LGBTQ+ Community

We Just Want Respect

In this day and age, being a part of the LGBTQ+ community is still frowned upon by many. People still face a lot of discrimination, simply for being who they are or who they want to be. They may be expected to keep their sexuality to themselves or to live in the closet their whole lives, denying who they truly are to the world because people would rather not hear about it.

A young woman at my work, who happened to have kids, was dismayed by some of the inappropriate things on television programs these days. I understand her stance. There have always been questionable things on TV, and some of them definitely don’t need to be viewed by children. Though these things happen–if a child seems something they shouldn’t, it can be very scarring or traumatic for them.

I took no issue with that comment, but then she went on to say she was sick of programs trying to “push” kids to be part of the “community.” Undoubtedly, there are probably some programs that take things too far or try to be pushy in that regard.

However as a part of the LGBTQ+ community, I felt rather disturbed by her statement. I wanted to say something, but found that I couldn’t. I always try to keep the peace, but I was rather hurt by what she said.

I feel it’s mostly about representation. People want to see themselves on the screen. The LGBTQ+ community has been discriminated against for many years and in many different ways. They just want children who feel they are “different” to see that there are others that exist in the world that are just like them.

Someone who isn’t gay will not be turned gay simply by listening to a song by a LGBTQ+ musician, or watching a television program.

The incident came and went, and I was feeling better about my workplace again when she went on a rant about her neighbors. Instead of simply leaving it at calling them racist, she made a comment that they were bisexual, which didn’t really fit into the narrative.

It caught me off guard and made me feel really uncomfortable to be in her presence.

I get it. Not everyone understands the community or why people are a part of it. I think the least people can do for one another is respect them for who they are. You don’t have to like or love that someone has a different lifestyle than you or even a different point of view, but I think we can agree to disagree in a manner that is both respectful and dignified.

The LGBTQ+ community is going to exist regardless of your opinions about it. People just want to feel accepted, loved, and have representation. Not everyone is trying to harm or brainwash your kids, and if they are–then you have a right to be upset. But not everything is an attack on you by people who are different than you. People just want the right to exist and be who they truly are.

People should be able to exist without being hated for it. Love is love, people are people. If we can’t see eye-to-eye on everything, the least we should be able to do is try to understand and be respectful of one another.  If we can’t help one another, then at the very least, let’s not harm one another.

Please be mindful of what you say. Some people feel awkward enough in their own body as it is. It’s really hard to open up about who we are when people are so judgmental and hateful towards something they don’t understand about another human being. You can have your opinions and believe what you want without being rude about it. Express what you need to in a respectful way and move on. Let’s be kind to one another for no reason and spread the movement around like confetti. Life’s too short to live in constant fear and anger.


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