S HOW AND WHY

Hitting the big six-oh doesn’t mean your life is suddenly confined to sensible walking shoes, tweed skirts and brown cardigans. No siree. You may be wondering where the last decade has disappeared to with memories of your fiftieth celebrations as clear as if they were yesterday. But before you get all maudlin about life being over, give yourself a sharp shrift talking to. There’s plenty more joy and fun to come, and you’ll never get a more perfect birthday to throw down the gauntlet and celebrate in style. Here are five fabulous ways to celebrate your 60th birthday and five very good reasons why you simply must.   How to celebrate your 60th in style: Throw the mother of all parties. Once upon a time 60 years ago a beautiful baby was born (that’s you). Growing up you dreamed of being a...

LITTLE WRITINGS FROM THE LILAC WRITER: PART TWO

Fight for yourself to be your own risk taker. Fight for yourself because sulking in glooming blue is a NO! NO! Fight for yourself because YOU WANT TO NOT BECAUSE ONE SAYS YOU HAVE TO. Fight for yourself because the clock is ticking and the dam that you’ve created that leads to Sadland – nowhere has overflown. Fight for yourself because these battle pillars that you have planted internally and externally for yourself are ready to collapse without your knowledge. Tell me are you going to fight for yourself or refuse to use your growing armour?     —     This is a sad poem about dream stealers who are willing to unseal jars of dreams that do not belong to them. This is a sad poem about a few going over the horizon in search of a rainbow but they only come...

JUNE SUPERWOMAN: SIMI BOTIC, HOLISTIC HEALTH COACH

I met Simi on the first truly warm summer day at Fox in the Snow Café in German Village. At this point in time, spring semester was over, and I was living in Cleveland for the summer, but that didn’t stop me from doing this Superwoman interview in person. I felt like I had to; I heard her speak at The Wonder Jam, and everything she said felt so right to me. So right, in fact, that I messaged her via Instagram after her talk to let her know just how important what she said was. An out of character move, but a move all the same. I don’t often find myself nervous for interviews. I love storytelling, and perhaps the best part of my job is the ability to tap into other people’s individual stories, but as I watched a black storm cloud whip wind through the cobblestoned streets of the village, I ...

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