As Robert California from The Office once said – “There is only sex. Everything is sex. Do you understand that what I’m telling you is a universal truth?”
An exaggeration? Definitely yes. Nonetheless, satisfying sex life is one of the fundamentals of a happy relationship. Sexual issues often lead to breakups, and the worst thing about them is that they usually emerge with time.
In most cases, it’s the young couples that are much more physical, spending most of their time together in the bedroom, only to fall into the routine and lose the spark later. Does it have to end that way, though?
Many people believe that the answer is no. Ask any sex therapist, and they’ll say that there’s always a way to make things better. And with that in mind, we’ve prepared the following guide.
Let’s put this matter to bed, shall we? (That’s what she said!)
Sex Toys to the Rescue
Starting on a high note, adding sex toys to your sexual routine may sound extreme, but they can make a huge difference. Of course, buying a dildo won’t make your partner weep with joy. It takes much more than that, but if you play your cards right, the outcome will be more than satisfactory.
First of all, there are many toys to choose from. Everything from classic dildos and vibrators to strap-ons for men and women can get your sex to the next level. With such a wide variety of choice, the first thing to remember is to buy the right toy together.
But why should you even consider it? Well, for instance, sex toys may help you try something new and exciting. They can also introduce you and your partner to new and different sensations.
Take a Risk
Nothing boosts a sexual desire more than adrenaline. Indeed, the sex itself releases adrenaline, so you can imagine how amazing your experience can be when you give it a boost.
To achieve that, you should consider taking your sex out of your bedroom. Try making out in a public place, for instance, a restaurant’s toilet. The feeling of doing something bad makes sex more exciting and physical.
Try New Things
The worst thing about falling into a sex routine is that you know exactly how each night will end. To avoid that, you need to come up with new ideas constantly. Don’t worry, though. It’s easier than it sounds.
Keep in mind that sex is a broad term. There’s always something new to try out. Maybe there’s a position you’ve never tried or a kink you’ve always wanted to explore?
Don’t forget that sex is more than just intercourse. It’s also about mood. Try out role-play, share your fantasies, or use toys for more pleasurable and better sex.
Learn To Pleasure One Another
As mentioned above, intercourse is just a part of your sexual experience. At least, it should be. Making love is not like running a marathon. You shouldn’t try to get to the finishing line a quickly as possible.
Take your time, and learn how you can pleasure your partner. Consider using your tongue, literally. Find out the parts of the partner’s body you should touch to improve their experience. Men and women have different pressure points, so make sure you do your homework.
Mutual masturbation can be a fantastic and sexy way to improve intimacy. It’s something many therapists recommend for young couples or people with body image insecurities.
Looking at your partner while they’re masturbating can help you understand each other, not to mention it’s incredibly hot. Give it a go – you won’t regret it!
Change Your Habits
But enough about the things you can change in the act itself. Let’s talk about your health, which plays a significant part in your sex life. When it comes to that, the rule is simple, the better the shape you’re in, the better your sexual performance.
If you believe that it’s the issue, you should do everything possible to get yourself back on track. Exercise more and kick out bad dietary and lifestyle habits.
You can also consider eating libido-boosting foods, such as meals rich in omega 3 fatty acids, eggs, onion, and garlic.
Many couples struggle with maintaining satisfactory sex lives. Usually, it’s a long-term issue, but even a younger couple can experience such difficulties. Fortunately, as you can see, there are many ways to get things back on track.
However, before you decide on using one of the tips given above, the first thing to do is talk with your partner. The worst thing you can do is keeping your feelings inside. The same goes for the other person.
Talking about your issues will allow you to get to the bottom of the problem. And if that doesn’t work, it’s a good idea to seek help from a specialist.