A few minutes of scrolling through a blur of babies, parties, weddings, promotions and quotes for the lonely—a routine we fulfill before our eyes shut and as soon as they open.
Social media connects you with friends, family, favorite brands, interests and the world at large. Ideal right? However, what happens when social media appears less like a land of opportunity and more of your own monitoring device to see who has trumped you in all milestones of life?
I use social media frequently. Recently, while indulging in my scroll marathons, I started to feel internal pressure. It sounds ridiculous, but hear me out. As a woman in her mid-thirties, I have achieved enough at this point in my life to be more than satisfied with where I am—but that feeling is there, regardless of how often I talk myself out of it.
To explore this further, I decided to unfriend social media for seven days. I wanted to see how I would feel losing that connection, and if I could shake that feeling of pressure. The first few days were no problem, the notifications came and went and I resisted temptation as if I were neglecting a really important daily task. A birthday comes up—a quick Facebook message to that person would suffice, but that’s no longer an option. Should I call them? Do people care about that anymore? This is actually easier than I thought.
Day 6 arrives with 16 notifications. I am 50 percent desperate to look and 50 percent of me is peaceful not knowing. The memories app keeps taunting me. Looking backward has a mix of fondness, laughter and regret. It would be foolish for anybody to say they have zero regrets or that they wish they treated somebody differently when they had the chance—social media ensures you don’t escape that. I stay strong.
After my seven-day break, I feel peaceful and disconnected, but in a good way. We can tell ourselves that those who come across as content rarely are. They are also feeling this pressure. We are accustomed to social media, it underpins our daily lives. Sometimes the pin needs to be removed to allow a freedom, a place to reflect and to ground yourself. You can’t change the past or rival somebody else’s future, but you can detach and embrace your freedom, no likes required.
Author: Vikki Sinclair
Author Bio: Vikki is a writer, blogger, welfare worker and student. Growing up in Scotland and moving to Australia at the age of 25, she is a fan of floral, leopard print, notebooks and all things vintage.
Link to website: http://www.thevintagevik.com