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25+ Qualities of a Good Man in a Relationship!

When you’re dating new, isn’t hard to find qualities of a good man in a relationship? But what is “a good man.”


When it comes to knowing what the definition of a good man is, we might all differ in our opinions. However, we may all also agree on the qualities that must remain standard in any man you decide to be in a relationship with. 

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It’s no lie that we all want the tall, dark and handsome prince charming, but there are some other qualities that you might want to consider before you decide to make him ‘The One.’ 

Initially, we might all go for the prince charming, but with time and our fair share of bad experiences, we realize how important it is for a man to possess certain qualities in a relationship. 

Settling down with a man is a big decision, and we’re here to help you make it by stating the qualities every good man in a relationship possesses. Ready to know if your man has all the qualities we’re about to list in this article? Let’s get right to it then!

Qualities of a good man in a relationship

Knight in shining armor, prince charming, and whatnot! But what exactly are these men supposed to be like? Besides their charming attributes, what more can they bring to the table? 

Let’s evaluate now!

If your man has these 25 qualities, just trust us on this and never let him go.

1. Being Accepting 

Whether it’s your happy side or sad side or maybe even the inner child in you, he’s a good one if he accepts you in all kinds of moods. 

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A good man knows that people are not flawless and loving them helps accept these flaws and motivates them to become better individuals. It doesn’t matter to him if you’re dressed well or just wearing your boring old pajamas; he isn’t there for your looks. He may never compare you to any other girls.

He knows what’s on the inside and values you for it. Flawless or not, either way, if he loves you and accepts you for who you are, he might just be your perfect match!

2. Caring 

If he puts you first and cares for you, just know that he’s a good man who loves you. He may not always be around, but he might ask you if you’ve eaten or taken your daily vitamins. 

He cares for you and does not try to hide it. He supports you in all the decisions you make and understands why you make them. He’s got your back at all times, and he makes sure you know that. 

3. Respectful 

Being respectful is a big part of any romantic relationship. You can tell that he respects you with his actions and how he speaks to you. If you’ve made a boundary, he makes sure never to cross it.

When you make a decision, he makes sure he respects it and understands your perspective. Sometimes even when the both of you may argue, he continues to be respectful in the ways he communicates what bothered him or led to the argument. 

4. Loyalty 

Common sense? We know!

While it may seem like common sense for someone to be loyal in a relationship, it might not always be the case with all relationships. 

A good man is loyal and knows how to conduct himself around other women. A good and faithful man in a relationship makes sure he lets people know he’s not available without being unnecessarily rude about it. 

5. Emotional Intelligence

A good man in a relationship knows how to understand their own emotions as well as their partner’s. They know when and how they must cope with their negative emotions and how they can use different methods to do so. 

They are well aware of their feelings and the actions that they can take when feeling any particular emotion. Remember, a good man isn’t afraid to handle his feelings and work through them. 

6. He puts in the effort 

We mean visible effort!

People can go out of their ways to show you they love you, and men, make sure you know. When he’s putting in extra effort, and you can see it, that’s one quality you must not take for granted. 

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Putting in effort may be the smallest of things like just picking up flowers on his way back home to you or the biggest gestures like a fancy dinner to show you how much he loves you. It’s the effort that always counts, not the words. 

7. You’re his #1

He’s just so in love with you, you can tell.

When he supports your dreams and shows he’s your biggest fan, trust him. He compliments you and tells you how lucky he is to have you. 

He makes sure you feel loved, appreciated, and supported at all times. You’re his #1, and you’ve never had any doubts about that? You guessed it; he’s a good man!

8. Honesty 

There are no hidden motives; you know everything about him, and he knows everything about you. When something is bothering either of you, you can both speak it out and be honest. 

You feel okay with being vulnerable around him, and so does he. There are no secrets between you, which signifies a good man in a relationship. 

9. Confidence 

Now when we say confidence, please understand the difference between being confident and being arrogant. Someone confident is aware of their strengths and flaws and knows how to be humble with them. 

A man that is confident about what he brings to the table will be secure in their relationship with you, in turn affecting the relationship positively. A guy that knows the difference between being cocky and being confident is one you must hold on to. 

10. Maturity 

A mature guy is a good one to be in a relationship with. 

There are no petty games or “revenge.” He knows how to communicate and talk like a mature adult and does so. He’s a good man that knows how to speak his heart out and does not fear being emotionally mature. 

He’s never had his guard up, and even if he did, he puts it down for you. 

11. Optimistic 

Silver linings in the clouds may get tough to see, but he always searches for them. He looks at the brighter side and helps you see it too. 

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Now when we say he’s optimistic, you must know that being optimistic in all situations is not always a good thing. Yes, you read that right!

Sometimes acknowledging your negative feelings may get tough if you wish to always be optimistic. Instead, you must recognize your negative emotions and work your way through them. So if he’s one of those people that knows how to do this, you’ve hit the lucky jackpot!

12. He is kind to everyone 

Kindness is such an attractive and essential quality, and if your man’s got it, he’s a good one. A good man is kind, not just to you but to everyone in his life. 

Kindness goes a long way, and when you find a man that’s kind, you’ll experience a love like no other. Kind men know how to be soft and polite and, in general, possess other good qualities as well. 

13. He considers himself lucky to have you

If he tells you how he feels to have you and values and appreciates you, that is one good man you got there, girl!

He treats you like a queen and always goes out of his way to put in the effort; that’s how you know he values you. He makes sure never to be late and opens doors for you. The tiniest efforts go a long way in making someone feel like you appreciate their presence. He makes sure you know he appreciates you.

14. Protective 

Hear us out on this one, a good man in a relationship is one that knows the difference between being caring, being protective, and being insecure. 

A good man that is protective of you will make sure you’re safe when you’re not at home. He stays in touch with you when you’re out and keeps checking to see if you’re okay. 

For instance, think of it like this: A protective man wants you to wear a jacket over your top because it’s cold outside, while an insecure one wants you to wear a jacket because he thinks you’re showing “too much” skin. 

15. Funny 

You don’t want to spend the rest of your life being serious and never laughing out loud.

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Be with a guy who makes you giggle in situations you’re not supposed to be laughing in. If he’s trying to make things funny to calm you down in the middle of a very heated argument, he’s trying his best. He’s just a keeper!

16. Ambitious 

He has big plans for himself and the both of you. He sets goals and achieves them. He moves forward strategically and is successful in his endeavors. 

An ambitious man is always the right choice for a relationship because he is motivated and focused, and he will also make sure you are motivated to do better. 

It’s easy to become a better version of yourself when someone is trying to do the same thing for themselves with you by their side. He’s working on himself while you’re working on you. 

17. Calm 

Even when he might be raging with anger, he is calm and knows how to control his emotions. He understands that a relationship is supposed to bring you peace and happiness and not add stress to your life. 

His presence makes you feel peaceful, and there is an aura of calmness around him. He makes everything around him seem softer and more serene. 

18. Romantic 

This is one of the most important qualities for a good man in a relationship. A good man in a relationship is romantic and knows how to make you feel loved. 

There’s never a day when you don’t feel loved when you’re with him. Romance is necessary to keep any relationship happy and peaceful in the long run, and it is one of the easiest ways to make a relationship last. 

19. Good Listener 

No matter how much you communicate, ultimately, it depends on the other person to understand and work on what you say. 

A good listener is someone that not only acknowledges what you’re saying but actively participates in the conversation. It is also important for your partner to be understanding. 

20. Patient

Long-term relationships require a lot of forgiveness and patience. If you want to make a relationship work, you must be patient. 

You must understand that each rose has thorns and that no one can be perfect. If he understands this, he’s a good man with whom you should be in a relationship. 

21. Thoughtful 

A good man in a relationship is thoughtful. He thinks before he brings you a gift, and you can tell he puts in efforts for you. 

For instance, if you mentioned liking a particular perfume to him once in a passing conversation and he brings that perfume for you as a gift, that gift is considered thoughtful. 

Note for all the men reading this blog: anything handmade as a gift is also considered quite meaningful and thoughtful in a relationship.

22. His life is bigger than just you— embracing individuality

It sounds a little weird right now, doesn’t it? Let us explain.

If his whole life revolves around you, he’s got no time for his passions, and he lacks ambition and is clinging on to you 24X7. 

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A good man in a relationship gives you just enough space to be yourself while doing his own thing. Sometimes it’s a good thing to take time away from each other, and if the both of you don’t hesitate to do that, we’ve got some good news for you!

23. He doesn’t care about the world 

He knows the world could give you a thousand reasons not to believe something nice, but he couldn’t care less. He doesn’t care for stereotypes or even seeming like a good “boyfriend”/ “husband” to other people.

He knows what you care about, and that’s all that concerns him. If he doesn’t care about looking nice in the eyes of anyone else but you, he’s a good man to be in a relationship with. 

24. He is a gentleman

He knows how to conduct himself around your family and friends. He treats you well and is a gentleman. 

A good guy to be in a relationship with harbors manners and treats you with respect and courtesy. It may be in the little gestures like helping you fix your dress or how he’s never looking at his phone when talking to you. Bestie, always look for the small signs; they can guide you towards big decisions!

25. You’re both on the same page 

This point may be a subjective one. If both of you have similar mindsets and view things from the same perspective, it will get easier for you to be in a relationship with him. 

Now, we’re not saying there must be no differences. There can be differences in opinions, but you must also accept these differences. For instance, if you’re thinking he wants a future with you, and he thinks he doesn’t, he may be a good man, just not one for you.

Some other qualities you might want to be on the lookout for in your man are:

  1. Humility 
  2. Courage 
  3. Politeness 
  4. Consideration 
  5. Sharing of the same values 
  6. Emotional understanding 
  7. Integrity 
  8. Attentive 

If he’s a good one, make sure you are too. A relationship can make or break a home, be careful to choose a good one when you decide to be in a relationship. 

While these qualities may seem far-fetched to be possessed by one person, they might not be. Take a closer look, and we’re sure you’ll find whatever it is you’re looking for, and if you’ve already found him, congrats!

Ask yourself the following questions if you still haven’t found your answers: 

  • When things seem to go wrong, how does he react? 
  • When there’s a reason for being angry, how does he cope with this anger? 

Asking these questions can protect you from many heartaches later in the relationship. After all, you know, his good looks will not decide your future with him; his qualities and how he makes you feel will.

In Conclusion 

While relationships are complicated, what qualities a man must possess to be considered a good one in a relationship are not so much like that. Relationships are a balance of equal love and effort from both ends. 

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When you understand that his qualities hold far more weight than his looks, you will know where to look and why. What matters is how well he treats you and how much he loves you at the end of the day. 
Balance out your pros and cons before you enter a healthy relationship. We know that love cannot always be weighed into pros and cons, but your future can. So, consider that before you slide the glass shoe under his feet.

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by Genesis Gutierrez

Genesis is the founder of Harness Magazine, a digital media company that celebrates and elevates the voices of women around the world. A first-generation college graduate, Genesis holds a degree in from UCLA with hopes of going back for a Masters in Social Work.

Through her work as an editor-in-chief of Harness, Genesis has dedicated herself to amplifying the stories of women specifically marginalized communities. She is committed to creating space for those who are often left out of mainstream conversations, and believes that storytelling is one of the most powerful tools we have for building community and sparking social change.


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