I have been watching a lot of documentaries about other cultures recently. Although they have been very informing, educating, and insightful, one thing stands out to me. The spotlight is on the fact that as a woman in this country, I have more rights than most. Yes, women in the United States were not able to vote until the year 1920 and still had the “role” of wife and mother.
However, in other countries to this day a woman’s voice does not matter at all. It is almost as if they are someone else’s prize possession. She may have several college degrees at the permission of her Father however, once she is married that degree means nothing. How can this be allowed and even praised in other cultures and religions? Why is this way of living and thinking so normal there but in the USA, it is frowned upon?
You see women in India searching for potential husbands in the newspapers and online. Sometimes it gets to the point where a matchmaker must come in and assist the families. The future is what each parent thinks about for their children. They want their children to have more than what they did growing up. I am thankful that I was not raised in that environment. I was raised to be very independent and not depend on anyone but myself and the skills I possess.
Now this way of thinking was helpful as a child but once a became a grown woman, this was a problem. Only because I was “too strong” of a woman or an “alpha female.” Finding someone who excepts my qualities has not been easy, to say the least. At times I get worried and even stressed out. Those are the times when I remember one scripture: “He that finds a wife, finds a good thing” (Proverbs 18:22).
This is one thing I must remember I have to be found. In the meantime, what do I do? I continue to invest in myself, fall in love with myself (not in a conceited way), and sow the seeds for my future. I will continue to work on my degree and help other people that are brought my way.
This is not always easy because I am in my thirties and I want to get married and have children without a doctor looking at me like a high-risk patient. I see my circle receiving the prayers that I have been praying for and instead of getting upset, I become joyful because if it happens to the surly it will happen for me. I do have moments of if I have been praying for the right things, or if my prayers are too small. Even then, I remember that nothing is to hard for God. If it is in his will, it will happen for me. If not, then he will give me what he has in store for me.
I am thankful that I have this choice to live this way. My hope is that other countries will change and allow women the freedom that I have today. When there are times when you get frustrated that your life is not where you want it to be, look outside of yourself and see how blessed you have it. Perhaps, you will be the key to help other people achieve what you have achieved.
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