9 Ways To Know What Feedback Is Important And What Isn’t

Feedback. What comes up for you when you hear it? Does your trigger response take you to a place of defensiveness where you assume that you have done something wrong? Or, do you receive it as an opportunity for growth? Whatever your feelings, feedback is an important tool that when received without judgement, loses its charge and just becomes information that can be acted upon or rejected. Feedback is nothing more than words. We categorize and give it meaning based on our own internal programming, judgments, and beliefs. 

Feedback is an opinion belonging to someone else about the way in which you have or haven’t done something. When receiving feedback, it’s important to consider the different pieces of what I like to call the feedback matrix. 

Feedback Matrix: 

  1. Who is giving the feedback and what relationship/importance do they have in your life? 
  2. Do you value their opinion? 
  3. What is the person’s expertise in the area that they are giving feedback in? What is your level of expertise? 
  4. What is the emotional state of the person giving feedback? Depending upon the person’s mood, and life circumstances, this person may think you are great at one moment and terrible at another. 
  5. What is the topic? Is it about something that feels sensitive to you? If so, note that so that you can take it less personally, since it is already a tender spot that doesn’t take much to bruise. 
  6. What is the intended outcome for the person giving the feedback? Take time to consider what you would like the outcome to be. 
  7. What do you do with feedback? Do you automatically get defensive or do you look at it as a potential learning opportunity? 
  8. What is your emotional state at the time you are receiving the feedback? If you received it at another time, would it sound and feel different? 
  9. What do you think of the feedback? Does it resonate? If not, can you let it go? 

It’s human nature to change behavior to receive the approval of others. Most people view feedback from a negative lens because it can be associated with criticism and ways to improve. Have you ever considered that feedback can also be positive? Think back to the last time you received a compliment, shared a laugh, received a smile, were confided in or paid attention to; those are all positive forms of feedback. People can become so fixated on the negative that they lose sight of how they are truly reflecting in the world. 

I encourage you to begin to view feedback as information that you can accept or reject. This empowers you to make authentic changes that resonate with your values and your vision of who you want to be in the world.  



Author: Gretchen Hydo
Email: gretchen@anylengthslifecoaching.com
Author Bio: Gretchen Hydo is a certified professional coach (specializing in business coaching, life coaching, executive productivity coaching, and relationship coaching), keynote speaker, nationally syndicated advice columnist, and thought leader. She helps people from all walks of life ready to make significant and substantial changes. Gretchen has spent the past ten years working, hands-on, with individual clients, name brands, and notable companies, providing entrepreneurial tools, public relations acumen, and real-world practical advice to produce unprecedented results. For more information please contact gretchen@anylengthslifecoaching.com or visit www.anylengthslifecoaching.com
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3 responses to “9 Ways To Know What Feedback Is Important And What Isn’t

  1. Wow! That’s an amazing and motivational post. The author of this post is really articulated and phenomenal. He can relate life’s problem in terms of feedback very well. It is obvious that feedback depends upon a person’s mood and what’s going in his or her life. Whether he or she is pessimistic or optimistic about the problem you are asking for feedback. All these factors of a person who is giving feedback are important and should be noticed. The person who wants feedback should not all the time accept that feedback. One can also reject it if not proper or valid. A person should take feedback on his or her soul also because if a person will do so than only he or she will be able to take decisions properly. All the ways mentioned in this post are very much concern and correct. With context to this person can also take feedback from the psychics. Psychics can also make people aware that whose feedback is useful and acceptable and whose is not. With their great spiritual abilities they can also give feedback to a person which can be really remarkable and genuine. People can click here to find out more about these psychics to get more relevancy.

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