Being disappointed after meeting someone in person can be a real bummer.

Online dating has been all the rage lately, and in this modern era, where communication is at our fingertips (quite literally), we can learn a lot about someone through their social media alone. Dating online indeed has its perks, one of them being you could date someone halfway across the world by simply being connected socially. 

However, when things start to get a bit more serious, it’s only natural to want to see your partner in person. Sharing physical experiences makes for a big part of any romantic relationship! 

Okay, now picture this—you’ve been chatting with someone online for the past six months. Both of you talk to each other all the time and know almost everything about each other. You know their likes, dislikes, friends, family and everything else. 

You both then decide that it’s time to take things forward and meet in person, so you go ahead and meet them. During the first meeting, you realize they aren’t as exciting or adventurous or perhaps even as fun as you thought they would be. So you come back home all disappointed, and what now?

girls being in a disagreement

I can’t say we’ve all been there, but I think we’ve all had somewhat similar experiences in the past. So here is what you can do when disappointed after meeting in person: 

Keep your cool  

Easier said than done, but trying to remain calm and not panicking in a situation like this one can potentially improve the time spent together. 

Overthinking and questioning yourself, “Why did they turn out like this?” or “Why aren’t they the same as they were to me online?” will 10/10 ruin your chances of a decent date. 

So throw these thoughts out of the window and enjoy at least the time you both are together. Maybe they would turn out to be more interesting than what you’re assuming. 

If you’re out on a date and realize mid-way that you’re not romantically interested in them anymore, just tell yourself to be present and mindful. You also don’t want to show any signs of disappointment to the other person as it may cause mental distress to you and them both. 

No matter how disappointed you think you are, they may feel the same, too. Not because you’re not a good person but because you might not always be the right fit for them. These experiences will only teach you more about yourself, so don’t fret. 

Remind yourself that dating is a hit-or-miss! 

Nothing’s ever solid when it comes to dating. We all know that falling in love is a risk, and we choose to take that risk anyway! That is probably what makes love so exciting. 

With that being said, you need to remind yourself that it’s not always all sunshine and rainbows, and sometimes love can set us up for disappointments. To be very real, meeting someone who is the correct fit for you right off the bat is extremely rare. 

Before you decide to meet them, do your best not to put your date into boxes. Don’t expect them to act or behave in a certain way simply because you think they are that person.

We are all very different from each other and even our online personas. There’s nothing wrong with that, and what you can do is manage your own expectations. This way, the chances of you being disappointed after meeting in person will be lower! 

Treat them nicely regardless. 

When someone isn’t up to your’ expectations,’ it can get tough to be friendly and hold up an act. However, you must never forget that they’re human too and treat them as you would treat a friend. 

guy on a date with a girl

If you lose interest while you’re still on the date, do not assume you’ll give off the wrong signal by being nice to them. If you think being kind will show them that you’re interested, you may be wrong. 

Think of them as a friend, and talk to them like that. Ask them questions like “Hey, what happened at that event you went to last week that you were so excited about?” or “How was that trip you took last week?” or even something as simple as “How is your best friend doing?”

This will show them that you’re there to talk to them and that you’re present in the moment. You want to always remember that even if the date doesn’t lead to a romantic relationship between the two of you, it could still lead to a friendship at the least. Being kind truly never goes to waste!

Be honest 

No, we don’t mean you need to be brutal; be honest!

If you feel like your date was disinteresting and see that the other person also shows some sign of disinterest, be completely honest with them. For all you know, they’ll be grateful for you initiating “the not compatible” conversation. 

When you’re honest with them, you show them that you respect their time and yours and don’t intend to waste it any further. If you think they’re not on the same page as you, they might seem a little sad about you being honest, but they might realize it’s a good thing in the long run.

A one-on-one conversation might be the most respectful way to have this talk. Be kind and mindful of the things you say to them; they’re only trying to find the right person, too, after all!

Tell them you hope for the best for their future and wish them all the luck before you part ways. And if you decide to be friends, make sure they know you care about them, even if it’s not in a romantic way. 

Now that you know what to do in case you ever find yourself in a situation like this, let’s look at what you can do to prevent a situation like this from occurring in the first place. You know what they say: “Prevention is better than cure”. 

Here are 6 ways you can avoid finding yourself disappointed after meeting in person for the first time:

1. Be clear about what you’re looking for 

When you’re unsure about what you’re looking for in a partner, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. Be intentional and clear about the qualities you are on the lookout for in a romantic partner. 

Avoiding boring and awkward first dates can get more manageable if you’re openly communicative and like to speak your mind. If you’re creating an online profile and hoping to meet someone through it, don’t be hesitant to show people who you are. 

Are you looking for a committed relationship or just a casual fling? Be honest and say that!

While it might seem like a good idea to brag about yourself or exaggerate your virtues on your dating profile, don’t fall for it. Be yourself at all times and authentic with the person you’re interested in. 

2. Draw a line on your expectations 

It’s one thing to expect a good romantic partner, and it’s a totally different thing to set unmatchable standards for them to meet. Sometimes, it can get a little tough to set realistic expectations because of societal expectations of what “true love” should look like. 

When setting expectations of what someone must be like, we often find ourselves projecting our feelings on them. (Projecting is defined as “extending outwards beyond something else; protruding”)

You need to be sure about the actual difference between what love in rom-coms and love, in reality, looks like. While “love at first sight” is quite possible, it may also be rarer than media portrayals. Know that there is no such thing as “perfect” when it comes to finding a partner. 

Everyone has flaws, and it’s okay to overlook some. What’s important here is to weigh between what you think are flaws or pluses and decide if you feel the relationship is worth the effort. Understand that it takes time to build friendships or relationships, and if you’re willing to invest your time and effort, go right ahead and do that! 

3. Have an adventure if you want to but meet at a public spot 

Who’s setting the rules about where you must go on your first date? Not us! 

girl being happy about her life

If your idea of a perfect date is different from the usual “dinner and movie”, then go ahead and plan yourself an adventure. You want to be careful about the place you’re picking (for safety purposes) and make sure it’s in public. 

For instance, go to a golf course, a museum, or an arcade if you want to have some fun with your partner. If it’s your first time meeting someone in person, we also suggest skipping the carpooling as it may be a little unsafe. 

Meeting in a public place will ensure you have the means to go home if the date were to go south. We hope your date is a success, but it’s best to be prepared, just in case. Taking the necessary precautions will make sure you’re safe and having a good time with your date as well. 

4. Have a few telephonic conversations

After chatting, the next step is talking to each other on a phone call. When you’re talking to someone on a call, you can gain a lot of understanding about who they are with the help of verbal cues. 

The tone in which they speak and how they try to explain things can be constructive when you’re trying to get to know someone better. Sometimes, people may get nervous about the thought of their date hearing their voice for the first time. This can also easily be avoided if you’ve had conversations on a call beforehand. 

5. Discuss likes & dislikes first 

While it may not sound like the best idea right now, think of it like this: If you know their deal breakers, you could avoid so much disappointment. 

We all have likes and dislikes when picking romantic partners. Some people may prefer athletic partners, while others may not want to date someone that smokes. Whatever your preference, make sure you let them know before meeting them. 

6. Inform a friend

The number one reason you should be informing a friend about your whereabouts on a date is safety. The second reason could be having them ready in case you need a quick run. 

Be careful to use this only in cases you think you cannot otherwise get out. If things get way too uncomfortable or awkward between the two of you, you can always ask your friend to call you up and come up with an excuse about how you need to leave. 

Pro tip: Don’t use this to get out of any date unless extremely necessary, or you might regret not giving yourself enough time to get to know the person later on. 

Now that you know how to deal with the disappointment and avoid it, let’s discuss what precautions you can take to be less disappointed when meeting in person. 

If you’re here simply reading this article because you’re nervous about meeting that person you like for the first time in person, we’ve still got you covered. 

Here are 7 tips for anyone that doesn’t want to set themselves up for disappointment when meeting their could-be special someone for the first time in person: 

Being punctual is a sign of respect. When you’re on time for your first date, it’ll make sure your date understands that you value them. Just like you wouldn’t enjoy waiting for someone to show up on your first date, they wouldn’t either. Simply being on time can tell a lot about you. 

guy and girl on a date

When deciding what you should be doing on your first date, it is essential to pick a place where you know you can both have fun. Imagine the disaster your first date might become if you were to select a museum date and your partner isn’t the least bit interested in art or history, geez!

No matter how well you think both of you will get along, it’s always good to keep a few conversation starters handy to avoid any awkward silences on your first date. Talk to them about the things they like and watch their face light up. Take the tip; you can thank us later for this one. 

When you like something about them, be confident and compliment your date about it. This will, in turn, make them feel secure and comfortable with you. If you have put in the effort to show up looking good, they have too. 

Make sure you let them know you appreciate the effort by dropping in a compliment or two about how handsome or beautiful they look. You could always be a little cheesy if you want to give them a more meaningful compliment. 

Don’t like hugs? Don’t go for one! Simple as that. When greeting your date for the first time, keep it casual and straightforward and say something like “Hey!” to open a conversation. 

As you advance, you can even pop in a question like, “Hope this place wasn’t too far a drive for you?” This will make the conversation flow easily and smoothly. 

When you’ve spoken to them online, chances are you know at least some things about them. Their likes are just as important as yours, so don’t go all out and talk about things that interest you, but you know it may not be as interesting to them. 

Doing this will make sure you’re both enjoying the conversation and not just one of you. Not to mention, it’s basic dating etiquette. 

Even if you’re not as interested in what your date has to say, don’t let it show. You want to be respectful. Non-verbal cues, such as body language, can tell a lot about us without our conscious awareness that we may be giving out strong messages. 

For instance, you may lean in to show that you’re listening to them and you’re interested in what they have to say. 

In Conclusion 

Being disappointed after the first date is a more common situation than it may seem. With dating being made even more accessible, finding your soulmate online is always possible. 

Romantic relationships are not easy, to say the least, and finding your person is truly no walk in the park. If you do end up disappointed after meeting someone for the first time, we’re here to tell you that there’s nothing wrong with that. 

People may want different things from their romantic partners, and if you believe that they’re not the one for you, you have the full right to keep looking. You might even want to give it another shot with the same person simply because even if you’re not interested at first, the person may get interesting with time as you get to know them better. But we’ll leave that for you to decide. 

Just remember to be kind, generous, and open about the way you express your feelings for someone you’re not interested in. After all, they’re there on their first date looking for the same thing as you: a genuinely loving relationship and a good partner. 

Learning how to deal with taking a break in a relationship is never an easy task to do. 

"Let's take a break," I told her while we were coming back home from a date. She was taken aback and asked, 

A series of questions were thrown at me— all filled with fear & self-doubt. I took a deep breath, held my girlfriend, and explained,

"No, it's not that I don't love you anymore; it is just that we have been fighting a lot more for the last few months and aren't able to focus on ourselves. Taking a couple of weeks of break will help us clear our minds."

Hearing your partner consider "a break" is scary. The thought of losing them will chill us to bones. However, 'taking a break' doesn't equate to 'losing them.' Instead, it's just a slight pause that allows both partners to tend to their personal issues before getting back in the relationship. 

"You cannot love others until you love yourself." 

Is 'taking a break' in a relationship a bad sign?

No, it's not! In fact, 'taking a break' is reasonably healthy for a relationship, and it might as well save you from a harsh & rushed breakup. When your partner suggests 'a short break' instead of a breakup, they are willing to make changes and think everything over.

Breaks in a relationship also allow couples to discover themselves and cherish personal space and boundaries.

To be honest, taking a few months off from the relationship was highly beneficial to me and my bub. We matured emotionally, psychologically, and mentally. Not only that, but it strengthened our bond, and we now have more intimacy with each other. 

Taking a break from a relationship does not claim an official breakup; it's just a short break to work on yourself. 

Even if everything with your partner is going well— taking a vacation to spend time alone will always aid your mental health.

You may be thinking, "...but, what if your partner decides to take a break forever from you?" Well, that will work in your favor, too, honestly. "If it didn't last, it was never meant to be."

So let's discuss,

Taking a Break in a relationship.

Even if you go to the gym, the trainer suggests taking two-three daybreak, aka rest-day, to allow your body to repair. Likewise, your emotional and mental health will benefit from a respite.

8 Hints That Are yelling loudly, "You need a Break."

When you notice these signs, take a break as soon as possible. It will be better for you and your relationship in the long run. Or, at the least, you may discover what is beneficial for you!

1. Alone, when together/ FOMO:  

Being with your lover makes you feel like you don't need anything else in the world. However, if being with your partner still makes you feel lonely, it's a clear sign that you need a break from this relationship! 

girl enjoying her time at a bar

Please note: This can happen in a healthy and romantic relationship as well! So, don't dismiss your feelings & the whole relationship for fleeting thoughts or overthinking. 

Instead, talk about taking a break with your partner to understand what you want from this relationship. There could be multiple reasons you feel lonely in a relationship, and each is curable.

Having different personalities isn't a bad thing— in fact, you learn something new and different every day with your partner. Don't disregard their interest just because you don't connect with them. Instead, take time out and enjoy both of your personalities with the same enthusiasm. 

2. To achieve your personal goals: 

Sometimes, when in a relationship, we forget to pay attention to ourselves, our needs, and our desires and solely focus on our partner. This will affect your career, work, passion, and mental health. 

To pursue a passionate life, you must equally balance all your happy elements. Take time out for self-care, me-time, self-talk, alone-time, family, friends, career, and partner. If you only focus on your partner, you will be leaving every other thing behind. 

3. When you are ignored: 

The best part about a relationship is that it helps you feel like you are the most important person to your partner. True no! However, if you feel ignored and unvalued— take a break! 

Distance in a relationship can literally increase intimacy and spark romance. When you are apart, you understand their values and why you love them. It clears your mind, and it will also clear your partner's mind.

4. The source of your arguments is petty: 

As I said, fighting is an essential component of a healthy relationship. However, suppose you notice that you or your partner have started fighting over lame excuses and aren't backing out.

In that case, it's a proper indication that you guys need a break to sort things out by yourself. 

couple arguing with each other by yelling

This will help you resolve your anger issues and subdue your frustration. 

5. If you feel you are in a cage of space: 

"Saying and implementing are two different aspects of life." 

Your partner may tell you that they are ready to give you personal space. However, if they end up continuously asking you about your whereabouts— they clearly have a hard time understanding boundaries. 

A relationship without space will soon become toxic and suffocating. So, taking a break early on and explaining to your partner the importance of personal freedom will save your relationship in the long run. 

Even though your partner might just be asking out of care, they need to understand the boundaries you wish them to adhere to. 

6. When your relationship has an absence of commitments: 

Relationships are built with trust, care, loyalty, emotions, and commitments. Commitments tell how serious a person is in the relationship. 

Please note: Don't force commitment on a new relationship. However, if your relationship has reached the perfect stage for commitment and your partner still runs away from the discussion— you may want to reconsider. 

Talk to them about your future needs from this relationship openly. If they are not ready, take a break to stop overwhelming yourself with too many emotions. 

7. Sex is not fun, and your partner doesn't turn you on.

Sex not only builds a physical connection but also benefits couples emotionally. Sharing intimacy in bed with your partner always turns you on! Right? No? Hmm, then there is a problem. There could be multiple reasons why you don't feel sexually attracted to your partner;

couple being intimate

You can simply take a break to understand what's bothering you and stopping you from enjoying intimate hours. This short break will definitely spice things up and bring your libido back!

How to deal with taking a break in a relationship?

Some of us are still not prepared to take a break! In such a case, here are eleven excellent points on how to deal with taking a break in a relationship! Take it easy! Continue reading because I am about to put your mind at ease.

For starters, never consider 'taking a break' through phone calls/texts. It will hurt and confuse your partner! You need to discuss this in person and explain how it's not an end.

Here are some narrowed-down tips to consider while dealing with a relationship break! 

1. Establish some definitive rules: 

Ensure that you both have similar thoughts on the matter. It will create multiple problems if you and your partner interpret the break differently. 

Create a blueprint of rules that you both have to follow in this process. It will help you stick to your goals and work as a foundation to support your intent. Have a serious talk with your partner and create some ground rules like,

These QAs will help you and your partner understand the concept behind 'taking breaks.' Of course, couples on a break can meet and laugh together, but I highly suggest not indulging in physical intimacy! 

2. Stick to the boundaries:  

Yas! It is imperative to stick to the boundaries, and boundaries will allow your partner the much-needed space. 

3. Don't be too accurate with the time: 

Although 'reaching before time' has been considered good manners, it's still best if you cut some slack when it comes to concluding that break. 

We never know how long it will take for us to process our problems entirely and how much personal space we'd need before we get back in the relationship again. 

Don't set a specific time to be back in a relationship— not only will this pressurize you but also distract you from focusing on other essential things. Discuss it with your partner and let them know of your choices. Avoid being too accurate to be back together.

4. Prioritize yourself: 

Remember that you are taking some time off from your relationship so that you can work on yourself or towards your goals. 

girl feeling confident in her own skin

Don't just waste your time thinking about your relationship or your partner. Use this time to do what you want to. The more you spend time with yourself, the more you get stable with your visions, life, and mental health. This time that you have will also tell you a lot about your motives for your bond.

5. Don't send sentimental messages: 

Initially, the 'break' will seem weird, and you would want to go back to your old habits of texting/calling/meeting/kissing the first thing in the morning. 

However, you will have to control yourself. Even if you are missing your girlfriend/boyfriend, stay under the rules you created— it will benefit you, your partner, and the whole relationship.

6. Involve yourself in stimulating activities: 

It is terrific to indulge yourself in activities that you find exciting or try new things you have always wanted to do. 'Taking a break' will offer you a significant amount of me-time. 

guy swimming in water enjoying his life

If you don't know what to do now, create a list of all the fortes you have enjoyed— swimming, traveling alone, painting, etc. Invest your time in self-care routines and creative hobbies— it will stimulate your brain and ease mental stress. It will also keep you away from overthinking, relationship hassles, and thoughts about your partner! 

7. Uncover the reasons for a break: 

So, finally, you are free to be your own person. Utilize this time, go the extra mile, and keenly look into your relationship issues. It will resolve your tangled brain and give answers to your unquestioned dilemmas. 

If the answer to these questions is a simple 'yes'— congratulations, you are willing to fight for this relationship. 

Please note: every relationship will have dry days; you just need to figure out if you are ready to cross those hurdles together with your partner! 

8. Pen down your thoughts: 

It genuinely works— when you pen down your emotions and thoughts, you understand them a little better. I suggest choosing a good notebook instead of digital notes. 

9. Avoid stalking each other: 

Stalking is a big 'NO' in any situation! Don't stalk your partner, ex-partners, family, friends, or kids! Please, it's very unhealthy and can destroy multiple relationships. 

You are on a break, so be with yourself, spend time amusing yourself in productive activity. I know we care for our partners, and we want to check on them, but this will corrupt the reason for your break, and trust me, everything will worsen.

10. Stay optimistic: 

Maybe things are not as good as they used to be in your relationship, so you have decided to take a break. But don't let the negative thoughts dominate you. Stay positive and explore your emotions. 

Have a broad perspective and talk to your partner to grow individually first and be cheerful throughout the process. Don't forget what I said, 'taking a break' is healthy! 

11. Keep in touch:

Taking a break doesn't mean you have to be rude or ignorant towards your partner. 

It doesn't mean that you should altogether avoid your partner either. No, have healthy contact with them, talk to them, and go on social ventures as a group (if you are comfortable). 

When should you not 'take a break' from your relationship?

Don't make rushed decisions. Some issues can be discussed; you may never need to take breaks. It's necessary to communicate effectively about your emotions openly— barriers in communication will bring distance between the two of you. 

On a completely different note, 'a break' will never bring any good to couples who have started to like someone else. Don't take a break to try things over with other individuals— this will hurt your partner immensely. 

In such situations, it's best to completely break up with your partner before you start a new romantic relationship with someone else. 

1. When you want to share a bed with someone else:

Taking a break from your partner or your fascinating relationship just because you're physically attracted to someone else or want to enjoy physical closeness with someone else is wrong. 

girl having secretive texts while guy is behind

Don't keep your lover in a hazy vision by asking for a break. If you are attracted to someone else, you should break up first. I'd advise you to keep your head up, control your feelings, and not drive the wrong path.

2. When your problems can be cracked by communication: 

We've all had those moments in our relationships when we'd rather overthink the matter and avoid talking about it face-to-face than have a real conversation. Instead, schedule a date night and address the issues that are hurting or bothering you.

For example, if you both had a rough fight— try to talk things over more calmly and also try to listen if you want the relationship to work! 

3. When you want to show dominance: 

When you and your partner are fighting, and you want to show that you have the upper hand— you force your partner to take a vacation from the relationship. 

It's the wrong way to do things, and to be honest, your relationship won't last long if you do it this way. Instead, have some therapy sessions and discussions to figure out what's wrong.

Bottom Line

It's scary to take a break in person, but you need to do it nonetheless. Sometimes, we don't want to part with our partner out of fear, attachment, or the consequences. However, it's necessary to balance your mental health and bring good changes to your relationship. 

Don't avoid 'taking a break' just because you don't want to hurt them. On the other hand, 'not taking a break' & suffocating in the same relationship will hurt you and your partner in the long run! So, take a break if you want to after talking things over.  

It is perfectly acceptable to take a break if you think you are not getting enough time for yourself because of the relationship. 

Remember! Don't agree or decide for a break when you're on the phone or in a chat window. Talk in person— it will assist you in maintaining honesty.

But keep in mind that you should not employ this strategy to avoid cheating on your partner. 

If you want to work through how to deal with taking a break in a relationship more efficiently, I recommend scheduling an appointment with a relationship coach.


Breakups are hard to digest, but they are even more depressing when your friend goes through one. 

It feels disheartening to watch a friend cry— the situation is totally helpless, and all we want is to show them affection during their pain. 

girl helping a friend through a breakup

There's a saying, "we repeat what we don't repair." I'm sure you don't want your friend to choose sadness repeatedly over moving on, and that's why you are here to know how to help them, right? 

When you don't know whether to wipe their tears and make them full of smiles or let them cry and allow their sorrow to come out, these tips will help you help your friend. 

It's essential to balance their emotions when they suffer a person's loss. Breakups are not just an end of a relationship, 

It's hard to see your friend grieving their lost love and going through a breakup. However, you need to understand that you cannot take their pain away.

Getting over their partner is something your friend needs to sort out on their own, but you can surely help a friend come out through a breakup. Maybe you cannot take that pain away; you can surely land them a shoulder to cry on! 

Take a look at how to unlock your words sensibly and comfort your friend after a breakup; 

To help a friend, you should first check yourself. 

There's a long journey awaiting your friends after a breakup, and mending their emotions will demand your time. Firstly, make sure your lifestyle, sleeping schedule, and work routine give you enough space & time for them. 

It not only demands physical assistance and time but also your mental health. Only approach them if your mental health is stable and ready to accept your friend's traumas. 

Helping out a friend demands your time and energy, so don't forget to boost your optimism and physical health while offering a shoulder to your friend. 

The most important thing is to realize that you should be there for your friend through their hard times, but it's not entirely your responsibility to fix it.

Before you start showering your friend with excessive suggestions, hear them out first. Look at the glimpse of pain in their eyes to understand the severity of their pain and the fact that it's not easy to implement everything so quickly. 

So, take everything slow!

2. Advise them not to retain the same emotions.

If your friend breaks up with their partner, surely there must be a strong reason— maybe things didn't work out well, or their spouse might have lost interest. It's evident that the pain would be unbearable. However, reminiscing and romanticizing it will only add to their misery. 

guy helping a friend through a breakup, he's crying

If they prefer talking about their partner or their past together even after continuously going through the pain, ask them to stop. 

I know it will be difficult for them to let go of the memories altogether. However, they need to understand 'holding onto the past' will only slow down their 'moving on' journey. 

Instead of listening to their past remembrances that may bring tears to your friend's eye— 

If you're a good friend, tell them what's good for them, even if it hurts them. Don't fake your sympathy in fear of losing a friendship.

3. Help them to make a crystal choice.

Sometimes we keep on pushing our friends to move on, but before you begin— ask them if they are actually willing to move on? If they are yet not ready, give them space & the time to make a crystal choice. 

Sometimes decisions taken in high temperaments will make us regret everything later. 

Try to make them understand their decisions clearly and slowly convince them to do things that are actually healthy for them. 

4. Allow them "ME TIME."

When your friend asks for personal space, you should approve of their boundaries and respect their privacy. 

Advise them to prioritize their 'ME-TIME' with some positive self-talk, suggest self-help books, enlightening detachment articles, give them some DIY ideas to re-decorate their room for a change.

List out all the interesting activities to enjoy alone and make sure they are happy doing so.

Advise them to invest their time;

5. Drop pleasant texts to comfort a friend.

Being in a relationship makes a person habitual of expecting a text, especially morning and sweet-night messages. Don't let your friends sleep in a bad mood; send them comforting texts to let them know that you are here for them.

Positive texts will empower their self-esteem and make them feel special. This extra ounce of care will gradually help them to fade those painful memories.

girl hugging friend

Here are some brief ideas of comforting texts you should send to your friend;

Sometimes, random tight hugs and a scream together at the terrace can work best in your friend's favor.

6. Introduce them back to their badass personality

When your friend is dealing with a breakup, they may forget their individuality & personality. It's indispensable to revive their lost charm and help them cherish it again! 

Sometimes, relationships tend to snatch away our true persona; we become one with our partner. Once they are gone, we are left to wonder— "who am I?" 

Introduce your friend back to their original self. Who were they before the relationship? How to do so? 

Call your old friends and plan a party together to surprise your heartbroken friend. What can be more soothing than meeting up with old school/college friends with whom we used to live our best days? It's always refreshing to relive old moments with old idiots.

Traveling is a necessary part of everyone's life. Take this tip as a sign to plan trips and steal your friend away on a healing journey. The place you choose must be healing and breath-taking enough to distract them. Instead of choosing a romantic destination, opt for nature. Nature heals! 

My best suggestion would be Himachal Pradesh or perhaps, Japan. New culture combined with strong nature always yields higher energy. Get lost in the city streets or the mountain's wilderness. Your friend might find love again— we fall for foreigners faster than natives. I call it a fact!

friends having a night out

I know nights planned for crying and venting are treasures. However, I want you to plan something wild! The truth is, your friend must be tired of crying, and they would want to escape. 

So, plan the perfect escape, introduce them to the most lively part of life. Let them know that it wasn't their partner/relationship that was the best part of their existence; the best is yet to come! 

  1. Plan a night of unspeakable deeds, haha! 
  2. Drink like it's the end of the world! 
  3. Dance away the night. I don't simply mean slow grooving. No, opt for crazy dance— bounce, throw your hands in the air, be everywhere, roll, sway, swoop, and slip! 
  4. Don't stop there; dance on the streets. Sing your heart out and let the night engulf your friend's pain. 
  5. Choose the coolest rockstar concert to let out the energy if music is your thing. 
  6. Get cozy with strangers that you admire, take your chances. They may turn out to be amazing!
  7. Don't go home and wander the moony night. Make sure you and your heartbroken friend choose a morning spot to enjoy the dawn before calling it a day! 

Gift one sexy dress and party passes to your friend. Clubs are the best place to zone out, meet new people, and add joy to life. This will distract her and make her stop checking the glances of her past. 

7. Recommend them a therapist.

If your friend finds it difficult to open up to you, recommend them to a therapist or professional adviser. 

Getting over a breakup is uncertain; it can take months or even years to get over the pain. Encourage your friends to speak to professionals if it's deeply impacting their life. 

Professionals can understand their sufferings well and help them mend their emotions. 

8. Build a cozy mental space for your friend

We might be willing to cross oceans for our friends, but they may not be comfortable enough to confide in us! Build a safe space that allows your friend to open up! 

They are mostly scared of judgment— let your friend know how proud you are of them and that you will never judge them. 

Always be available to hear out to your friend whenever they are willing to open up and undo their frustration. 

It's not easy to speak our heart out entirely in front of someone; the fear of judgment stops us from sharing things that have been eating up inside. 

Helping a friend doesn't always mean throwing suggestions at them. Sometimes, giving them a shoulder to cry on and ears to listen all night long is enough. Be that friend to them. 

9. Surprise them with pampering gifts.

With mental assistance, don't stop yourself from buying materialistic gifts for your special friend. Use these thoughtful gifts to surprise your friend: 

girls working out together

Take your friend to a salon and give them coupons for exciting self-care sessions, like new hair color, body massage, manicure, and pedicure. 

If your friend is into dancing, then register them for dance classes. It will surely make them feel special. However, if you are broke and cannot afford dance class sessions— become a dance teacher and spend an hour dancing with your friend every day. They would be more comfortable dancing crazy with you!

It is healthy to reinvent ourselves; this process becomes more exciting and thrilling after a breakup. Help your friend get back in shape and adopt a new fitness lifestyle by giving them a gym membership.

Select movies that will uplift their spirit. My favorite suggestion would be "Queen"— a Bollywood classic. She left for her honeymoon in Paris & Amsterdam alone after her partner refused the marriage. This journey unfolds her authentic personality, and she tastes the true essence of life. 

10. Sympathize them with a hope 

Breakups lead to self-doubt, low self-esteem, and insecurities. Remind your friend that they haven't failed just because their relationship didn't go well. 

Sympathize a friend with the hope that breakups are not an end to their lives, assure them your support. Be careful and avoid things that might hurt them unintentionally. 

11. Suggest them not to pick someone out of their boredom 

Breakups are strenuous; they require a lot of effort to get back on track after being hurt. Sometimes mental breakdowns make people weak, and they lose control over their emotional intelligence.

They start looking for temporary fixes to escape the suffering. Your friend might start looking for a tinder date or reach out to people on social media. 

Dating right after a breakup is not healthy for you and your new partner. Before you start dating other people, it's essential to move on and ultimately heal from your past relationships & traumas.

Suggest your friend choose someone out of their interest & not as an escape option. 

6 Things You Should Avoid While helping Friends Through A Breakup

1. Don't crisscross your suggestions. 

Everyone goes through a breakup once in a while, and we all have different ways of moving on. Don't force your suggestions onto your friend; allow them to choose their own healing path. 

Avoid discussing and comparing your healing journey and moves with that of your friend's. This act of contrast might bring contradictions in conversations between the two of you. 

2. Don't gossip about their Ex.

Constantly degrading your friend's ex every time they feel down will not help them feel better.

I know it's confusing what words & methods to choose while helping your friend when they are mourning. However, gossiping about their ex's flaws is not good when they are already hurt by that very person.

Criticisms and negative talks (about their ex or anything in general) will create a pessimistic space for your friend. It's best to yield and manifest positivity. While helping your friend, focus on the optimistic viewpoint of life. 

Try not to bash her ex negatively even though things ended on bad terms— avoid being a gossipmonger.

3. Avoid figuring it out on your own; ask them.

Sometimes we think we know exactly what our friend needs, but maybe we are wrong. Ask them about what they want, don't just assume and act on never— it can irritate your friend.

Allow your friend to make the decisions of their healing season; you can reassure your support by asking them questions like;

Ask them before figuring it out on your own, you may think you know your friend better, but you might be mistaken.

4. Don't advise them to jump into shortcuts. 

Sometimes pain feels so heavy that we start looking for shortcuts to heal ourselves. Your friend dealing with emotional damage may search for a shortcut to escape the pain, don't let them do so.

What looks convenient for a short time will hang heavily on your heart, so refrain from yourself and your friend. Avoiding pain will not help them overcome it. They will need to accept the pain to move on! 

5. Don't be a pleaser. 

Tell them what they need to hear instead of speaking what they want to hear. Pleasing them with temporary comfort is wrong; giving the green light to everything they say will never resolve their problems.

Suggesting a personal perspective of what is precisely right for them according to the situation (even if it hurts them a bit) is what a best friend should do. A true friend must make them meet up with uncomfortable truths.

6. Avoid thrash statements about their past relationships.

Don't pass thrash comments on your friend's past relationships. Their love didn't work out well, but it might hurt them if you negatively speak about their past bond. 

If you didn't witness their whole journey, it's wrong to pass comments; this can hurt your friend's sentiments and might give them regrets. They want other regrets in their already mourning hearts. 

Figuring out what to do when a guy texts you after ignoring you can be difficult.

No doubt, dating can leave you stressed and broken when a guy starts ignoring your texts and calls, and it sucks not knowing the valid reason behind it! 

It continuously triggers into your head and you keep asking yourself questions like —

Firstly, you need to calm down because things are not always how they seem or how you assume them. There can be many reasons why your boyfriend or crush ignored you. This doesn’t always have to be negative, as many times people really do get stuck in their own lives. 

girl checking her phone after guy texts her after ignoring her

When he finally texts you after ignoring you, there should be a mature communication about where he was or why he didn’t text you earlier. Communication is the key to understanding things that are usually not expressed! 

However, if there wasn’t any important reason behind it and he just did it to make you chase him, you need to think things through. 

Remember that if you need to beg for somebody's love or attention, you're not with the right person. People who love you will cherish and celebrate you at every step of your relationship with them! 

Trust me; you will get that beautiful gut feeling once you meet the right person, because that feeling is the rarest one of all. You should know that dating is supposed to be fun, filled-up with lovely moments, full of new experiences and happiness.

When a guy is genuinely into you, he will respect you and your time. They don’t have to show this by texting you daily. Instead, you can see it by the simple efforts he puts into the relationship. 

But if he has started ignoring your texts and calls, and doesn’t respond to you properly, it’s time you figure out the root cause of it. 

In this article, you'll get detailed information about why he's been ignoring you for days, how long you should wait to text him back after ignoring you, and whether you should answer his call after neglecting you! 

What to do when he texts after ignoring you? 

It’s mature to understand that people get busy sometimes and texting back can slip anybody’s mind for zero alternate motives. But, nobody’s too busy to let you know they’re stuck by simply dropping a text—“I am busy, I will call you later.” 

By just letting your partner know about your busy schedule, you can clear things, offer them peace of mind, and avoid your partner from overthinking their brains off. 

However, if you have no clue why your partner has gone missing, here is how to deal with it: 

1. Find the reason for why he started ignoring your messages 

Understanding guys is very challenging. There's always a reason behind all their moves, so your first step should be to try and find it out. 

Start digging into the past and try to think why he's doing this. Did you say or do anything earlier that is causing this behavior? Or is this one of the red flags that you must've missed that concludes whether he's really into you or just playing games with you. 

If this is not the first time he is doing something like this, you must think before bringing him back into your life. Maybe this is your shortcut out of this toxic relationship. 

Communication is the key in any relationship, and if one person is not ready for it, it's time to step back and reconsider your connection again. 

2. Start defining for how long he has been ignoring you

The duration of break he took is enough to understand his interest in you. If he goes away frequently and ignores you for long spans of time, maybe he’s not the one. 

girl reflecting on the sidewalk

Suppose you two are in a relationship and had a couple of heated arguments, then maybe he was angry and ignored you to calm things down within himself. However, this isn’t the right way to deal with arguments and you should try to approach him with peaceful communication. 

The best solution in such circumstances is to talk things out calmly, while respecting each other’s opinions. 

But if that's not the case and he just casually started ignoring you for a couple of days, you can ignore him in return or maybe separate yourself from him completely. 

Toxic guys like to think too highly of themselves, and want their partner to make them feel like a king. Though seeking attention like this makes them the worse of men on planet Earth, and you’re better off them. 

3. Determine the feelings you’ve felt in his absence

Before you do something out of anger, ego, or overthinking, ask your heart what it feels for this guy. Is there love and peace in your heart even after it’s treated this way by them? 

Try to get sorted about your feelings first; it's best not to reply when you're hurt, angry or desperate. Think about how you felt when he was busy ignoring your presence. 

I know their text might have brought you happiness, and you feel overwhelmed or excited, but it's also essential to know your worth. 

Don't get too excited and sound desperate by replying to people who ghost you. Think about yourself first and figure out if this boy is really worth your time. Take some time off; if necessary, take two steps back from this connection and prioritize yourself in all situations. 

Always remember that people won’t respect you or your presence, until you respect yourself. If you show them you’re a pushover, they’ll keep pushing you over in all situations. 

Set your boundaries and respect them! 

4. Please don't reply to him immediately 

I get it when you've been waiting for somebody's text for a long time and you finally get it, it skips one of your heartbeats. But replying to him immediately will make you sound desperate and needy, which is not good after how unwanted he'd made you feel. 

It'd be better not to respond and show him you’re not someone who he can toss away whenever he feels like. Take your time off him, just like he does it. 

5. Try not to ignore him back in return

We are all different human beings with complex characteristics. For some of you, getting closure is very important. In such cases, ignoring him in return might hurt you in the future and leave you guilty for not responding to him. 

Even after moving yourself away, you may still feel connected somehow because you never got closure. Just like I said, you need to be a hundred percent sure about your feelings and then come to a decision. If you can’t resist him and feel the need to communicate all about it, then yes, go for it. But try not to burst into him on the phone; take it slowly. 

6. It's time for you to inform him about your boundaries 

Sometimes you may feel like you should not text back or respond to their highly-awaited message, but the next day, you can’t control the urge. I understand, it happens with all of us. 

But if you surrender to your urge, and get back to texting them after they have ghosted you for so long, there’s a high chance they’ll repeat the same behavior. This is because they know you’re not going anywhere and they have you under control. 

What if they leave you ignored again? Will you keep disrespecting yourself to place them high above just like how they want it? No matter how much pleasure you get in this toxic love, you must set your boundaries. 

couple having a disagreement

This is not the right way to treat anybody, and you can’t have a healthy relationship until you set your boundaries. Start drawing limits for people who don't text for weeks to check up on you; let them know that you are aware of your importance, dignity and self-respect. 

It's high time to stop wasting your time on men who cannot keep up to commitments and are in your life for nothing. Trust me; you're too good to be a second thought for weak men like these. 

7. Maybe you were too available 

Ask yourself, were you too available for this guy? Did you put everything else aside and say yes to everything he asked? 

People often don't value you when you’re too available. It’s not wrong to be up on heels for somebody all the time, but they should be worthy of it. 

When you make yourself too available to unworthy people, they try to misuse the opportunity. So if he’s returning to you now, make sure you let him know that you’re available but not accessible. 

8. Is he playing games with you?

Another reason why he might be ignoring you is maybe he’s dating someone else and just playing games with you. He wants you to chase him, and that is all you are for him—a chaser. 

guy talking to multiple girls at once

The best I can suggest is to stop dealing with these little immature boys who can offer you nothing but their little play games. 

You can find out if this is the actual case by not texting him back. He’d come back again with some sweet talk if he is not getting any attention from your side. People always come back when they see you having fun without them. Be brave and try not to fall for their cute words. 

9. Be straight forward and don't reveal your feelings 

Let's not even keep it as an option. Trust me; nothing is worse than showing your feelings to a person who doesn’t care enough. You have no idea why he's texting you after weeks of ignorance, so it's better not to say anything about your feelings and let him do the talking.

Try not to get panicked about what to do or what not to do. When he texts you after a long time, spend more time listening to him and noticing his behavior. 

If he makes new promises and talks to you sweetly to win you back, hold your ground. Do not trust him or put your faith in a single word coming out of his mouth. 

Words do not matter, actions do. 

If he’s returning after ignoring you, take your time and understand his actions before pouring all your love on him again. If he’s constant with his efforts, maybe he realized your value and really wants to be with you. 

If he gets irritated or done when you do not show any affection back, it’s your hint he was only back to waste more of your time. 

Don't worry; you'll eventually understand if he's really into you or just playing games around. You'll make a good decision at the right time; until then, stay calm. 

10. Look after your own behavior as well 

Okay, I get it he's been ignoring you for days, but what if he's hurt because of you or any of your behavior? As I mentioned before, guys are challenging to understand; they might act all tough, but you'll never know what smallest act of yours may hurt his feelings. 

So start reflecting on your behavior, too, and figure out if there's something you did that made him distant. If you really believe an action that made him go away, it’s only mature to talk about it and sort it out. 

Tell him you didn’t know that particular thing hurt him, but you’d make changes and not repeat the same. After all relationships are efforts put by both sides! 

How long should I wait to text him back after he ignored me?

The answer for this depends from situation to situation. Each couple has their own special problems and circumstances, so you really need to think thoroughly before texting him back. 

girl waiting on a table for guy to text her

Although one thing should be clear—It's not an excellent option to text him back immediately until you get your feelings sorted out. 

This decision is important as it affects your love life, mental health, growth and many more things. Before choosing anything, choose yourself. Never forget to put yourself first in all parts of your life! 

Here’s how long you should wait to text him back after he ignored you: 

Sometimes we don't have the energy to text back people, and it is okay. All we want to do is just lay down and have our own space. If he's been ignoring you for a day, then don't panic; give him his own space, and he'll be back soon when he feels like it. 

If he texts after ignoring you for a day, you should go ahead and talk to  him about what is going on. Ask him about how he felt yesterday or if he needs space to feel better again. Nothing is more beautiful than a partner who understands you. 

Let him know that you are there for him no matter what happens, and that he can come to you and share everything. Just tell him you’ll quietly listen to whatever he has to say!

It’s entirely wrong of a person to keep their partner ignored for over two weeks. In any circumstances, they should be responsible to let their lover know about their whereabouts and communicate frequently. 

Perhaps, there could be very special occasions that may require him to stay away. But he should have something very important to say when he appears after two weeks. 

If he had been away for his delicate ego and toxic mentality, I don't think it's an excellent option to reply to him immediately. Show him your worth and let him know you have boundaries. This will tell him that you're not always going to be available as per his desires. 

Let him do the talking, let him explain, and after observing everything, you make your decision. Always remember not to take any decision while being emotional and vulnerable; be brave and say it with all your heart. 

I think we need a valid excuse here to text him back. If he’s texting you after months of ghosting, it’s a clear red flag. 

If you feel like you miss him and should reply, then trust me, you can miss someone and still don't want them back in your life. 

It's okay to have an emotional flashback of memories, but to deal with the same thing again will destroy you and the beautiful heart you carry. Take as many hours or days as you need to sort out your feelings, as it will make a big difference. Always remember to love yourself first!

Should I answer his call after he ignored me?

Again, it won't be a good option to pick up his call immediately. Take your time and think about why he may be calling you now. Don't let your heart take over or think emotionally that he misses you; he might be bored, lonely, or maybe like to apologize. 

But none of this is your concern; you'll call him back when you're good and sorted about what you want from him. 

Bottom line 

Relationships are tough, and understanding a guy is tougher. You never know what's going on in his head, what he is up to now, whether he's really into you, and the list goes on. Whether you should text him back or ignore him is up to you, and it depends on what kind of a relationship you two had, why he started ignoring you, and how you are feeling now. 

Be calm and observe the situation you are in. Be mature, act smart, and have a face-to-face talk, if you want to sort things out. Give him some time to explain and then the decision will be yours!

Figuring Out How to Stop Romanticizing Your Ex can be a difficult task.

The phase of getting over your ex is the most CHALLENGING one. There will be hundreds of emotional breakdowns, mental health downfall, and self-worth questioning, which can cause depression, destructive health issues, and many other problems. 

It doesn’t really matter if things have ended poorly or mutually in your relationship; you may eventually start missing them and might romanticize your ex after some time. 

woman reflecting on bench in nature

This weird feeling of missing your ex again is confusing; it can keep you stuck in overthinking many scenarios like

In any case, if you recall the good memories of them, you must also be attentive to all the days you two argued, had fights, and cried all alone. 

When we are missing someone, we tend to overlook their bad qualities. We imagine all the good moments lived together, not letting our brain focus on bad factual circumstances. 

Always remember, many certain things & toxic behavior patterns have happened between you, causing a breakup. It didn’t happen for no reason, and your ex has an equal hand in it. 

What to do if I miss my ex?

The best advice I can give is not to return to your ex again. They are better in your past and let them stay there so they cannot ruin your present. 

Note that it’s better to be single than with the wrong partner. 

Be aware that you can miss someone and have sweet memories of them without wanting them back in your life. Recalling precious old memories will often lead to outbursts of certain emotions, but you should never forget the lesson. 

Everything in life happens for a reason, and God has given you a chance to find someone more deserving who can show you equal respect and love. Let’s try not to waste this chance and use the opportunity to gain something better in return.

But how do you know what things to do to get over your ex and stop romanticizing them? You don’t have to panic here; we got you! 

10+ Simple “Finish Ex” Ways to Stop Romanticizing Your Ex Love Partner! 

Whether you should romanticize your ex or not really depends on the person. Were they sweet and kind to you? Did you both have to part ways because of uncontrollable circumstances? Was there immense love within, but just the timing was terrible? 

In such a connection, you must try your best to win their heart again and begin with a fresh start. Embrace your love and do all the things you couldn’t before. 

However, if the reason why you both broke up was toxicity, it’s better to keep them in your past. Toxic people rarely get better, and there’s a higher chance they are still as bad a person as they were. 

Try to avoid this ex with these simple “finish ex” tips:  

1. Remember the bad they did to you. 

Instead of only recalling all the good stuff about your relationship, you must remember the bad too. Undoubtedly, every relationship has its ups and downs, but that doesn’t mean you overlook the bad happenings of your relationship. 

couple having a disagreement and not talking

Try to imagine all the times they, 

These evil actions are significant and affect a major portion of anybody’s life. 

We know it’s going to be challenging even if you remember the bad, but know that nothing matters at this point. You’re in your present now, and until you don’t leave the past behind, it will always come back to haunt you. 

Let’s try to move forward in life to the bright side, where you’re successful, independent, and know your self-worth! 

2. Acknowledge why you are missing them

We miss people when we need them. We long for their presence and spend more time thinking about our lives with them than what we have now. 

It is natural and okay to miss specific individuals that made you feel incredible and lucky to be alive. But, if you’re missing a bad chapter, command your heart to handle these emotions. 

Before you allow yourself to romanticize your ex, you need to acknowledge the exact reason behind missing them. Maybe, you’re not missing your relationship but having a boyfriend. Maybe you’re not missing them particularly, but the care and love you receive when dating. 

Before making any desperate decisions:

This will help you conclude a decision that is good for you! 

3. Create a pro-con list on your ex.

Another way that’ll help you to stop romanticizing your ex can be a pros-cons list. Take a paper, make two columns—one for the pros and the other one for the cons. 

Now write down all the good and bad qualities you’ve seen in your ex and experienced while in that relationship. 

The pros can include how much they cared, if they were good in bed, how they comforted you when you got anxious, and how they made you feel as a person. The cons can include how they betrayed you, left you alone, made you cry, didn’t put you as their priority, and so many other things. 

By making this list, you’ll get a good sight of how to deal with your current situation. If the cons outweigh the pros, you can easily understand that your past partner didn’t deserve you. 

You’re going to get a better insight into why you need to stop romanticizing your ex. Also, it would be best if you focused more on the cons, as that may make it easier to get over your ex and find a new romantic journey. 

plus and minus sign

4. Do not differentiate your ex from your new lovers! 

I’ve seen a lot of people doing this—comparing their current partners with their ex. 

Do you know the reason behind it? 

It’s because when you are not entirely over your ex, you look for them in every new partner. Many people even stop dating because of the betrayal in their last relationship. 

I want to clarify that not everybody is the same, and you need to stop differentiating people from people. Each soul has a unique personality, which deserves to be explored. 

If you’re dating a new person and you’re missing your ex because your new date is not tall enough, fair enough, or doesn’t have the same personality, you’re looking for the wrong things in the wrong lover. 

The things that your ex offered and the way it was with them, you may never find it exactly the same. This is not something to feel bad about! 

You need not live the same love and must be open to what others have to offer. It might not be the same, but when you embrace it, you’ll see the real beauty of it. You might even be surprised to see how each lover can make you feel differently. 

5. Take opinions from your friends on how your relationship felt to them in reality. 

Sometimes, an outsider can show you very well what you cannot see by yourself. It’s good to have a friend’s point of view on how you were in the relationship and what you’ve dealt with. It will remind you of all the things you’ve suffered alone and why the relationship had to end. 

people mingling in a club

Your friends, family members, and colleagues can better show what you were like then and now. Things get pretty easy to understand when you can see them from a different angle! 

People who care about you will remind you of all the bad things that you’ve forgotten, of all the times when you were alone, and that’s important to get over your ex. 

Whenever you feel bad, talk to a friend close to your heart who understands you well and has been with you through all your bad phases. It’s better to communicate with your close ones when you feel numb, as simply speaking with them offers the most satisfactory therapy. 

Go on a walk with your friends, share your problems and feelings, and they will offer you comfort and the correct point of view for your situation! 

6. Remove your ex from all your social media! Do it now. 

This is another promising thing that you can do to keep your ex out of your sight and life. Let’s erase, mute, or block them from all your social media accounts, whether it’s Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Snapchat, and even delete their number. 

If you don’t do this, you’re going to stalk them someday or other to know what’s happening in their lives. Seeing them happy without you may inhibit unnecessary negative feelings and distract you from doing better in your own life. 

If you are still connected to a toxic ex, take them off your life. Because if not, every single day when you open your phone, they’re going to remind you of some memories, leaving you in an overthinking cycle. 

It would help if you were willing to leave all this behind and move forward in your life. So let’s do it because the sooner you realize your worth and know all the great things you deserve, the better. 

7. Ask yourself why it had to end.

There is always a reason why a relationship has to end. Like if your ex cheated on you, they were too controlling, significantly toxic, or there was too much distance, family problems, and the list goes on. 

Similarly, your relationship ended, and that, too, had a reason. Recall why it was over, and make decisions keeping that in mind. 

Remember those moments when you wanted to get free from your relationship, the times when you felt worse to be their partner, how they treated you, and the main reason behind the end of your connection. 

Realize it was crucial to ending things back then, and it is still important to let the things stay as they have been. Avoid bringing your ex back into your life! 

8. Accept it’s all in your past now. 

You know some things are better in the past because bringing them back may pose several nostalgic threats to your present. 

Similarly, bringing a toxic ex will destroy you, your health, mental stability, and much more. Life has already given you a second chance to move forward, so why look back? Looking back should never be an option because there is a possibility of falling when you look back too often.

Instead, put all that behind you and learn to move forward. Find yourself again, as it’s time you become the best version of yourself and prove that you’re more deserving and capable of getting anything you want in life. 

So let’s pack all the memories because it’s time to say goodbye to your past and look up to your bright future! 

9. Understand that romanticizing your ex will affect your mental health! 

Undoubtedly, breakups, heartbreaks, and betrayals can affect your mental & physical health badly. You spend half of the time overthinking everything in your head and feel smaller in front of the world. 

If you’re going through such phases, your mental health is too delicate to take anything else. I understand this weird feeling of romanticizing your ex repeatedly, but ask yourself, what’s the point now? 

You can see how happy they are, having fun after practically ruining your life. On the other hand, you are here spending your precious time thinking about them. 

By doing this, you are again giving your ex a chance to break you even more mentally. Ask yourself, why should they have an opportunity now? It’s time to act mature and see what life is actually showing you. 

Mental health issues are severe and can make you feel incapable, worthless, undeserving, and even depressed. In such cases, you should talk to a close one, tell them how you feel and what’s going on in your mind, and learn to accept any kind of help and support. Feel stronger, and then take realistic actions!

10. Get into new hobbies and explore yourself.

When you finally understand your feelings and want to start working to become the better version of yourself, know that you’ve chosen the right path. 

Living this phase will be your most beautiful experience. You will find new things you like, explore the world’s beauty, learn extraordinary qualities, get into new hobbies, and have a fresh start! 

You’ve wasted enough of your time, and you don’t have to do it anymore. It’s time that you work on yourself and make yourself more perfect. It’s high time to move forward with your life. Nobody else is coming to save you but you. 

Life is so big; there are hundreds of things to learn every day, and here you’re crying over a person who is probably with some other partner. The best thing you can do to get over someone is to get busy enough that you forget their existence in your life.

11. Do not forget the lesson.

Every relationship gives you a lesson. Understand what yours was, and learn to move forward in life and never look back again. 

If you keep romanticizing your ex, you may not understand the lesson properly. Note that if your relationship was too perfect and your partner was so loving, you probably won’t be here missing them. 

Take things positively! 

It’s okay if they’re not here with you; maybe it was never meant to be. It’s good because now you don’t have to waste more of your time and you can use it wisely. 

You have extra time to spend on yourself and become your best version, who is capable of wanting and achieving anything in life. 

It’s okay to miss them now, but forever? Not a chance. It’s your life, and one day you have to move forward with it. And you have to start now before it gets too late. 

Stop making yourself sad over things you have no control over. Let’s accept the lesson and move forward with life! 

Bottom line 

We won’t say that missing your ex is wrong; it’s okay to miss them and still not want them back in your life. We are all humans; we get hurt, learn, and move on; that’s how life teaches us important lessons. 

If you notice yourself romanticizing your ex, only you can get yourself out of this situation. Nobody else will come to save you; it’s just you and time. 

Some days feel bad, some days feel good, and some show you the real meaning behind certain events. It is the natural process of life. 

Don’t be stressed about finding someone who would make you happy because you should be responsible for your happiness. Nobody else has the right to your satisfaction but you. 

So, start creating a new and positive life, be the reason for your joy and let people add extra pleasure to your journey. Let’s pack all the memories and say goodbye to your past forever because it’s time to keep your head up and look forward to your beautiful future! 

I had no idea the quagmire of emotions I would be stepping into when I clocked out of work last night. I got home and checked my social media before bed as I normally do, only to be drowning in posts about the supreme court decision to overturn Roe v. Wade.

Now I'm not entirely too shocked when I heard the news, but I was angry and overwhelmed. I was upset and I didn't know how to process everything I was feeling. I couldn't believe what I was hearing. I knew that they were always trying to take that right away from us, but I didn't actually believe they were going to succeed.

They don't care about those who are going to suffer the most from this. They don't have to worry. Because they're not poor and because they don't have to adhere to the laws they put upon the necks of their citizens, they're going to be able to get abortions if they need or want one. Money is no object to them.

Everyone else is going to suffer for the "greater" good.  A law that hurts one citizen is not a good law. There is no such thing as the greater good. Hurting one person is one person too much.

Whatever happened to separation between church and state? Not everyone is Christian nor do all Christians share the same beliefs and views.

I don't know why people think that this is a good idea or that it's going to help increase birthrates. All it's going to do is cause more people to die because they no longer have access to safe healthcare. All it is going to do is open up the door for them to take away more of our rights.

Because they're not going to stop at abortion.

I'm going to need everyone especially cis men to step up and fight for and with us because we cannot remain silent. We cannot allow them to strip us of our dignity, our rights, and our lives! Silence is violence, we need to hear your voices, too!

As the years pass, I think more and more of the one openly gay kid who used to ride our bus; and how he was driven to take his own life because of all of the relentless bullying he received. Sometimes I feel guilty about not saying or doing anything to stop it, my one co-worker I discussed it with said that "you were just a kid". True, but so was he.

He didn't deserve that.

I grew up in a rural area where Evangelical Christianity had taken a strong foothold. I was constantly feeling uncomfortable and unwelcome in the church because I didn't like how they said God was a God of love, and Jesus said to love their neighbors and yet they could hate and be so contemptuous of people who were different. They acted as if anyone who was part of the LGBTQ+ community was a demon or something.

I saw them protect people who had abused others under the guise of them being good men instead of holding them accountable for their actions.

Women had to watch what they were wearing and be aware at all times of what was going on, but there were no consequences for the men who didn't control themselves or their own urges. There was no punishment for men who couldn't regulate their emotions, but should a woman be angry or upset then it was unnatural and the end of the world. I was even told once in church that it was unnatural when a woman was "wicked" or "evil" because it went against their nurturing nature, but it wasn't so surprising when it came from a man because they were more predisposed to being cold and out of touch with their emotions.

I didn't think too much of it then, but I think about it now and wonder why that's okay.

Why are women so demonized? Why are people in the LGBTQ+ community demonized by the church, too? Why?

Because at the end of the day women and queer people just want to be seen as people. They just want respect, they just want to be treated as human beings, they just want to have the right to exist in the universe without being hated or discriminated or sexualized for simply being alive.

Maybe the church has helped some people, but you cannot deny that they have hurt a lot of people, too. Churches need to hold their congregants responsible for what they do, and hold them accountable when they hurt people because this isn't okay. Using your religion as a weapon to harm others from oppressed and marginalized communities isn't okay.

If we are all made in God's image then that includes all the people that you hate or dislike, that includes the people you don't understand, that includes the people who you don't think deserve to be sitting in a church pew, that includes people whose cultures you don't know or understand. In the meantime instead of supporting legislation that harms women and queer people you could help the poor, you could help the widowed, and you could look inside of yourself and see where you need to grow as a person because none of us is perfect but by the sanctimonious way some of you behave - it would have me believe that perhaps you think that you are above the very rules that you say that we have to play by.

Love people not rules. Love people not being right. Love people even if they don't have your faith and never will, love the people who walked away from your faith, love people as they are where they are and don't love them simply to change them. It's not hard. If your religion commands that you love people then please love them properly not with condition and terms.

During the first week of February, I booked a trip to Getaway House as a birthday gift to myself. If you’ve never heard of Getaway House, it’s a group of tiny cabins nestled in the mountains of several states across the U.S. The goal is to offer people a retreat from the city, to disconnect from society, unplug from our devices and connect with nature. I opted to book my retreat in the Western Catskills, NY.

One of the things I did while unplugged was flip through the book, Getting Away: 75 Everyday Practices for Finding Balance in Our Always-On World written by Jon Staff, one of the founders of Getaway House.

One of the practices listed in this book that I most found interesting was to turn off your push notifications.

As someone who struggles to find balance in our "always on" world - between freelancing, working from home, and especially working in social media and digital marketing, I regularly feel fatigued by the constant connection.

Without the boundary setting of creating office hours for yourself, it can sometimes be expected that you answer phone calls, emails, and text messages at all hours of the day. Even without the expectation from clients, if you’re anything like me - it can be difficult to ignore an email notification, even if it is a Saturday morning - or an Instagram notification, even if you’re in the middle of a work task.

In fact, a study published in the book stated that simply receiving a push notification can be just as distracting or energetically taxing as answering a phone call, even if we don’t act on the notification.

I’m constantly looking for ways to improve my mental health, productivity and overall energy levels, so I figured I would try turning off my push notifications as soon as I returned from my trip. Admittedly, the first 24 hours were a little weird as I was afraid of missing something. That's how they get ya!

Now, it’s been almost 3 weeks since implementing this practice and I can honestly say that this small change has been a total game changer. After the FOMO faded, I entered a new state of bliss. When I log off my computer for the day, I am no longer plagued by 10pm email notifications from clients on the Westcoast. In the mornings, I don't feel enticed to immediately check my emails, taunted by the little email icon in the top of my phone window.

I check my email when I'm in the right mental headspace to start my workday. I tune into social media when I want to, not when I'm prompted to. I feel more productive during my work days with fewer distractions. I’ve decreased my screen time. And overall, I end my days with a lot more mental energy than I used to.

If you’re looking for a simple trick that will help increase your productivity, improve your mental health and restore a little more work-life balance in this “always on” world, I highly recommend turning off your push notifications. You won’t regret it.

You’re the girl in the back of the room sitting quietly while everyone else laughs and talks. Or maybe you’re the one no one ever saves a seat for at the staff meeting. You’re the girl with her head down, trying to do what you should. You’re the girl walking through the hallways that everyone bumps into because they don’t notice you.

You’re the one who is always on the fringes somehow but never quite left out enough to be noticed for that, either. You ebb and flow on your own between the groups, between the crowds, living your whole time in the in-between.

You’re the girl with the quiet voice, maybe literally, maybe metaphorically. While others shout their accomplishments from the rooftop, you sit back and let your achievements casually float by. You’re not the girl to stand in the spotlight or to move the spotlight to yourself.

You’re the one who people say hi to but never hello. You’re the girl who eats her bagel at the breakfast meeting and has to wonder if something is stuck in her teeth–or if it even matters. You’re the one people know of yet never truly know. Maybe you’re the one who has people you can text but not call.

You’re the one who is never scorned but is always sort of forgotten, which feels worse sometimes.

You’re the one whose quiet murmurs are drowned out by the shouts of the ones who are heard.

Still, you trudge onward, your head down and your work completed. You do all the things you should–or at least you try to. You’re not perfect. You spend a lot of time in the darkness of wondering if you are good enough and examining your flaws. Still, you try. You do your best. You show up, even if no one notices. You do the things you’re supposed to do, even when no one is looking.

To the quiet girl, I know what’s it like to be you. I think a lot of us do. We know what it’s like to struggle sometimes with feeling invisible. You flit about the outskirts but not far enough out to be unique or noteworthy. You just sort of are, and no one seems to notice. You bump shoulders with all sorts of people, but they attribute it to the wind or brush it off and get back to what they’re doing. You’re never quite in and never quite out. You sit in your cloak of invisibility. Sometimes, muddy boots try to walk over you to get to where they’re going.

Sometimes, invisible girl, you wonder if you should try to be seen. To throw off the cloak and shout from the rooftops, “I’m here. I exist. Look at me.” Sometimes you wonder if it would be better to be bad than to be unnoticed. Sometimes you wonder if something’s wrong with you.

Because even if you tell yourself it’s okay to be invisible, that you like it, I know the truth. I know that sometimes it’s lonely. Sometimes it’s downright irritating to be the one trying to do the right things and trying to be humble and trying to sit in the truth of who you are. Being the invisible girl feels like being a figment of the societal imagination. Sometimes, you wonder if your existence matters at all. Often, you wonder if you exist at all.

But to the invisible girl in the back of the room or forgotten in the meeting or shoved aside in the coffee line or unnoticed by all, I want you to know that I see you. We see you, all of the other invisibles. Because you’re not alone. So many of us not only see you but are you. And perhaps there’s some comfort in that.

Most of all, I hope you find comfort, invisible girl and invisible woman, in the fact that you matter. Even when you think no one is looking, no one is seeing, you matter more than you know. So stay strong. Stay you. Don’t be discouraged. Be true to who you really are and keep your chin up, even on the lonely days

Because the world needs the invisible girls, even if they don’t know it yet. They need your gifts and your dedication. They need your quiet resolve to be something, to do something, to change something.

The world sometimes jokes it’s the quiet ones you have to watch out for.

I think they’re right. Because I think sometimes it’s the quiet ones, the ones sitting in their truths and observing the world, who have the real power to make a difference.

Own your power. Don’t be afraid to raise your voice, even if you wonder if anyone will listen. And never let the fear of invisibility stop you from understanding that you are a warrior, a gift that the world needs.

I see you. We see you. I hope that you can see you, too, for the amazing female you are.

You've decided you want to start looking for a new job. But where do you even begin? There's a lot to consider, and the process can quickly become overwhelming if you're not taking the right steps. The best way to describe job hunting is it's like a roller coaster—you'll face a lot of wins and losses along the way, but that makes landing that one job at the end even more rewarding.

As a new grad who's recently been through the process herself, here are some of the best tips I have for setting yourself up for success in your job search.

1. Set up Job Alerts on LinkedIn

Like most job seekers out there, you're probably using LinkedIn as one of your platforms, and creating job alerts is something worth considering. You can set multiple job alerts for specific job titles in locations you're interested in, which is extra helpful if you're searching for jobs in other states. You can even set alerts for specific companies too if there's a brand you've always dreamed of working for. These alerts can be sent weekly or daily and they include a small roundup of recommended new jobs based on your preferences. It takes a little bit of work out of the process and it's a great way to see any recent job postings that you might've missed the first time around.

2. Create a Set Number of Jobs You Want to Apply For Every Week

You might be tempted to sit down and send out 20+ job applications all at once, but you'll only burn yourself out faster if you do that. Instead, spread your job searching out by creating a set number of jobs you want to apply for every week. Whether it's one application a day or 5 applications every week, create a goal that works best for you. This way, you're keeping yourself accountable, applying to a ton of jobs consistently, and setting time aside for it without overwhelming yourself.

3. Don't Forget to Take a Break

Between filling out those lengthy applications, scouring the internet for open positions, and prepping for multiple rounds of interviews, landing that perfect position is basically like a full-time job. With that said, it's incredibly important to take a regular break. How often you take one all depends on your own "job search stamina," but it'll prevent you from getting burnt out, which happens more often than you think it might! You may also feel guilty for taking a step back from job searching, but remember, all the job openings will still be there when you get back.

4. Keep a Record of All Your Past Interview Questions

If you're applying to a lot of similar positions, you'll most likely be asked similar questions. This is where keeping a record of your past interview questions comes in handy. After every interview, write down as many questions as you can remember. Organize them in a document or a spreadsheet (I recommended a spreadsheet!), and take note of the job title, company, and which interview round it was. When you need to prep for an interview, pull out your record of these questions and use them to help you get ready. Over time, you'll start to see a pattern or an overlap of what you're being asked, which serves as a helpful hint as to what kind of questions you may be asked in your next interview.

5. Follow Career Accounts on TikTok

You ever hear that phrase, "TikTok has taught me more than school?" It's really true what everyone says, especially when it comes to job searching. I have gotten my best job search tips from TikTok, and if you're not already on it, get on CareerTok! Some of my favorite career accounts to follow are Cynthia Huang, Erin Mcgoff, Jackie Caves, David Paykin, and Career Coach Darci. They're the perfect go-to resources for all things career-related because they're either recruiters themselves or have years of career experience under their belts. And if you have specific questions about your current job searching process, they're pretty responsive when you reach out to them in their comments, lives, and DM's.

I know, job searching is a grueling process. It's not meant to be easy, but remember, all it takes is that one yes. Until then, keep at it!

I went to Coachella for the first time this weekend. My first music festival. My fist time in Palm Springs. My first time camping in over 10 years.

It as an experience I will truly never forget. I’m writing this from my office desk on Monday morning, and feel like I am re-entering the world. Like I’m coming down off of some drug I didn’t take.

Music sounds different. I feel different. Is this post-festival feeling cliche? Probably. But I get it now. I understand why people return year after year.

I left covered in dust, back aching from sleeping in a tent on hard packed desert sand, with no voice and running on minimal sleep.

But I left with a feeling that I have never felt before. Every performer encouraged being your best self. Harry Styles preached to the crowd, “Be whoever you want to be in this field tonight”, and “Go outside. Be kind to each other. Spread it.”

That feeling is palpable in the crowd, everyone at Coachella was radiating kindness. Complients on eachother’s sparkly outfits, flying fringe, feathered cowboy hats and neon winged eyeliner. Everyone was free to be themselves.

Billie Eilish told the crowd to forget about their bodies, forget about what you look like tonight and just dance. She reminded to take care of the planet. We only have one and we are only here once.

If Coachella has taught me anything, it’s to take better care of the  ground beneath me, love the people around me more, and accept every dark crevice and bright peak of myself.

Listening to music feels different after screaming with thousands of people for 3 days straight.

I’m the kind of person who gets sad after experiencing such great heights of happiness. And I get so excited when I know I’m about to experience something great. On the first day at Coachella, I told my friend how lucky we were to be there, and how lucky we were to have each other as friends, who were willing to buy tickets a week before the festival - because who knows when we’d get to go again. And on the drive home, listening to my Spotify on shuffle, I cried. At so many songs.

The emotion I was feeling was so strong from the gratitude of getting to be there and the sadness of it being over.

We camped with hundreds of people, having the bare minimum to get through the weekend: chunky glitter and melted peanut butter sandwiches. I’ll never forget it.

I’ve always been a creative person, and over the last 3 years, I lost that part of myself a little bit. Moving to California, getting stuck in the mundane day to day life. It’s April 18th, 2022, I am 25 and I’m making it a point to carry this momentum with me.

I want to make meaning in this life, do things that matter, create beauty, acknowledge beauty. I want to feel it all, do it all, portray it all the best I can.

Is it dramatic to say 3 days in the desert, walking 28 miles, barely eating and losing my voice singing to grammy award winning artists has changed my life forever? Because I don’t care, it did. It changed how I feel, and it brought me a little closer home to myself.

To everyone considering it, go. You win, music festivals.

Never take the simple things for granted.

Breathe in, breathe out. You have air in your lungs. You can breathe without pain in your lungs. It is simple, yet a blessing.

You are a blessing.

Life is a blessing.

Waking up in the morning without pain is a blessing. Some people don’t know what that feels like due to chronic illness . Never take it for granted.  Being able to wear clothes is simple yet a blessing, until your skin is burning and it hurts to wear clothes. Being able to read is simple until your vision goes blurry.

Using your voice to speak is simple until you become hoarse and can’t.  Enjoying foods to eat is simple yet a blessing. There are some who can’t eat the foods they once enjoyed, some have developed food allergies. Being able to smell food is simple until you loose your smell. Being able to taste is simple until you are no longer able to do so.

Cherish the blessings and don’t take the simple things for granted.  Hold dear the relationships that God have placed in your path, some have been angels in disguise.

It is simple, yet a blessing!

God’s love is unconditional.

Learning how to get over someone you never dated can be a tough one.

Oh, what it's like to love and to love alone! One-sided love is pure and selfless, yet it engulfs you into a turmoil— a state where you stay hung, where you hope for a romantic future that stands without foundation, where your heart breaks and you are asked to collect the pieces alone, silently. 

"I'm efficiently distanced,

Neither falling

Nor rising in love

As if stuck in a futile catastrophe."

—Akif Kichloo

girl being sad in her own world

It's the lingering gaze, stolen glances, fluttering heart, abyss of fantasies, and many unsaid words that hurt. It's supposed to hurt. The intensity of untold emotions and unrequited love in one-sided affairs recoil us on a path that neither ends nor ever began. 

The far distinction between a 'relationship' and an 'almost relationship' is what separates us from fantasies and, unfortunately, reality. Unaware of your emotions, the world will continue to move on harshly without leaving you an array of peace. All that's left behind is the relentless cycle of hopeless what-ifs. 

Don't be so harsh on yourself. You deserve a love that reciprocates; you deserve a love that acknowledges you, accepts you, nourishes you, and cherishes you. You are worthy of persistent love, don't let anyone tell you otherwise. 

It's hard to move on from someone who never was yours, to begin with, but it's necessary to do so— to be more kind and generous to yourself. Having been in the same situation, I know why letting go of one-sided love is crucial. That's why we are here to aid your journey and help you get over someone you never dated. 

One-sided love— Why it's more painful to let go!

Why? Simply because it bloomed alone, and it withers alone. It's painful because you will have to willingly let go of the only hope that keeps you close to your love despite the evident distance. You will have to let go of the romantic fantasies that sum up the most beautiful era of your life. They were indeed beautiful but never were true. 

older couple sitting down having a cup of coffee

People in relationships somehow manage to receive closure, a massive fight, or perhaps, indifference that helps them get over a breakup, sooner or later. 

However, letting go of a love you never received? Now, that's a bummer! It deprives you of any closure whatsoever, you rarely get to share your emotions because people don't understand, and there's no apparent incompatibility/indifference for you to move on from that very person. 

So, it's natural for it to hurt just as much as any other breakup. 

It hurts even more if you are really close to them, like friends— seeing them with someone else romantically is scarring. I know, I understand; it's poetic. 

Accepting pain helps you move on

The mere realization that it hurts you more than it will ever fulfill you is already a step ahead towards moving on. 

Moving-on? Now, that's liberating— it's closer to loving yourself back again and finding your lost pieces. It's a step towards finding your happiness again— happiness that lies within you, not your crush, partner, or anyone but you. 

10 ways to get over someone you never dated

We, as humans, are never taught enough self-love, what it's like to prioritize ourselves, and why it's necessary. So, naturally, it's hard to choose yourself over someone who never returned your love. Our happiness and worth often lie at the bottom of the list of our priorities. 

"If you wouldn't take care of yourself, who would?" Certainly, not me. Certainly, not them. It needs to be YOU! Let self-love be your only thought while processing these steps to move on from your crush. 

1. Confess; if you haven't already. 

'Have you told your crush about your feelings?' Oftentimes, people hold back their feelings because;

Inevitably, rejection will close the doors of your fantasies, a silent closure that will leave you dry. People don't want that; they don't want their fantasies to end. 

If you haven't confessed yet, you must now! You cannot expect a person to acknowledge your love before letting them know. What's there to lose? You are already suffocating enough to hold onto such strong emotions for a long time; let go and let them know. Rejection can also work as an excellent closure for unrequited love. 

2. Acknowledge and accept the reality.

If you have already confessed and your crush's answer remains 'NO,' it's time that you accept their decision. Most of the time, individuals would choose to stay in denial and continue the cycle of fantasizing because it brings comfort. 

Deep down, your heart already knows the truth; you simply need to accept it. Of course, it's not that simple, is it? Acknowledging the painful reality of not being with your crush will take time, and it's completely fine. Acceptance will bring pain— your dreams of togetherness will shatter, and you will be left alone. 

However, it will also clear the fog! That's the only way you can move on. No matter how hard it is for you, continue to remind yourself about your current situation. 

Don't believe or hope for a future that's still a mystery— adding on to futile hopes will weigh you further into agony. Constantly imagining an impossible fate with your crush will shut out other potential relationship options for you and won't allow you to move on. 

guy being free in nature

On the brighter side, also remind yourself,

3. Let go of 'what-ifs,' 'should-haves,' and 'but.'

There are endless strands of hopeless what-ifs, should-haves, and buts— each adding a little hope to your lovelorn heart. It's necessary to understand that these what-ifs will only bring fake hope and fake expectation— it's not the reality. 

"If it were meant to be, it will be. There's not a single force that can separate two lovers." 

No what-ifs will change your reality. What's done is done; what's ahead is unknown. So, let go of blaming yourself for it. Don't beat yourself around either; you cannot control/change their feelings if they don't want to do it themselves. 

4. Don't blame the bad-timing

We will readily accept any sweetly-coated lie rather than choosing the truth. One such traumatizing lie is bad-timing. 

It's yet another hope that makes us expect a fruitful future. It makes you believe that a good opportunity/timing will come, and you will end up together. 

This hope further stops us from moving on— you spend months or probably, years waiting for them— stuck in the same cycle. This hope makes you lose precious time, people, potential relationships, a happy today, and your whole life. 

You will become miserable if you continue to survive on hopeless hopes. So, let go of it. 

5. Stop Fantasizing

It's obvious, isn't it? Yet, extremely challenging. Fantasies keep you close to your crush— and its scope is limitless. Our power of imagination frees us to visualize whatever we wish to. 

You might still fantasize about a wedding, a domestic household with your crush, having kids together, going on dates, kissing, and even sexual scenarios. However, the more you'd allow yourself to think and fantasize about them, the harder it will become to move on. 

girl in pink background feeling optimistic

If you continue to imagine a future with them, you won't be allowing others or yourself a chance to find a healthy, happy, and lovable relationship in the present. So, stop yourself no matter how hard it is to do! 

Instead, occupy your mind with things that actually hold weightage in your life— it can be anything; your dream job, family, friends, passion, art, music, etc. 

6. Stop interacting with them for a while

It's easier to avoid someone who's far away from you. However, if this special someone is close to you as a friend, it becomes difficult, almost suffocating— to watch them smile and laugh with someone else. 

I know that being around them and not having them with you is miserable. Their sparkling eyes and kind heart will clog your mind and won't allow you to move on or even think about anything else. 

So, take some time off the friendship because It's completely normal to do so. 

7. Don't continue to check on them.

When you take a break from your crush/friendship, it should be honest and genuine. If you go back to checking your crush & their activities continuously through whatever means, you won't be doing justice to your moving-on journey. Take a proper break;

That's not all, don't wait for them to approach you either. Sometimes, we think; distance will make them want us. Again, don't hold onto such loose hopes. Refocus your thoughts and allow your mind to expand and consume something beneficial for you. 

8. Stop picking up the wrong clues. 

No, some people are simply friendly and would approach you if you go missing; it doesn't necessarily mean that they like you back. Also, people can take care of you as friends without any other motive. 

Please, don't confuse their normal behavior with flirting. If your crush has said no, they are clear about their feelings and won't be dropping hints. 

9. Don't blame yourself.

Not everything that happens around you is your fault. While it's necessary to take responsibility for your actions, it's not always essential to self-sabotage yourself without a cause. 

We are ready to blame ourselves for every failed relationship without any valid reason. Stop yourself and ask, are you really to be accused? 

Sometimes, things simply don't work out; it's neither your fault nor your crush's. They simply don't find you compatible or attractive in their life bubble. Please note: their feelings are not universal, and neither are facts. So, don't take every criticism that's thrown at you seriously: different people, different opinions, and different qualities. 

Blaming yourself, your looks, appearance, fashion, education, personality, and monetary status will reduce your self-confidence and self-esteem. 

Before you go ahead and trash yourself, please know that you are beautiful and unique. Your values are priceless, and nobody has the right/should have the right to say otherwise. You should never devalue yourself; that's the first step to self-love (more ahead in the article)

On the other hand, work on yourself without blaming yourself. No one is born perfect; you get better with time and effort. So, put your effort into the right thing: 

10. Talk to your close friends or opt for therapy.

Don't let your heart weep with all the painful memories and emotions you carry within alone— let them all out. Confide in a friend you dearly trust, and they will understand. Even if they don't, they will hear you out and share the burden. 

friends comforting each other during tough times

Before you continue to unload your emotions, ask your friend if they are mentally ready to listen to your emotional baggage. If they genuinely want to help you out, let them know whether you simply want to vent, need their honest advice, or want them to make decisions for you. 

How to move on from someone you never dated

Getting over someone and moving on with life go simultaneously. Once you adhere to every do-s and don'ts, it's time that you focus on yourself as an individual. 

We may follow every hook and nook in the textbook and still miss our crush, and that's where self-care and self-love act out. Here's how to focus on yourself and blossom beautifully with or without a crush/partner. 

1. Learn to love yourself 

As mainstream as it may sound, "you cannot love others until you love yourself completely." You heal physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and socially when you love yourself. 

girl being happy learning how to love herself

Self-love teaches you how to accept yourself for who you are— it makes personal space for you where you can heal and cherish your scars and flaws. 

Once you start practicing self-love, you will naturally eliminate low confidence, low self-esteem, and self-doubt. You will acknowledge your qualities and positively accept what you are not good at. Naturally, self-love will substitute pessimistic thoughts into optimism, self-doubt into reassurance, and give birth to self-care. 

Practice self-love and self-care:

Apply makeup, dress nicely, and feel good about your body— let no one tell you what you should and shouldn't do. It's your body, and you know how to take care of it. 

Hygiene will yield positivity; everything around you feels fresh when you are clean. So, make bathing, brushing, and cleansing a daily requirement. 

Date yourself

Create an honest list of what you'd like in your partner, and let yourself not map down your crush. The truth is, we may deliberately try to avoid/ignore/accept our crush's major red flags or bad attributes when in love. 

Focus and ask your brain what you didn't like about your crush; it will help you move on from them and redesign your brain to find someone, not like your crush. 

Once you have created the list, become those things. Instead of wanting specific attributes/qualities in others— be the person you'd like your partner to be and date yourself. 

Bring back your lost self-confidence

Rejection from a crush is bound to deflate our self-confidence and self-esteem. We are forced to believe that we may not be good enough, and that's far from the truth; you are always more than enough. 

The more complex truth is, not everyone's going to like you, and that's quite alright. As long as you like yourself, that's all you need. Mind you, there will come people who would want nothing but to stay in your presence and love you unconditionally. You don't want the world to like you; you simply need to love yourself enough. 

Write it all down, as small and as big. Let it be a daily schedule of your life and an excellent reminder that you are exceptional in your own essence.

2. Open yourself to new relationships.

Get yourself on dating websites and meet new people; you are yet to find the love of your life— someone who makes you happy and loves you unconditionally. 

happy african American couple taking a picture together

Please, don't look for people similar to your crush. You deserve someone new and someone who doesn't remind you of your crush. If you don't like the concept of online dating websites, get yourself out in the bars. Dance your way and make a move; you never know who's waiting for you outside— take those chances. 

3. Focus on yourself— being single has its on charisma

If you are not ready for a new relationship just yet, focus that time on yourself— your goals, passion, studies, job, a new startup, traveling, etc. 

4. Respect their decision

They didn't reject you to hurt you or make you miserable; they simply didn't like you, and there was nothing they could have done to change that fact. So, instead of holding grudges for a person who literally didn't hurt you intentionally, respect their decision. 

Conclusion

It's never as easy as it sounds— we are bound to fall back in the same rut repeatedly. Your healing and the moving-on journey will take time. Even if you don't want to, I urge you to try and do everything written in this article. The storm will clear out one day, and you will enjoy the rain it brings along. Learning how to get over someone you never dated can be a difficult journey to be on.

However, if nothing changes; and your mental state worsens, please get professional help. Heartbreak can soon turn into anxiety and depression— which will hurt you physically, mentally, spiritually, and socially. Before the light dims out and is harder to sustain, choose professional help and therapy for yourself. 

Learning how to be friends with your ex can be a difficult thing to do.

Do you believe you can be friends with your ex? Don't worry; I won't interrogate you as your friends did! As controversial as it may sound, some failed relationships do flourish into long-lasting friendships. 

Is it possible for your previous relationship? Well, of course. If you have made up your mind— there's always a chance of friendship with your ex. However, circumstances & intention do matter when it comes to being friends with your ex. 

Being friends with someone who has hurt you in the past can be complicated— I advise you to take a bit more time to move on and let that lingering feeling of pain go away before you initiate anything. 

Similarly, if you still have romantic feelings toward your ex-partner, refrain from contacting them. Trust me; you don't want to go through the same emotions repeatedly. There was a reason why you guys broke up, and you should accept that reality. Being friends with them won't bring back the relationship. 

Now, friendship after a healthy or mutual breakup can be plausible. Relationships and breakups are complicated— nobody genuinely would want to go through a breakup, but sometimes it's necessary. 

Why do some people choose to be friends after a breakup?

Not every ex is comparable— some may be toxic, but there are always chances that the person you dated was genuine. Friendship with an ex takes a lot, but it can turn out to be the best bond for some. 

It's a controversial topic whether you want to be friends with your ex or not. But, if you've arrived here, I'm sure you want to keep in touch with your ex and don't want to lose a good friend.

This leads us to 'how you can be friends with your ex after a breakup and why it's not necessarily a bad thing!'

Is keeping friendship with your ex a wise idea?

It all depends on the circumstances. I mean, if the reason for your separation was highly upsetting, you should avoid maintaining any further bond.

However, if you are mature enough to accept what has happened and move on, you can continue it. 

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Everything happens for a reason, and I don't want you to get hung up on things that aren't the source of your happiness. So, make sure you fully know your choices before becoming friends with your ex-partner. 

Questions you should ask yourself before starting a new friendship with your ex

Let's get straight to the questions!

  1. Will you guys maintain the needed distance? That is, will you be able to restrain any physical touch or flirty interactions? 
  2. Will you accept them as a friend entirely?
  3. Can you guys create and be within the boundaries?
  4. How often can you guys talk and plan a meeting?
  5. Will you be okay when your ex tells you about their new partner?
  6. Did you move on from all the emotions and fondness for your ex?
  7. Will you cut off in the future if your new partner isn't comfortable with it?
  8. What will be your friend's reaction & how will you cope with it?
  9. Will you appreciate your friendship with your ex, or are you too attached to them that you don't want to lose them?
  10. Is your former partner respectful towards you in the past, or will they add worth to your life as a friend?

If any of these questions indicate that you/your ex-partner are still hung on the relationship— please stop! However, if you don't mind answering these questions and are ready for a new start— go for it! These 13 crucial steps will help you stay friends with your ex after a breakup without any toxicity. 

How to be friends with your Ex?

If you're okay with having a platonic relationship with your ex-partner, I've labeled some of the most significant points that will help you through this process and avoid getting into awkward situations.

1. Have an open conversation:

Well, the very first step is to discuss your mutual agreement and expectations from this friendship with your ex-partner. 

What do you guys want from each other? Be clear with your intentions, create a transparent opinion, and ask questions to each other to be more defined with your motives.

2. Build some boundaries with ex: 

"Boundaries? But we are not in a relationship or anything!"

Yeah, I know, but still, you need boundaries if you want to make this friendship work and if you don't want it to affect any of your new bonds. 

Be clear with the boundaries and decide: 

These questions will keep your friendship within limits and create a healthy environment for you & your partner.

3. Cut out the old habits and draw new patterns for friendship.

friends hanging out over a cup of coffee

Please note: Being friends with your ex isn't only possible by cutting down physical and sexual intimacy— you will also need to abide by a new routine for it to work. 

When I was in a relationship, my partner was always the add-on at every party or function. But as of now, things are different, so you should refrain from reliving the past. 

You may go for a coffee together or can join a get-together with old friends by coming concurrently. Don't stick to the same old habits— it will only take you back to the past, and that's never healthy. 

4. Constantly evaluate if you are okay with this arrangement.

As humans, our feelings change constantly. What may have started as a genuine friendship may throw you back into the same cycle of past heartbreak and suppressed emotions. Romantic feelings for your ex-partner (now a friend) may resurface, and things can get messy. 

These feelings may be an outcome of being too close to each other after the breakup and not necessarily a product of genuine love. So, it's necessary to check up on yourself and what you are feeling towards your ex-partner/friend. 

Take space if you cannot control your feelings, and don't make rash decisions. Don't forget; you broke up for a reason. This space will help you reevaluate your decision. 

5. Give space to each other: 

You and your partner are two different individuals; both of you will have different speeds at understanding and healing emotions. 

You may be ready for friendship, but your partner might still need time to deal with their emotions and vice versa. It's necessary to be on the same page while starting a new bond with your ex-partner. 

So, give each other the needed space & time. Only start when you are both ready willfully. 

6. Avoid dinner and prefer coffee: 

I advise you not to opt for dinner because it somehow stimulates intimacy. Instead, go over for a coffee break or a casual brunch. 

Dinner together may lead you to ride back to all those exotic date nights that you and your partner shared in the past. Reminiscing the past that you wish to let go of will affect your newly-found friendship bond and other relations (like new romantic interests). 

Also, avoid going to places you used to go most while in a relationship.

7. Praise but don't flirt: 

If you meet your ex and they stun you with their new changes, compliment them genuinely but don't flirt. There is nothing wrong with admiring someone for their attributes, and you can always marvel at someone without having any romantic interest in them whatsoever. 

couple out enjoying their day laughing

For example, praise them like you'd compliment any other of your friends. 

Remember to be very disciplined with your thoughts. There is a difference between adoring and flirting, and you should not be a cheesy freak in front of them.

8. Don't go back to the past: 

Well, you guys fell apart, and it all happened for good. Please remember that previous fights and disputes should not drive this new friendship. "What's in the past should remain in the past." You cannot make a new relationship blossom on the remnants of grudges. 

9. Don't address them as your ex: 

Do you still have their phone number saved as 'baby,' 'pumpkin,' or any other form of endearment? It's time that you change that. 

Don't consider or introduce them as your ex if you don't want this new friendship to be a roller coaster ride. Instead, respect your ex-partner/ as an individual human and your new friend. 

Try to learn about them again! I know you guys were in a relationship and know a lot about each other— but after a breakup, 

So, it's always good to look for something new and better than to hold onto their previous personality. The truth is, your ex-partner has changed (probably for good), and so have you! Cherish that part of your new friendship. 

10. Prioritize yourself:

You may have made a lot of sacrifices in your relationship with your ex. But now, you are no longer in a cage of each other's emotions. You can do whatever you like, and the same goes for your partner. Of course, avoid hurting them emotionally or physically, but be your OWN individual without their input. 

11. Don't expect them to behave like your partner: 

Please remember, your ex-partner/friend now has their own life to deal with, which may include their family, friends, and even new partners. So, restrain yourself from calling/needing them every hour— you need to be strong to handle things on your own.

12. Regard them as friends & not friends-with-benefits: 

This is a big 'No!' Being friends-with-benefits with your ex will create messy issues. Inevitably, you will be thrown into the same set of emotions and conflicts. 

couple having an intimate moment in the dark

Being friends with benefits doesn't offer you commitment or even genuine friendship. If you're not over your ex-partner just yet, you will get envious of their new partner and may ruin your own mental health. 

Be genuine with your friendship, if that is what you want! 

13. Be confident with your decision: 

Well, not many will agree with the option you have chosen, i.e., having a friendship with your ex. People will offer you their own opinion against this modern concept. But, if you and your ex-partner are comfortable, then it's best not to let others make decisions for you. 

Although "our" people always want the good for us, nobody knows what's best for you other than your own self. Explain your thoughts but don't justify yourself.

What boundaries should you set with your ex in a friendship?

1. Don't plan a duo hangout:  

Once you're both used to texting and calling, you can plan a get-together, but I highly urge you to invite other mutual friends, as well. It will make the situation lighter and more comfortable for both of you.

2. Encourage yourself to build new memories: 

I know you both have shared a lot of special and fun memories. But recalling them, again and again, will violate your present friendship. Forget mentioning the earlier stuff and start creating more remembrances and relish it.

3. Say ‘no’ to things you are not comfortable with. 

Be selfish to speak when you are not comfortable with the activity your former partner A.K.A friend is asking you to do.

4. Avoid physical intimacy: 

It can be tempting to have sex with your partner again, especially if you both were great in bed with each other. However, physical intimacy will ruin whatever friendship foundation you might have in mind. 

couple making out in the ocean

Relishing temporary desires may make you lose a very special friend. So, please think before you choose to throw it all away, and never forget that you both broke up for a reason.

It was final, and you shouldn't bend your ways to relive that past again. Let bygones be bygones. 

5. Don't carry the lousy past with you: 

The more you live in the present, the easier it is to travel into the future. The more baggage you carry from the past, the more suffocating "Right Now" will feel. Every relationship will have its ups and downs— it's damaging to bring that along with you in this newfound friendship. 

Reasons why people choose to be friends after a breakup

Everything evolves in a most accepting or debating way in this modern world. A trend of being friends after a breakup is getting highly popular. 

There are five major reasons why people may want to be connected even after a breakup:

  1. Ongoing affection: You still admire your ex-partner as an individual, if not as a lover. You value their existence in your life, and thus you choose their friendship, if not a romantic relationship. 
  2. Being parents: Many divorced parents don't want their children to go through separation anxiety and childhood traumas. So, they choose to stay friends even after a breakup/divorce. 
  3. Sharing resources: When you are business partners, you may let go of the difference and focus on the company.
  4. The same circle of friends: It's hard to go through a breakup but even harder to let go of your mutual friends. Some ex-partners may decide to stay in the same circle and continue friendship after a breakup to avoid losing friends. 
  5. You don't feel butterflies: You both didn't feel the romantic spark, compatibility, or attraction. So, it doesn't hurt to be friends. 

Takeaway

Scrutinize the situation, then consider whether or not your ex is valuable enough to go through such strong emotions and decisions. If they are toxic, please let them go! You didn't deserve a toxic partner, and you shouldn't deal with a toxic friend either. 

They will hinder your privacy, meddle in new relationships, criticize you and your choices, and will most certainly yield negativity. We are a comment away if you need us!

Ghosting after a serious relationship can be a hard one.

Ghosting is a term that I came to know a few years back, and probably you are familiar with it after your recent breakup. Some meanings are hard to accept, right?

Ghosting is a talkless method of breaking up with someone without any explanation or communication.

girl being disappointed in alone

The pain of being ghosted is unbearable. The individual who has been ghosted has to put in a lot of effort. It breaks the heart, but it also disturbs the foundation of one's confidence and faith in others.

It's even more depressing than your lover admitting they don't feel the same way about you. You deserve a lot more than a partner who abandoned you like this.

Despite the pain, it's better to be single than in a relationship that doesn't appreciate your love. Moving on is the most difficult part of a breakup; it's even more depressing when you don't receive closure. 

What ghosting looks up close? It was painful, but the journey was empowering!

I was in a perfect relationship (at least that's what I thought). It's been almost five years. We overcame hurdles and planned to go and enjoy the carnival. We spent the whole day— enjoying the rides, food, and taking pictures. 

When I reached home, I texted him with kisses and texts describing how much I enjoyed this day with him. However, he was thinking about something else entirely.

My thumb tapped the buttons to send him an "I Love You." However, his reply was unacceptable & appeared on the screen painfully. "Bye!" he exclaimed, "I don't want to be with you!" 

I was taken aback, and I tried calling and texting him. Soon after, I couldn't reach him and couldn't see his profile picture— it was difficult to swallow, but he blocked me from social media accounts. After a few days, I discovered he had been dating someone else for a month.

I was utterly destroyed! I dug into every nook and cranny of my relationship, figuring out what went wrong. Then I realized, "he, he Went Wrong!"

That's how I came across the term ghosting; it was heart-breaking and deprived of closure. 

Nonetheless, I wanted to move on and find someone I deserved, and so that's what I did! You deserve someone who loves you unconditionally, respects you, and worships you. I'm here to tell you not to settle for anything less. 

10 reasons why people choose ghosting as a means of breakup:

Why do people choose to ghost to end a relationship?

It's difficult to see someone we love suddenly disappear without explanation when we're addicted to them! We become emotionally and psychologically deafening and numb.

girl being disappointed

We've all been ghosted by someone in our lives, whether it was the "love of our lives," a friend, or coworkers. We're left with nothing but a giant question mark on our minds. Why? What did they think when they ghosted? At the very least, they can explain themselves! Of course, you deserve an explanation. 

Various researches have provided the reasons for ghosting. Here are the major causes why people choose ghosting rather than facing the breakup:

1. They Didn't feel the same way: 

Yes! You read it right. Hey, stop thinking bad about yourself; it's them who changed. They may have a change of heart or don't feel for you the same way they did a few months back.  

This might have happened because of the fights you both had that were glued to your ex-partner's head, or maybe the reason is their surroundings. Stop! Don't plan to punch their friends. Accept their change of heart, accept the closure-less breakup, and focus on yourself. 

2. Toxicity might be the reason: 

Sometimes, people prefer ghosting because they find the relationship or bond unsafe. There might be some habits of yours that make them furious or dangerous. 

They might give you hints, too! And now, you are being ghosted. Individuals may feel the need to ghost as the only action to save themselves from blowups.

3. Dating Apps: 

You are quite familiar with those! No? Everything comes with an adverse effect, and so does social media. Dating has become easy, and now you can find your compatible partner through these apps. It also makes it easy for the people who believe in casual flings. 

girl looking at her phone

A relationship born from online dating apps has a higher chance of ghosting breakups because it's easier to dismiss whatsoever communication easily.

4. Dodging the Confrontation: 

Sometimes, your partner, I mean, the ex-partner, chooses to avoid rather than meet you face-to-face. All they want is to avoid facing their partner's broken emotion, so they opt to ghost. 

This doesn't mean they still have a soft spot for you, but instead, they just want to save themselves from your reactions.

5. For the sake of themselves: 

Some people choose to ghost to save themselves from getting hurt. Instead of facing fights that may turn aggressive or result in disturbing behavior, individuals force themselves to disconnect from you completely without any reason. 

If you are an aggressive or overly emotional person, use this time to reflect on your anger and the fact that others would rather choose to ghost than talk to you. 

You have the time to look towards the flaws so that your future relationship can become better.

6. They didn't see the future together: 

Sometimes, good things tend to swivel badly. Let me tell you— People who believe in soulmates and fairy tales are more likely to end a relationship rather abruptly if they don't see the potential of togetherness in the future. 

They are so much in that fantasy that they prefer to ghost their partner.

7. Anxious and Avoidant Attachment: 

As per the famous attachment theory of John Bowlby— The one with the anxious attachment carries a feeling of insecurity. On the other hand, avoidant attachment leads to the uncomfortable nature of closeness. 

These troublesome psychological traits lead one to choose to ghost. For them, it is a better escape option.

8. Technology as a curse: 

We have already discussed how dating apps can make it easy to choose a new partner quickly. But, technology has a unique exception too. 

This technology simplifies breaking up merely by a single touch. Individuals can simply choose to block their partner on all social platforms and calls instead of confronting them. Though this is a convenient way, it's still very unfair.

9. Other Issues: 

Sometimes, explanations can be hard. Suppose your reason for this sudden breakup is a family issue, workload, depression, or accidents that you cannot explain through words. In that case, chances are that you would choose to ghost rather than pour to your heart's content.

Thus one chooses to completely avoid their partner. To not engage in any explanations or issues, they may as well decide to ghost you.

10. A loss of attraction or confused feelings: 

These days, everyone wants a shoulder to cry on— they want to pour their heart out to grieve their horrible breakup or severe trauma. To escape the pain, some individuals may rashly get intimate with the one who gave them a shoulder to cry on. Once their pain evacuates, their feelings may change. 

There comes a time when the person may not want that shoulder because they have completely healed and know what they want ahead in their life. Thus, some people prefer ghosting.

What to do when someone ghosts you?

Whatever may be the cause behind your breakup (whether it was continuous bickering, fights, or disagreements), you deserve an explanation for the breakup. 

Being ghosted is harder than a breakup. Here are some ways to get you back fully:

1. Have a Talk: 

The simplest yet most effective way is to talk to someone— It can be your friend or family members. We avoid talking to anyone when dealing with heartbreaks, but you need someone to talk to. 

two men by the ocean having a conversation

Let out what you are carrying within you, my friend. If you are not feeling comfortable with your friends or family, just talk with a professional. Surely, it will lower your burden to a great extent.

2. It's Not You, It's Them: 

It's harder to accept heartbreaks from individuals who you blindly trust.

When we experience someone close shattering our trust, we ask questions and create self-doubt for ourselves. 

Stop wasting your time. They did the wrong thing; it's not you, it's them! If you keep questioning yourself, you won't find the answer to what you wanted from them. 

Instead, ask questions about what you like to do but didn't do for a long time because of your partner and start enjoying that.

3. Be grateful for dodging the bullets: 

The best thing your ex did for you is to let you be free from them. Yes! Be thankful for that. Just think logically, if it was the right person, would they leave you this way? 

All they cared about was their rash feelings and not you! Trust me, you just dodged a bullet. Who wants to live with a person who can't stand strong and committed. 

You have been saved from a bad relationship. You deserve someone who appreciates your feelings, your time, and You.

4. Let Karma take care of them: 

I know you are furious with your ex-boyfriend or girlfriend. But don't hold any grudges or think of taking revenge. 

This will only make everything worse, and you will regret it afterward. Forgiving and forgetting also initiates the process of moving on faster. So, focus on yourself.

5. Don't fall short on expectation: 

I know it's really hard to overcome the fact that someone you deeply loved just left you to pieces. Ghosting is a type of cheating that your ex-partner chose willfully. 

I know you are probably doubting yourselves and will dig deep to find your own mistakes behind the breakup. But, my friend, don't lose hope. You have been saved from the wrong person, and you are more than they deserve. Don't let down your self-esteem. I know you can do it. I know!

6. Embrace the rollercoaster of emotions: 

When I was ghosted from a five-year long-term relationship, I was numb, angry, disappointed, shameful, stunned, unworthy, embarrassed, and hell a lot. 

When I consumed myself to find the reason for her action, I got hurt. But when I accepted the breakup (albeit ghosting) and focused my energy on my betterment, I felt empowered. 

asian girl with dog

I grew stronger — physically, mentally, emotionally. Not only that, now I know what to expect from a person/relationship, and I handle the situations more positively.

7. Go for a trip with friends or try something new: 

Yes! Friends are one of the best therapies. Plan a trip with your friends and if not, ask them to have a meeting. You can also try things you loved doing but stopped because your partner didn't like it. It will fill your mind and soul with positivity and trigger the favorable aspects of life.

8. Drop the idea to talk to them again: 

I know you have many questions in your mind, and you are craving a lot to talk to your ex for the last time. You can bring them back, right? I tried that too. But I stopped. 

Your boyfriend or girlfriend just left you cowardly. They didn't act like mature people, and they didn't care about you. Do you think begging/calling/sad texting messages will bring them again? No! It will only break you down more. Invest that energy in yourself and spend that time with people who genuinely care for you.

9. Give yourself a second chance: 

I know it is hard to trust someone again. But not everyone's the same. I suggest you recover fully, then step out and start giving yourself a chance to find someone who can love you for who you are and bring out the best in you. 

Dating not only makes you feel special but also helps you to overcome bad things. Don't let your ex hold on to you still. You are amazing; you are special.

10. Accept what happened: 

For a long time, I imagined that she would come back one day and I would forgive her, and everything would fall into a good place. The truth is no one comes again, and even if they come, you shouldn't trust them again. 

Accept what has happened and focus on the people who are with you. I am your friend, and I don't want you to be with your ex again; you deserve better.

11. Embrace what you've learned from the past: 

We, humans, tend to always look at the negative side of every situation. Instead, learn from your past relationship. 

Learn the answers to these questions by reflecting on your past partners.

You have failed in a relationship because it isn't right for you! Ultimately your ex-partner has taught you not to fall for a person like them.

12. Don't let your emotions be your mind: 

I understand how badly it affects us when we counter this situation. We become emotionally weak and give in to our yearning heart desires despite the odds. 

Take a deep breath, understand and accept the position wisely. Don't make any wrong decisions that will only hurt you or your close ones.

Surely these ways will help you swim out from the unwanted waves driving you deep into self-doubt. 

Bonus tips & Quotes: 

Conclusion: A word from your friend!

It's more painful to be ghosted in a meaningful relationship than it is to be dumped. This circumstance is difficult to overcome.

After breaking up, I know you are looking for your faults too. Everyone does that, and it is really hard to digest the fact of what they did. Maybe you will have some flaws. But ghosting is not the right way. 

Don't hope that your partner will return or that you will be reunited. It will just take you down a rabbit hole of anguish and sadness. Rather, concentrate on yourself, be productive in achieving your objectives, and work for yourself.

The right one would never abandon you in whatever situation, and the wrong one does not deserve to be with you. The more you want them, the longer it will take for you to recover. Instead, spend time with your close ones and learn about yourself.

Allow yourself a second opportunity because not everyone will be the same. Deep down, you know what you want in a relationship or from a person. Don't let the leap of faith pass you by.

You are more capable than you believe. Sometimes horrible things happen to good people to understand what God has in store.

Remember That!